This week I am excited yet nervous as I embark on my first ever mixed wrestling tour in Europe, that is outside of the UK! Munich is the chosen destination. I am expecting the Germans to be quite strong and am looking forward to that! However, I guess it is things such as the language barrier I am apprehensive about. I will therefore be making sure to have my google translator handy, as my days of German tuition in high school have not done me much good. Only remembering the obscure words such as taschenrechnor German for calculator and dick meaning fat, if I remember right. As, we all used to laugh as immature school girls at that.

A few of the bookings I have for Munich, are with guys who want to experience there first ever session wrestling session. I see this as an honor and privilege to be chosen to share such special memories with.  From my experiences of delivering these, I thought it might be quite useful to come up with a few things you may find useful to consider before making heads way on the session of your dreams. These are the type of session, “type” of lady you wish to wrestle with and of course the standard practice in mixed wrestling ( because I hate to call thing rules, rules suck!)

Mixed Wrestling is Not Sex!

While a mixed wrestling session is fun and exciting, I would urge you not to expect the lady to engage in sex before, during or after. This is the norm in session wrestling for anyone who may be unsure or feel mislead. It is not to say that some ladies do not offer alternative services, but this is in the minority. The purpose of session wrestling is so you can experience a lady who is talented at wrestling and feel her incredible physique up close and personal. It often involves an element of control and in this case, usually involves you handing over power. By all means wrestling can be sensual and erotic as it is a body to body contact sport after all.

For those of you who are perhaps embarrassed that you may develop an “erection” during the rough and tumble. You will not be the only one and most ladies will have first hand experience with this, so don’t freight about that. Every lady has different standards, some may allow topless or nudity and others not. I therefore always say it is best to ask first than be let down. When emailing ask the lady what her do’s and dont’s are and if there is something that is a deal breaker for you, ask if she provides this, of course do it in a nice way and gentlemanly tone not arrogant. And, you will find most ladies will often appreciate your honesty.

Session type

The main categories of session wrestling are fantasy, semi-competitive and competitive. Fantasy is where the lady remains in control throughout the match and the man does not resist. In semi-competitive, you may offer resistance and even win a pin or two but over all the lady should still prevail ( depending on how hard you go at it.)  In competitive, both the man and the woman work hard against each other for pins and submissions,  however please note most ladies do not offer this due to the high risk of injury. I always prefer to call sessions semi competitive i.e good sport and light hearted fun where both competitors give resistance, but mutual respect remains to stop the match or tap out if it is felt too rough or someone is getting seriously hurt.

Who do I choose for my first session?

Sessions can also be made up of various elements depending on who you session with, which is especially good for first timers. I love to incorporate wrestling, lift and carry, arm wrestling and strength tests for first time sessions, gauging what the person enjoys most and taking the direction of the session from there… There are numerous ladies of great talent who offer mixed wrestling sessions. Some of which are bodybuilders and can combine muscle worship along with the over empowerment of session wrestling.

If you wish a fun session reminiscent of playful wrestling matches with young ladies like that of your college years, there are also beautiful women who specialise in just this sort of encounter. And for something more aggressive, a lady who is very large and or skilled in martial arts can take you in competitive session. There are also plenty of women who are dominatrixes that engage in mixed wrestling. They are accustomed to combining submission holds such as face sitting, slapping and other traditional domination techniques with wrestling.


It is important for people to respect each other. FACT! No matter what type of session you have chosen, nobody wishes to see how macho you are in a bad way. Injuring or beating up a woman is certainly not acceptable under any circumstances! If this should happen, you will find yourself blacklisted in the world of session wrestling very quickly. Remember, news travels fast!

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Respect is also important in the form of not time wasting. Most session wrestlers you will find ask for deposits, as this allows them to schedule their diary accordingly with space in between sessions, as well as showing commitment from both of you to the session taking place. In this case, it is therefore expected for you to pay the deposit. If ever in doubt check she is reputable or has a good reputation. If she is easily accessed on social platforms etc you will usually find she is, as she is open to exposure. After all reputation is everything in this game!

What you would like?

This is the most important part. If you are interested in an intense over empowerment, a dominatrix who is larger can often give you just the session you are thinking of. Some women also naturally gravitate towards or specialise in certain areas, which they soon become renowned for. Such as Amber Deluca for lift and carry overhead, Arekah Lox “The Bully” Roleplay and VeveLane for bondage wrestling. whatever you are considering, there is the ideal session wrestler for you!  Don’t be shy to try new things either, as by doing so, you will find just what exactly it is you like about mixed wrestling.

I don’t believe in playing the dom from the door as I think it is vital to discuss things and get the right balance before delving into role-play and fulfilling your session requests. For me, it is highly important that you feel safe, when handing over power to me in full control. This I believe is the key aspect between the submissive-domination aspect which many people forget. It is a connection full of electricity based and enthused on trust.

If you do wish for the girl to dominate you from the door however, arrange all your safe words, do’s, dont’s and limitations before the session takes place. This will allow for things to run smoothly, ensure you get everything you want and  prevent any awkwardness.

The Big Day

I’m not gonna lie to you! You will probably find yourself with sweaty palms and highly strung on the big day! Please remember, we are just normal people. This is what I tell all guys, so don’t let nerves get the better of you! However, I was always told that nerves are a good thing though as it is connected to the adrenaline rush. Personally I have found , it is often guys feel awkward because it is something weird they are doing, and perhaps not the social norm in their country.

Fear is a deterrent, do not let it stop you from taking up the chance to have a fab time with a gorgeous lady. Play it cool, sign up and show up! I can remember one of the guys who has now had three sessions with me, first ever encounter! He was that nervous and fidgety, I thought he was on drugs, trying to figure out how to get out of the situation. After ten minutes however it became apparent he was incredibly nervous, almost star struck in fact and once he realised how easy going and nice I was, he relaxed and had a very enjoyable session.

If you take all of these factors into consideration, you are set on your way to one mighty fine first session experience! Question is, who do you chose? If you would like to book a session with myself, please fill out the relevant info on my contact page.

12 replies
  1. Marcos
    Marcos says:

    Hi Sarah,

    I’ve been reading your articles since last year and I’d like to congratulate you for spending some time to write useful articles for us who likes everything related to wrestling sessions. I learnt a lot after reading this article about first time wrestling session. Thanks for sharing it.



    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi Marcos,

      Thank you so much for your kind comment and I am very glad to hear you have been enjoying the blog! I kind of actually just threw this piece together yesterday of a whim, as I have been thinking for a while that I would like to write more about topics also such as this and email correspondence etc. which I guess aren’t really discussed but does help both you and I a lot! So thank you for the feedback and likewise if you ever have any ideas of things you would want to see on it is welcomed!

      Sara x

  2. Jon
    Jon says:

    Hi Sara,
    In relation to your trip to Germany, I wouldn’t worry too much. Fluency, or at least proficiency, in English is the norm in Germany, rather than the exception.

    As for my own experience of a session, it was only one so far, but it was one of the most exciting, erotic ad exhilarating experiences of my life. My ideal preference is for enormous muscles and strength that is bordering on super-human, so my first session was with a powerlifter. Her strength was so insane, that it became obvious almost straight away that she could have killed me with the utmost of ease. There was something bizarrely erotic about knowing that I was hopelessly overpowered and that my safety and indeed my life, was entirely in the woman’s hands. I didn’t want her to seriously hurt me obviously, but I loved the fact that she could (Not that she would have) have and was making a conscious decision not to.

    I remember prior to that first session, being overwhelmed by catholic guilt. While I rejected religion at a very young age, our upbringing cuts to our core in a way we are often not conscious of. “What would the neighbours think?” was a huge part of my internal discourse around it. Now personally I am totally unequivocal in thinking this is perfectly natural and that there is nothing wrong with it. In fact my philosophy in life around these things is very much “Your Kink Is Not My Kink, But Your Kink Is OK” and I live and let live. However, we often do not apply the same standards to ourselves that we do to others. The fear of what X Y or Z would think of me if they knew I paid women to throw me around and physically dominate me is a huge concern for me, I know I shouldn’t worry about these things but it is in my nature.

    This brings me to the whole area of the attitude of the session wrestler herself. It may seem bizarre to some, but it is important to me that she likes me, or at least respects me. Now perhaps to some people that may seem needy, but it is an important factor for me. I have seen some documentaries and interviews with session wrestlers that leave me cold. They don’t even attempt to hide the contempt in which they hold us ‘schmoes’ , to use the common derogatory label. We’re just easy money to them, we’re creeps and we don’t matter. Well I’m sorry, but I’m not a creep and I do matter. I believe in treating the session wrestler with the courtesy and respect that all human beings are entitled to when going about their daily business. I value her safety, dignity, integrity and humanity and I expect the same in return. Just because I am paying hard earned money to her for activities in which there is a significant element of arousal involved for me, does not mean I see her as a piece of meat. Similarly, I don’t want her to think that because I am willing to pay money to be physically and verbally humiliated, that this is all there is to me. There are so many more strings to my bow. However, this is a way for me of exploring an important part of my identity. Attraction to female muscle and strength is still taboo and even within female muscle admirers, there are cliques and stereotypes. (I was asked if I was joking the other day on a female muscle forum when I suggested that one particularly enormous muscle woman who wouldn’t be considered classically beautiful was significantly more attractive than her smaller, ‘prettier’ girlfriend. Another guy subsequently suggested it meant I was actually gay.) So to have a safe, fun and non judgemental environment where we I can explore this is huge to me. It is clear from even a cursory glance at your website and from looking at your video log from London, that you are a very nice and respectful young woman who values your clients as more than mere ‘schmoes’ (either that or you are a fantastic actress. 🙂 ) and as strange as it may sound, this matters a lot to me.

    I’m no fool, I know the business end of this, sessions are not about getting a new girlfriend or a friend. However, what should happen at the ideal end of things is that both parties should come out of the session thinking “Well that was a lovely experience ad I’m glad to have met such a nice and interesting person.”. I’m an ordinary working class guy in a stable and secure, but not particularly well paid job. The financial outlay of a session is significant for me, so I can’t afford to do it very often. It is therefore of the utmost importance to me that the experience is special for me personally and indeed that I have given enough of a glimpse into my personality that if I do arrange a future session with the same woman that she looks forward to it at some level deeper than just the financial pay off.

    I’m not writing this for any type of brownie points or to say ‘look at me’. I am also aware that for some people, this just doesn’t go that deep and that is fine. As my mother always says “It’s all a matter of taste as the woman said when she kissed the cow”. I just thought this might serve as an interesting insight into what can go on internally for those of us who book sessions. Apologies for the length of the post again as you’ve probably guessed by now, I don’t really do concise. So I hope you have a strong cup of coffee to hand when reading this post. You might need it. 🙂

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi jon,

      Wow! that was a lengthy comment, however, thank-you 🙂 I totally get were you are coming from! When introduced to the session wrestling world I thought it was a load of rubbish. And being from Ireland, anything off the beaten track is just dismayed straight away! As I looked int it, I began to see how there was a huge love and following for this kind of thing and even forums such as saradas. Naturally being curious, I always love to know the “why” behind everything and I guess this is why I started to delve deeper and look into it. There will never be any clear or precise answer as to why everybody likes different things, but I love to ask those who come to session with me how they got into it and when they think it first started because I genuinely am interested and also by doing this I can figure what it is you really like by your personality and past experiences ha ha! It has even been simply from watching simple scenes in movies or tv that guys have come to like strong women and others due to the aesthetic look. Whatever it may be I think it is something that should be accepted, and as you say about accepting each others kink. Guys who have came to me for muscle worship have even spoke derogatory on lift and carry because they do not get it and see it as sexualising your mother which I find shocking and upsetting, I guess because I have meet lift and carry fans whoa re usually very sweet. Personally we will never know the reason for these things but should be open to learning and understanding, as it is only the the world can I am no expert, but want I do know I want my site to be a go to for all of the fetishes and give an inside to my character so you feel you know a better me, as there are still those who unfortunately can’t build up the courage to session for various reasons

      Sara x

  3. matt
    matt says:

    Hey Sara! I’ve seen you in videos and been aware of you for a while, but i just found your blog. It’s really refreshing to read a session wrestler discuss herself, and wrestling, and all the other stuff you talk about on here in such a friendly, open, unassuming way. Really glad to have stumbled on you site and read your thoughts in all these different posts. Best of luck. I missed you when you came through san francisco, but hopefully next time we’ll meet for a match when you come through!

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi Matt,

      Thank you very much for taking the time to comment and sorry I missed you in SF also. I am glad you enjoy my blog, I only wish I had more time to update it. I was always told to be good at something in life you must be passionate about it! I guess I love writing and the thrill of meeting new people, what has always fascinated me about the wrestling/muscle scene is that so many people are similar on certain levels from what thy enjoy, to how they got into it or their background. Of course each individual is different, but what I mean is many guys feel that they are alone out there, thinking they have weird fetishes, when in fact if only they knew they are far from it. I hope this helps them realize they are not alone. I hope to catch you next time I am in SF!

      S xx

  4. Madman
    Madman says:

    I love to be totally dominated by a woman. Use of whips or bondage equipment didn’t interest me because it should be the woman only that overwhelms me. She can twist my body like a rag doll at her will. She can brutalize me with at tight head scissors or pin me down until she decides to let me up

    She is totally in control , I am totally powerless. The transfer of power to a fantasy sadistic woman is exciting to me. Men are used to being the boss and it is a nice change to be totally subjected to a superior woman. If she taunts and trash talks while beating me. the sensation is further enhanced. Some may say that I’m crazy, but I don’t care. I know what I like and am willing to pay for it

    • sara
      sara says:

      Hi MadMan,

      Thanks for your comment. It is interesting what you write, as your insight reflects what I believe true session wrestling is all about. For many I believe they just want to unwind and often experience, what I would term muscle domination. The ultimate feeling of being dominated by raw power, strength or skill. For some this comes in the form of competitive/semi competitive and others fantasy, but one thing for sure is the guys want the women to come out on top! Why, is another topic, but maybe its goes back to our hunter gatherer days lol

      S x

  5. Raj
    Raj says:

    Sara do you ever become so much angry when wrestle a guy,,and make no mercy??
    I have seen your many videos!!
    I see that you beat in real!!
    do you ever unconscious any guy by reverse head scissors??

    • Sara
      Sara says:

      Hi Raj, I have in the past become enraged in a couple of sessions, due to the guy pushing the boundaries of what was agreed. When this happens, a warning is given, if the guy is still to rough or trying to grope me, the session is ended and he is asked to leave. I have knocked out guys in most scissor holds, not intentionally and nor do I condone it. S x

  6. Josh Delagrange
    Josh Delagrange says:

    I have been unable to session due to the fact I am unable to pay security deposit electronic.I don’t want to waste any one time I’ve been a long time fan and became slightly fearful.
    I would love to try but some have said I am just a time waster I have no experience in this and not into rough stuff.I’ve been a long time fan of mixed wrestlers I try to be respectful.
    Some have hurt my feelings.Take care Sara and stay amazing.

    • Sara
      Sara says:

      Hi Josh, try not to be offended, female wrestlers and dominatrixes receive a lot of emails daily. Along with the emails come time wasters. Deposits are what separates the time wasters from the serious guys who genuinely want to book. There many ways to make a deposit, you should try to find an alternative method. Speaking from experience I don’t take bookings without deposits. Good luck in the future S x


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