Why Men Find Strong Dominant Women Sexy

Why men find strong women sexy

Welcome to my first blog post on why men find strong women sexy. What an exciting post it is! It wouldn’t be like me, if I didn’t live life by the edge and touch on a controversial subject “Muscle Worshipers and Female Wrestling Fans” to start. Culprits you know who you are!

What is the definition of a strong women?

A strong woman refers to either a woman performing feats of strength in a show or circus, or a woman who competes in strength athletics. Traditionally, strong women have had a special appeal, as women involved in demonstrated feats of strength were exceptions. Wikipedia

I myself am a strong women who is not afraid to use a barbell, however, I would not class myself as a bodybuilder. Far from it… I am aware that I have a more muscular frame than the so-called “norm” of society however, but who likes normal. And with this perception of muscularity comes strength. The amount of sheer emails I receive day by day by men who are amazed at my physique or muscles demonstrate this.

They often read like “what size are you biceps?” Never mind outlaying what they would actually like me to do to them…Scissoring, Smothering to the point of KO or even Arm Wrestling. Jeeze what guy on earth wouldn’t want to wrestle Ronda Rousey though? Just kidding, she’s a beast!

Men have a submissive side

The majority of men I met, well, 99 percent of them want to be my weakling, submissive, or rather bitch…So what is it has you men hypnotized by us amazon girls?

I will admit before putting my pen to paper, I did troll through the internet hoping to find an answer, I cant say it was easy and in fact most forums tabooed the whole thing writing men off attracted to female bodybuilders or muscular women as confused about their sexuality or rather Homosexual. Who was I to know? LOL I do not think this is the case however…

Below, I lay out three resounding factors I believe to be why men love us strong, muscular alpha females and the feeling of being over empowered.

Why men find strong women sexy


As I mentioned earlier, 99 percent of the men I receive enquiries from secretly desire to be overpowered and dominated in the presence of a strong amazon women, yet still feel safe in our submission. Often I ask, why these grown men want to roll around on the mats with me and let me pin them down or squeeze them as hard as I can with my thighs to the point it crushes every bone in their body. Further, they do not have to be beaten into this submission and will openly admit they want to lose badly or feel weak in my presence before we even meet.

I believe the reason for there willingness to submit is CONNECTION. The time I spend smothering my ass in their face, filling their lungs to max capacity, to the point they cannot breathe is because I have control. I control when they can gasp for air. I control when they breathe. It is within these select moments you receive an unbelievable feeling of connection to me.


Yes guys you read that correct! It may seem to you that your desire to be at my whim is to make me feel dominant, strong and incredibly turned on by it without you being in the spotlight or receiving attention, but this is exactly what you are doing. Placing yourself in the SPOTLIGHT and settling for NEGATIVE ATTENTION! Sadistic I know but, I believe you are the kind of men who really want you us women to tease and deny you your alpha male role by practicing our power and dominance over you. This is what you crave and essentially what you lure us alpha females into exercising by making us think we actually are superior.


It has always been the social norm of society that men should be the “alpha male, breadwinner and decision maker of the family”, for some this can prove over bearing. How are men meant to know our expectations if we do not give order? Men that crave strong women I believe crave structure and finesse in life. They love having a sense of satisfaction to achieve and if they do not meet this, will take the punishment. I guess if we think about it, wouldn’t life be so much easier if we could make up for our consequences by having a set of rules to obey?

Role play is the chance to escape from the real world and utilize role reversal to break these norms. It gives us a chance to show fear, relief from cultural pressures, satisfaction and accomplishment from the tasks performed or punishment received.

Can you relate? Do you think I am right or wrong? Please feel free to comment below

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4 replies
  1. Scotty
    Scotty says:

    Hi Sara,

    Awesome post, just found your site from Sessiongirls.com so sorry to be posting on such an early one but it was the first one I read and it is a compelling one. I guess, for me, #1 is far and away the most important factor here. Having a woman dominate me brings me back to the first time I was ever interested in a girl and it was because she was chasing me around the playground at lunch in 2nd grade. That was our connection and I, as a young athlete playing 3 sports, could easily outrun her if I had wanted, but I didn’t want to. I wanted her to catch me and “let” her catch me often. Then, it was even more amazing because she was the same size as me (or even a little bigger) and almost as strong in that most kids at that age are of relatively similar strength kind of way. So, when she caught me, we wrestled and while I again “let” her win and put me in a choke hold or something, I am fairly certain she could have held her own even if I didn’t ler her win and she likely could have won outright about as often as not. Being dominated, then, takes me back in many ways to that experience and several similar ones with that “first girlfriend” if you want to call her that and as you say, provides a connection in the moment but also becomes part of this longer narrative of my life, which is rather amazing to me.

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi Scotty,

      Thank you very much for your kind comment, apologies I did not get writing back quicker. I hear many times of just what you have described above, true and partial. I always love to ask the wonderful array of guys i get to meet through session wrestling how on earth they got into it. And, I think for me, I am finding out more and more, just how much our childhood really can have an impact on our lives forever and who we become 🙂 It truly is fascinating! Here’s to those strong women who made our footprint on you guys hearts early in life.

      Many Thanks Again Scotty

      Sara xx

  2. Steve
    Steve says:

    I think you are spot on in a lot of this but only sexually. I cannot recall any childhood moment that triggered my particular fetish or female domination (in various forms) but I know I have liked it since I was at least 6 or 7.
    You are right in the attention and connection part. I was once pinned by my crush while wrestling, she cheated but the fact she tricked me made it even hotter. That being said I never felt closer to her than in that moment. And yes attention is a part I think. The fact you are so nice and willing to spend your time dominating me is hot! But I also think it is as much about you as us. I love your strength period but when it is focused on me it becomes even sexier.
    I will speak for myself in saying that this fetish does not override my natural male desires. For example I want to have a damsel in distress that I an ride in and rescue and be her strong man. I want a woman that I an protect and care for (not needy but you get the idea). I want to be her man! It’s not a tter of pride or reputation, I still want to make women feel like the beautiful beings they are whether alone or in front of the whole world.
    All that said I want her to rule the bedroom! I want a lady, just one that also happens to be warrior ?

    Please feel free to punish me if that post was too long

    • Sara
      Sara says:

      Thanks Steve for sharing you experience, it was nice to read, I think you not alone that many guys want to look after treasure there loved one, but let her take charge once in a while, I suppose its called looking for someone with strength of character. I wish you all the best in finding your own warrior princess.

      S x

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