Lift and Carry (Part 2)

Lift and carry

Today, In Lift and Carry Part 2, I am going to discuss the various lifts you LOVE! Giving a brief insight to the history & psychology behind each lift.

The Lifts

There are various kinds of popular lifts, of which everyone has their own found favorites. From Piggyback rides to shoulder rides, fireman’s lifts, rack positions, cradle carries and even pony or donkey carries. The list is endless…

What lifts can be performed however, obviously depends on the strength of the woman in question and weight of the man, to pull off each move successfully.

Many of the guys I have delivered lift and carry sessions to, have been some of the sweetest and kindest souls going. I always find it quite funny how they are very considerate and insist on me having short breaks and making sure I don’t hurt myself even though ironic it is them asking me to lift them ? Truth be known, I love it when I can amaze them with my strength and swoop them up into the air. Some guys have reversed the fun on me however, of which I’m not too sure if I agreed to be lift and carried about! I guess I got to know what it feels like, though I think I prefer my two feet on the ground.

Below I discuss the three, which I feel are most common:

The Piggy Back

After researching this lift, I was actually quite shocked to find its connection to that of Korean Culture and that in Korean films & cartoons, one of the things you will often notice in a number of scenes is that it is quite common to involve adults giving piggy-back rides to other adults.

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Drama Beans website examined the cultural meaning of these piggyback rides in Korean films and related it to having a romantic and perhaps sexual undertone. It also elaborated on how in Korea, there is also many references to ‘skinship” which is a made-up Korean-English word meaning “levels of physical intimacy, or more simply, touching”

To me piggybacks are playful and fun, and I can see how it is a simple gesture with romantic ideals behind it. It eliminates the need to say to someone directly you are caring, sweet and warm hearted underneath the rough exterior. The piggyback action does this all.

Some also argue that piggyback fetish’s are based on a trust and security element however the men I have meet seem to be quite content in life. When conducting sessions, what I personally have come to think is that it is about the connection that is most prevalent of which seems to be an ecstasy of entrapment in a sexually arousing power struggle. As although the person in question is being lifted can make suggestions to me on speed, lift and directions, once up there ultimately I am in control of the situation. End off- FACT! I can take you where I want, at whatever speed I want and most importantly put you down whenever I want (evil grins)?

Arguably the most famous piggy-back fetishist in the world is the American cartoonist Robert Crumb. In the documentary film of his life’s work (simply titled Crumb), it features Crumb getting piggyback rides from several women with powerful legs that were clearly substitutes for sex. In the film, one of Crumb’s ex-girlfriends claimed the cartoonist liked to receive piggy-backs in lieu of sex.

Fireman Lift

One of the most reoccurring arguments against women serving in combat we hear time and time again, is that they don’t have the upper body strength to carry a heavy male soldier out of combat. People often forget however that you don’t need much upper body strength to carry a guy out of combat. This will come as a surprise to certain people, but military is not trained to carry each other like babies and nor are fire women hence the name of this lift.

In fact, you can rescue your comrade without using your pecs and effectively sling a dude over your shoulder, without much effort! It is surprisingly easy. The only problem may be that the person being lifted, may not be too comfortable up their if they have a strong set of shoulders digging into their rib cage!

When researching the psychological element of this lift I could not find much to be honest, however for me personally I think it’s the fun factor of role reversal, going against the book and proving that women really can be strong enough to rescue you! I think it links to the heroine role play as discussed in my previous post and the excitement of being lured off to a land of mystery, afar and unknown beyond whether this even be the bedroom. Perhaps you guys can let me know why you love fireman’s lifts so much by commenting below.

Cradle Carry

Lift and carryThe cradle carry is the hardest lift to perform and also one the most controversial lifts with many outsiders linking it to the sexualisation of motherhood and history of being carried at birth.

Nobody links men carrying their wives through the threshold as tradition goes in a cradle carry to such however which is ludicrous… so to me cradle carries are role reversal at its best! Men get to feel safe in the arms of a strong and protective woman. Some however find being rather helpless in a woman’s arms very erotic. Whatever it may be getting to watch how impressive a woman’s shoulders and legs are in a mirror view if you should be so lucky definitely is a key contributing factor for most!

Lift and Carry in Real Life

No fetish can make you a submissive person. You might like to be dominated in the bedroom but that can simply be because you are such a dominant person in the rest of your life and vice versa. A fetish cannot define the rest of your life. And even within your sexual life the label submissive can often be far too much of a simplification. There are some submissive masochists and some dominant ones. The whole thing is a blend and no one label can describe your sexual feelings.

Just because you like muscular women doesn’t make you a weirdo and likewise because you enjoy a piggyback ride or cradle carry in the arm’s of a women doesn’t make you abnormal. You may even enjoy watching videos of hot girls carrying men and be a member of a particular site to gain access to unlimited content. It is only if the figures for your memberships are starting to run into the hundreds of dollars mark or your fetish is starting to take over your life, you may want to reassess things.

If you are looking for the perfect women to be in a relationship with, where she can help you fulfill your lift and carry desires, here are some suggestions I make below to help you on that mission:

  • Keep your weight in check, remember the lighter you are more chance of getting lifted. This goes for sessions too!
  • Do not admit your fetish to the girl on your first date, play it safe at first and once mutual trust is comfortable in the relationship, gently drop the hint and let her into your heart’s desires.
  • Date girls who are playful or okay with experimenting
  • Date girls who are a bit of a HEAVY weight… I’m not saying to date a fatty, but just someone who is well put together if you know what I mean ?
12 replies
  1. Mike
    Mike says:

    “Date girls who are a bit of a HEAVY weight… I’m not saying to date a fatty, but just someone who is well put together if you know what I mean.”
    Hm. Yes. But do you think that taller girls are better at l&c? Especially cradle carry.

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi Mike,

      Hi Mike, tall girls are usually good at cradle carry, however the taller you are the longer your back. This means when performing lift and carry it is important tall girls do not round there back it may exert pressure where they do not want it and cause injury or back problems later in life. Regardless of height if a girl is educated in how to lift properly there is not much difference as to whether shorter or taller girls are better at lift and carry. Bio mechanics does come into play when performing lifts however,including the height of the punter being lifted. I might just have to write a blog post on this! 🙂 The reality is when it comes down to the individual, there are many factors that determine whether one lifter has an advantage over another coming down to leg length, arm length, length of the torso i.e in other words anatomy. Each individual has their own unique anatomy, for example one individuals set up for the deadlift would not be the same as another lifter taking into account the differences in leg length, arm length and length off the torso. Thanks for your comment mike!

      Sara xx

  2. Sam_rock
    Sam_rock says:

    Hi Sara,
    First of all thanks a lot for this website which i just came to know.
    I have been a fan of Lift and Carry since my school days. I just happen to stumble into a clip on TV that showed a women carrying a MAN and since them i have been a fan.
    I am 35 now and have been married for 10 years. My wife has lifted me and carried me a lot of times in a cradle, piggyback and a front carry. Although (i think) that she doesnt know about me having a fetish she surely enjoyed those days. Now we have a 3 year old kid, which means that she has not lifted or carried me for about 4 years.

    I dont know whether to confess to her about my fetish or just leave it… She has always weighed more than me… although i am taller than her…. just wanted to share….

    Keep up your good work….

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi Sam,

      Thank you for your kind comment and apologize on my very long delay in reply! I have had family over visiting.

      I am glad to hear you are a fan of lift and carry and enjoyed many years of this with your wife. I hope you aren’t too Jealous now that she lifts your son/daughter most likely. If this is a fetish you have and have never shared this with her, I would say from the fact you have mentioned your wife has lifted you before you have nothing to lose opening up about this. The fact that you express you enjoyed many years of this and “fun” makes it seems to me that your wife enjoyed it just as much as you. Even if it is not a particular fetish of hers, this does not mean to say she does not experience other feelings such as recognition or feelings of accomplishment/praise from you for performing it 🙂 It is therefore a feel good factor for all as long as no risk to injury is there. You only live once, so maybe open up and who knows she might open up back to you about something you did not know. Don’t take it the wrong way if she dismisses the topic either however, as us women do this when we are afraid of ruining what we have “now” in the present phase. She will think it out and if remembers the fun times you mentioned, should come round it also 🙂

      I hope this helps and you enjoy the blog!

      S x

  3. Adil
    Adil says:

    Hi Sara,

    Nice to read you. i like the fact you were curious about that fetish 🙂

    my fetish is all about women strengh that why my fetish includes women muscle lift and carry and over strengh matter.

    for me my best lift and carry is about the lift that include the more strengh. The more strong is the girl and the more exciting lift she can do.

    I was lifted by several girls and in fact i was amazed several times.

    I have met a fatty girl who was 1.75m and 89kgs and i am a 1.85m and i was 76kgs that time.
    I know she would be able to lift but i was amazed by her strengh she lifted me like Nothing and was far stronger than me. the funny thing about it is that she didn t except to be able to do that.

    Another time an other girl she was 1.75m for 60kgs and i was 83kgs and she actually lifted in craddle carry i didn t expect her to be able to. She was a thin tall girls she didn t look muscular. I said her that i don t want to ask her to lift me coz to heavy for her but she said oh i can do it. was awsome and i was surprised.

    also met a curvy one 63 kgs she lifted me in shoulder sitting. first time i was lifted like that. great sensation.

    I am single and i don’t know i will say to my girl my fetish. it will dépends on her strengh 🙂 🙂 🙂

    PS: i saw your video on YouTube you look georgeous

    Kind regards!

    • sara
      sara says:


      Thank you for your kind comment and apologies on y delay in getting back due to tours. Strength is a funny thing and likewise shape/body composition to Lift and Carry and something i have been wanting to write on as short girls can be great at squats as they have less range of movement required, but taller people great for cradle carry as they do not have to lever as much and usually have longer limbs! I am glad that enjoy such strong women, no matter what shape and hope you will find someone to share your fetish with. I know many always think Lift and Carry can be weird, but it is a harmless fetish (if the girl is strong enough lol) and there is stranger things out there!

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment

      S x

  4. Scott
    Scott says:

    Hello Sara.
    First off let me just say I’m a big fan and your words speak so much to me. I am thankful you wrote a whole column on lift and carry. I’ve been into this fetish since I was about 12 or 13. I’m 27 now so I’ve been into it a while now and I am one of those guys who has been in the “lift and carry closet” if you would call it that. I don’t let it affect my life whatsoever but I do research and watch a ton of videos. Sadly, it has never happened to me. I am 5’10, 185lbs so that might be a big reason why. But even when I was in my 150’s I was always scared to bring it up to a woman. Especially with my favorite carry being both side and front straddle. Those are types of carries you can’t just play off as a joke. Any advise you have for me? I know that’s pretty broad but this is the first time I’ve come out about it, so pretty hard for me to voice. Keep up the wonderful work, and let me know if you’re ever out in the San Diego area! 🙂

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi Scott,

      I am glad to hear that you enjoyed my posts, lift and carry is a strange fetish and I can’t say that I wasn’t exactly baffled by it when I first started out at session wrestling. What I will say though, is that some of the sweetest guys I have meet through it have this fetish and such such admiration and consideration for you in sessions too. Yes they allow breaks and will even return the favor by lifting me. Such sessions I have come to realize are great fun and it is a completely harmless fetish. I don’t know if you are in a relationship or not and know how girls are always a nightmare at closing the doors on things. What I will say is that girls are always afraid of changing what they have in the now “present” and if you show how it won’t effect things and only probably better them, I am sure you stand a good chance to having some lift and carry fun. Perhaps a piggy back is always a good way to initiate such a topic lol

      Your weight however is a different matter, it really depends on how strong the girls are you date. Most sessions wrestler or at least the bodybuilders I would say would like you. I know I could lift you as I think you are around 13.2 stone which is actually OK and as you are tall the weight is dispersed differently. If you weighed the same and where shorter believe it or not, you would be harder to lift. It would be a good reason to keep the diet on check, even just a few pounds can make a difference to performing such moves as the cradle, as even though this is your favorite. It is the most hardest move, except for anything over the head.

      Thank you for stopping by and reading, it means a lot! And I will be in San Francisco and LOS Angeles in September hopefully!

      S x

  5. Bhushan
    Bhushan says:

    Hi Sara

    Thanks for sharing such knowledgeable info about lift and carry. I’m glad that you think about psychology behind lift carry. One thing I liked most is your thought that being submissive in lift carry does not mean that you are weirdo . Being l/c fan felt like some one really understood my emotions.

    I’m from India, so getting carried away by strong PROFESSIONAL woman like YOU is nearly impossible here. So as curiosity I hv one q/s, My weight is 52 kg n height is 157 cm, so I want to know which l/c style will be more easier for you to lift me?

    In future if I could make it to Europe, I will definitely book session with you…

    Kudos to your work

    • sara
      sara says:


      Thank you for your kind comment, being a fan of lift and carry certainly does not make you a weirdo, there is worse fetishes out there and if it does no harm to the girl there is no reason for it to be looked down on. It is a caring act of body to body contact. If you ever wish to book with me, you weight is certainly good for many different kind of holds. In fact you are actually quite light!

      Sara xx

  6. Rahul
    Rahul says:

    Hi Sara.. I read ur lift b carry blogs n really enjoyed reading ur comments.. this fetish really makes me submissive that am afraid to ask my girlfriend about it.. I admitted it to my ex girlfriend and she has lifted me in front straddles… but she made me feel weak by insulting me for this fetish.. now am afraid to tell my girlfriend about this fetish.. am 5’10” n weigh 70kgs and am slim built.. I wud love to book a session with you.. wish I get a chance to get lifted by you…

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi Rahul, thank you for the comment. A lot of guys feel the same way and find it difficult to express themselves. There is nothing wrong with having desires, fetishes and fantasy’s. Us girls have them to but it is less likely that we will share them. If the person you are with truly appreciates you she will understand and you will know that you have found the right person. We have to be accepting of each others fetishes or fantasy no matter how strange we initially find them. Years ago we lived in a very depressed society where everything was taboo, but now people are learning to express themselves more. Don’t be concerned you are normal and your desires should be excepted just as you are.

      Sara xx

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