jerk off instruction vs orgasm denial

I starting writing this article several weeks ago due to the number of requests that I was receiving for the fetish “Jerk Off Instruction” abbreviated to (JOI). While there are similarities between certain fetishes, I wanted to address the difference between Jerk off Instruction vs Orgasm Denial.

In case you’re wondering, the answer is YES, I do offer both fetishes in sessions. If I have peaked your interest, let’s get down to the official textbook meaning for each individual fetish.

Jerk off Instruction vs Orgasm Denial

Jerk Off Instruction : Giving someone instruction on how to jerk off, and or masturbate for pleasure.

Orgasm Denial : The act of not letting a man have an orgasm for a stipulated period time.

While each fetish has its own separate meaning, personally from my experience and requests from clients. Both kinks are closely related especially within the context of Femdom JOI.

Instructional Masterbation

Men will book a JOI session with a mistress/dominatrix requesting that she watch while instructing them on how to “Jerk Off”. The thrill and excitement of being watched (voyeurism) by a beautiful, strong, dominate women is, according to past clients, a mind-blowing experience.

Men are very much visual creatures, that’s one of the reasons men LOVE porn. Watching porn increases a hormone called Dopamine by as much as 200%, which is the key neurotransmitter involved in stimulating orgasms.

Next time your Jerking OFF, imagine a beautiful, half naked women instructing you “How To Jerk Off”. How would you feel?

Jerk Off Instruction Femdom Session 

1) I want you to take off all your clothes and show me your erection
2) DO NOT CUM until instructed to do so, I do not like to be dissapointed
3) Stroke your cock twisting the skin as you slide your hand up and down your cock
4) When I click my fingers, STOP jerking your cock immediately so I can watch as it pulsates
5) Begin Jerking your cock again and this time grab your balls and squeeze them hard
6) Now kneel down on all fours and keep jerking your cock while I watch your balls hang
7) DO NOT CUM Yet, wait for my command.
8) I’m going to put my finger in your ass and count to 10. DO NOT CUM till I reach ZERO


Above is a brief synopsis of what might happen in a JOI femdom session. Jerk Off Instruction is all about handing over control to another person, Mistress, Dominatrix or Partner. With regards to Jerk off instruction vs Orgasm Denial, I am sure your starting to see how one fetish compliments the other. Even though they are separate fetishes in their own right, both merge beautifully together.

Extended Orgasm Denial

Orgasm denial is a form of domination where a mistress controls the mans orgasm. You’re not allowed to orgasm until given permission to do so, we are not talking hours, but weeks or even months. Mistresses may use a chastity cage to ensure that no masterbation occurs and that their slave is completely under their control.

If I had to choose a preference between the two fetishes. I would opt for Jerk Off Instruction over Orgasm Denial. I enjoy dominating men, in the moment, watching them squirm, teasing and denying orgasm, but in the end I also enjoy mutual satisfaction.

As I mentioned earlier I do offer Orgsam Denial, but within the context of a booked session.

Small Penis Humiliation

Another fetish that is closely related to jerk off instruction is Small Penis Humiliation. Some men get off being ridiculed for the size of their cock. Combine SPH with JOI and you have two fetishes that combine, verbal humiliation, voyeurism and jerk off instruction.

I do offer a service “Rate My Penis” where you can purchase an Amazon Gift Voucher, then email me several images of your cock, both flaccid and erect for an overall score out of 10.

Jerk Off Instruction vs Orgasm Denial

What are your thoughts? Which fetish do you prefer? Have you experienced one or both of these fetishes? I would love to hear your thoughts. You can follow and comment on twitter @MissSaraLips. Interested in booking a JOI session, check out my latest tour dates as I may be coming to a city near you. If your based in the UK, I frequently travel to London and live a short distance from Belfast and Dublin.

Book a Jerk Off Instruction Session, with Sara Lips. Answering the questions below in your initial inquiry helps me to better understand you, the person. DEPOSITS ARE REQUIRED NO EXCEPTIONS!

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1) How many times can you cum in 60 mins
2) What size is your cock and can you maintain an erection
3) Do you enjoy verbal humiliation and trash talking
4) Do you have good orgasm control
5) BDSM turn ons and turn offs
6) Do you enjoy ballbusting or cock slapping
7) Does anal play heighten your orgasm

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