Today, In Lift and Carry Part 2, I am going to discuss the various lifts you LOVE! Giving a brief insight to the history & psychology behind each lift.

The Lifts

There are various kinds of popular lifts, of which everyone has their own found favorites. From Piggyback rides to shoulder rides, fireman’s lifts, rack positions, cradle carries and even pony or donkey carries. The list is endless…

What lifts can be performed however, obviously depends on the strength of the woman in question and weight of the man, to pull off each move successfully.

Many of the guys I have delivered lift and carry sessions to, have been some of the sweetest and kindest souls going. I always find it quite funny how they are very considerate and insist on me having short breaks and making sure I don’t hurt myself even though ironic it is them asking me to lift them ? Truth be known, I love it when I can amaze them with my strength and swoop them up into the air. Some guys have reversed the fun on me however, of which I’m not too sure if I agreed to be lift and carried about! I guess I got to know what it feels like, though I think I prefer my two feet on the ground.

Below I discuss the three, which I feel are most common:

The Piggy Back

After researching this lift, I was actually quite shocked to find its connection to that of Korean Culture and that in Korean films & cartoons, one of the things you will often notice in a number of scenes is that it is quite common to involve adults giving piggy-back rides to other adults.

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Drama Beans website examined the cultural meaning of these piggyback rides in Korean films and related it to having a romantic and perhaps sexual undertone. It also elaborated on how in Korea, there is also many references to ‘skinship” which is a made-up Korean-English word meaning “levels of physical intimacy, or more simply, touching”

To me piggybacks are playful and fun, and I can see how it is a simple gesture with romantic ideals behind it. It eliminates the need to say to someone directly you are caring, sweet and warm hearted underneath the rough exterior. The piggyback action does this all.

Some also argue that piggyback fetish’s are based on a trust and security element however the men I have meet seem to be quite content in life. When conducting sessions, what I personally have come to think is that it is about the connection that is most prevalent of which seems to be an ecstasy of entrapment in a sexually arousing power struggle. As although the person in question is being lifted can make suggestions to me on speed, lift and directions, once up there ultimately I am in control of the situation. End off- FACT! I can take you where I want, at whatever speed I want and most importantly put you down whenever I want (evil grins)?

Arguably the most famous piggy-back fetishist in the world is the American cartoonist Robert Crumb. In the documentary film of his life’s work (simply titled Crumb), it features Crumb getting piggyback rides from several women with powerful legs that were clearly substitutes for sex. In the film, one of Crumb’s ex-girlfriends claimed the cartoonist liked to receive piggy-backs in lieu of sex.

Fireman Lift

One of the most reoccurring arguments against women serving in combat we hear time and time again, is that they don’t have the upper body strength to carry a heavy male soldier out of combat. People often forget however that you don’t need much upper body strength to carry a guy out of combat. This will come as a surprise to certain people, but military is not trained to carry each other like babies and nor are fire women hence the name of this lift.

In fact, you can rescue your comrade without using your pecs and effectively sling a dude over your shoulder, without much effort! It is surprisingly easy. The only problem may be that the person being lifted, may not be too comfortable up their if they have a strong set of shoulders digging into their rib cage!

When researching the psychological element of this lift I could not find much to be honest, however for me personally I think it’s the fun factor of role reversal, going against the book and proving that women really can be strong enough to rescue you! I think it links to the heroine role play as discussed in my previous post and the excitement of being lured off to a land of mystery, afar and unknown beyond whether this even be the bedroom. Perhaps you guys can let me know why you love fireman’s lifts so much by commenting below.

Cradle Carry

Lift and carryThe cradle carry is the hardest lift to perform and also one the most controversial lifts with many outsiders linking it to the sexualisation of motherhood and history of being carried at birth.

Nobody links men carrying their wives through the threshold as tradition goes in a cradle carry to such however which is ludicrous… so to me cradle carries are role reversal at its best! Men get to feel safe in the arms of a strong and protective woman. Some however find being rather helpless in a woman’s arms very erotic. Whatever it may be getting to watch how impressive a woman’s shoulders and legs are in a mirror view if you should be so lucky definitely is a key contributing factor for most!

Lift and Carry in Real Life

No fetish can make you a submissive person. You might like to be dominated in the bedroom but that can simply be because you are such a dominant person in the rest of your life and vice versa. A fetish cannot define the rest of your life. And even within your sexual life the label submissive can often be far too much of a simplification. There are some submissive masochists and some dominant ones. The whole thing is a blend and no one label can describe your sexual feelings.

Just because you like muscular women doesn’t make you a weirdo and likewise because you enjoy a piggyback ride or cradle carry in the arm’s of a women doesn’t make you abnormal. You may even enjoy watching videos of hot girls carrying men and be a member of a particular site to gain access to unlimited content. It is only if the figures for your memberships are starting to run into the hundreds of dollars mark or your fetish is starting to take over your life, you may want to reassess things.

If you are looking for the perfect women to be in a relationship with, where she can help you fulfill your lift and carry desires, here are some suggestions I make below to help you on that mission:

  • Keep your weight in check, remember the lighter you are more chance of getting lifted. This goes for sessions too!
  • Do not admit your fetish to the girl on your first date, play it safe at first and once mutual trust is comfortable in the relationship, gently drop the hint and let her into your heart’s desires.
  • Date girls who are playful or okay with experimenting
  • Date girls who are a bit of a HEAVY weight… I’m not saying to date a fatty, but just someone who is well put together if you know what I mean ?

Today, Lift and Carry is in the spotlight. It is a topic, that I have been wanting to write about for ages and one which really sparks an interest. I really love being able to demonstrate my strength by lifting you guys and can even surprise myself at times with my strength! However, how this fetish, which may I add is very fun came about, is one which gets me thinking!

Unfortunately, at times fetishes can almost be impossible to get rid of. In fact I have even seen guys post on forums, asking how to get help for them. However for those of us, who choose to embrace them, we can get a huge amount of satisfaction from it – whatever it may be!

I believe fetishes are OK to play a part of our life, just as long as they don’t become addictive or begin to take over our lives… Being open helps lead to a more natural, relaxed and open state of mind after all!

Lift and Carry, is one such fetish which could be classed as bizarre, but is sure to sweep you of your feet, LITERALLY! It is listed by Buzzfeed, as one of the most unlikely fetishes out there.

Although this fetish is neither harmful nor extreme, many have never shared such desires with those close to them. Imagine being married and never having shared your secret with your wife? This may perhaps be you.

One guy has even remarked to me, that if he was to tell his family of his fetish for strong women. He imagines it would resemble the feeling of “coming out.” I suppose this is why so many guys have sessions with the like of girls from WB270 or Sessiongirls. Not only because we are strong enough to fulfill these fantasies, but because we deal with these fetishes on a daily basis. I would not say I have become desensitized to fetishes as many people presume, but everyone is different and I am learning to embrace, respect and help fulfill these fantasies as long as it is within my boundaries.

There is websites, videos, stories, forums and even porn however for Lift and Carry fans to live out there fantasies in private however. This helps cater for those, who are perhaps too embarrassed, shy or nervous to have a session. Below is a video I filmed showcasing as best I can the various types of lift and carry.

Lift and Carry : Defined

Lift and Carry is a fetish, where a guy is lifted most often by women; resulting in a sense of arousal or enjoyment from the movement. This is often the movement of being lifted, held, cradled and carried around or away to a place far and beyond. The often-termed “Amazonian woman” in question, does not necessarily need to be a bodybuilder or power lifter either. Just strong enough to carry the weight of a fully-grown man!

To many it is harmless fun, however for others it plays a major part of foreplay. Many outsiders I believe do not fully understand the fetish; I myself am still intrigued by it. What does strike me however is that quite a few men are quick to judge it. Often categorizing it as wrong, because it sexualizes cradling, something your mother would of done to you as a child. And therefore see it as sexualizing your mother or motherhood.

I have personally found however this not to be the case. I am no expert by any means, but I love to ask people where they got their fetish from or if there is a time in their life, when they can recall such an interest being sparked! The two most common answers to which I hear are,

  • CHILDHOOD

It does seem that childhood and impartially playground time has played a big part in helping ignite this fetish! Some guys have remarked to me about being small when growing up, but the majority of lift and carry fans whom have enjoyed a session with me, remark about being thrilled in school by a girl or girls who would pin them up against a wall, be able to pick them up by the shoulders in some cases, and enjoy chasing or being chased after the tall girls mostly in the playground.

  • ACCIDENT

I have also came across men, who have often come across their love for lift and carry by accident. This scenario often seems to have evolved around a relationship of either a sexual kind or even friendship. These guys seem to get a rush and sense of arousal from it. Often their discovery has involved a strong woman who has demonstrated her strength, picking up the guy in question at whim and making it look easy. This has made the guy aroused not even knowing that such a thing would do something for him! From teasing work colleagues to partners luring their men off to the bedroom department and it becoming part of their sex life from here on in. I have heard it all. Unfortunately these men, have fallen out of touch with the women in question and are forever in lure to find such a perfectly strong women again or perhaps are now married and may I add happily married to a women who just cannot carry them. The thrill of the past seems to stick with them and so this is a reason for their desire for sessions here and there to relive the feeling.

Lift and Carry: What’s it all about?

Lift and Carry, I believe to be related to the below feelings. Not everyone experiences each feeling, however I believe for the majority it is all about the feeling of…

LACK OF CONTROL

The feeling of being helpless while dominated by a powerful woman with no control.

DEMONSTRATION OF STRENGTH

This can even be the difference in size, perhaps enjoying the feeling of having a women struggle beneath your weight.

THE UNEXPECTED

Whether it involves being lifted air born in the wings of superior strength or carried in a women’s arm like a child. I suppose it is like asking yourself whether you are her pray or she is your protector.

TRUST

If you feel safe and secure in the arms of a woman, this can often be a refreshing feeling. The feeling of safety however equates to trust which is a factor to the feeling of love no matter what.

BODY TO BODY

Skinship is the rubbing of skins and is a mild playful method of foreplay. It can help stimulate and can cause arousal and I suppose release endorphin’s in an exciting and sexual way to some.

Lift and Carry: Role-plays

When taken at face value, there may not seem to be a great deal involved in this fetish; however, there are a number of scenarios that are often used in this fetish that involve different role plays and scenes to which I have come to realise. These are the three most common role-plays I have come across in lift and carry. You may notice how they relate to the feelings I have listed above.

Submitting

Many men are very particular about this fetish and like the idea of being scooped up, even perhaps against their own will into the arms of a woman and carried around easily because the woman is so much stronger than they are. I believe this leaves the male exposed in a submissive light to the lifter. Once up there, they will let me take control and do what I wish to them. They are very happy to let me take control.

The Heroine

Another scenario involving the lift and carry fetish, often involves the idea me a strong Amazonian goddess rescuing the man. Traditionally, it is the man who swoops in to save a maiden in distress and is the knight in shining armour. With this fetish however, the role is reversed and it is I who breaks the stereotype as a dominant women coming to rescue. Lifting the helpless male or damsel in distress and carrying him to safety. It allows the male to cede control of the situation and be saved.

Safe in the arms of…

Of course, the natural act of lift and carry is also a sensitive, caring and nurturing act that many men can actually crave. With the stress of 21st century living, work, family and many other things, the idea of giving up responsibility and being lifted and carried off to a safe and comforting place by a woman can be a big stress release and one not too many would complain about I think! You could argue that the guy in question may recall a time when he was younger and could be lifted and carried easily by a caring and nurturing woman like his mother. It may however have even been a friend or someone that would give them a piggyback in the playground or when they were tired. Whatever it is, I believe this one is linked to the feeling of companionship and knowing there is someone else there for you, comradeship.

Stay tuned for Part Two!

I hope you have enjoyed reading my post and could relate to some parts if you are an avid lift and carry fan! In Lift and Carry Part Two, I will discuss the psychological elements and history behind each lift. Any comments I would greatly welcome below; perhaps you could let me know how your fetish started!

 

Ok so your intrigued by the term muscle worship and wandering what the hell it is all about? Well, if you have a thing for hot, toned and athletic women and can think of nothing better than getting up close and personal with a female bodybuilder, look no further!

We have all seen the documentaries on geographical nation or the infamous Bodybuilding by Louis Theroux. These documentaries however are made in such a way, to be perceived in whatever light the producer wants. Often terming muscle worshipers as schmoos and making them out to be a little weird and subdued. Note: just because a man loves a Strong Alpha Female does not make them a weirdo! I have first hand experience after all ? In fact you guys are kind of normal, dare I say it and when I often ask as to how you got into muscle worship sessions. I am often told time and time again, about what a rare breed we are and impossible to find. I suppose if you think about it, not everyone’s wife has bulging biceps or can dead lift twice her body weight… So, this is how muscle worshiping behind closed doors has come about I guess. The real world lacks opportunities for you guys to get up close and personal with a muscular lady.

In this article, I as a session wrestler and provider of muscle worship will give my view point as to what I believe Muscle Worship is all about. Giving you an insight to the kind of clientele I meet and exactly what takes places within a session or at least mine ?

Muscle Worship: The Schmoo’s

What is surprising is that, there is no one size fits all in regards to age or protocol, for the kind of clientele that walks through the door. Age varying from twenty year old to even late sixties! I have noticed a trend with Lift and Carry fans however, in terms of how their fetish came about which I shall discuss in an upcoming post.

As far as Muscle Worshiper fans go , I have even meet gentlemen who came across their fetish by incident in life. For instance one guy, who shall remain unnamed, as confidentiality is very important, worked for a TV production company and developed his love for muscular women when filming a documentary on female bodybuilders. When producing the documentary he travelled to profound bodybuilding shows in Germany and America, finding him quite aroused by these women and their presence when on stage showing off their perfectly sculpted physiques. He thought to himself these women are actually quite hot and even started noticing himself finding his eyes drawn to certain body parts, like their shoulders when they were even clothed in a nice dress later that night at the after party. He has never looked back.

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There does appear to be the Amazonian fans, those that love tall strong women who display femininity yet alluring power. And the female bodybuilding fans, the bigger the better I call them! It is not to say that you cannot be a fan of both.

I am fairly new on the scene and still within my first year as a session wrestler provider, so please don’t kill me if I say something irrelevant in this article! What I have noticed is that some of you guys are really into it and when I say into it, I mean it! Asking for recent updates on the size of our biceps, those who have had a session with me a few times even noticing a difference in my physique from pictures to present or the last time they seen me. For instance letting me know if I have gotten bigger or am more developed in a certain area or perhaps more cut. Your eye for detail is actually applauds able and a positive attribute of course.

Muscle Worship: Uncut

Now, what happens in a muscle worship session is entirely up to the provider and must be respected. The industry has been given bad rap because it is feared that many of these women do it for the money aspect, as bodybuilding is not as lucrative as it once was. Unfortunately for pro bodybuilders, expensive gym memberships, special diets, supplements, personal training fees, travel costs and marketing among other expenses related to the business are all part of life. Everyone has got to make a living and if needs be, needs be…What I will say is that you will never make a good Muscle Goddess if you are doing it for the money only.

I love my fans and like to get inside their heads, it is not unknown for me to be nosy and ask questions when I meet people but I like to know what you want and what does it for you or how the hell you got into it. Perhaps it’s my background in Law and Journalism. I have always been told if you are to be good at something though, you must be passionate about it. So, as a passionate lady who loves nothing better than all aspects of fitness training, writing and understanding people’s minds – I believe I have the characteristics to make my sessions shine.

I have heard all too much from guys who say some ladies just flex a bit and ask guys to kiss here or touch there… and are just quite frank bored out half way though. Muscle worship sessions are sensual. This bit cannot be wrapped up in cotton wool nor hidden. Facts are facts and if it turns guys on, they get turned on by it… If you want to massage or kiss our bodies, it is at least our duty to respect you our fan and provide you with a fulfilling session and keeping your mind guessing even if this is just by teasing or talking.

What each woman offers is entirely up to her and everyone has their own flare, some do it in a skimpy bikini, others topless and some may even allow you to have a glance at their birthday suit.

Muscle WorshipThe weird part about muscle worship I guess for most people to get there heads around is that sexual intercourse, does not take place even though it is an erotic service. Activities such as posing, touching, caressing, rubbing and praising of our muscles in question instead are what happen in a session. For an outsider who is not aroused by female muscle they will never understand this, but as a muscle worshiper fan you know that it is worship in a more sensual and playful way and those who participate in sessions sharing this fetish will be aroused whatever way the fetish is made the vocal point, sexual intercourse or not… It’s the same difference as having a foot fetish, cross-dressing fetish or balloon fetish except female muscle.

This is not to say that some girls offer sexual intercourse or sexual extras such as happy endings for an additional fee or a favor to those regulars they have built up rapor with. If you want to get off on a good start though, respect any girl’s boundaries and never expect anything else. Otherwise you may find yourself deeply disappointed. The conditions of sessions are usually arranged beforehand and agreed upon by both parties prior to the meeting however to save embarrassment! No session provider should ever feel like they have to in order to stay “in business”, but I do believe in openness and honesty so if a happy ending is a deciding factor for you or that, it is better that you discuss this in an email beforehand or express your desires. Otherwise, whether you get the answer you wish to hear or not will remain unknown until the session.

I like to mix my muscle worship sessions up a bit and have found other things such as role playing, from muscle goddess to vampire slather, to even hot girlfriend turned nasty. Lift and carry or demonstrating my sense of strength in arm wrestling by getting to watch my biceps under tension, scissor holds, oiling up & sensual massage, ass worship, as well as me pinning you on a bed or talking about life in general. All work well when implemented in a fun, tasteful and sensual way to allow you guys to experience my muscles to the max and the girl of your wildest dreams!

LIVE OUT YOUR REAL FANTASY

Watching videos on the Internet or chatting with an FBB on herbiceps.com can only goes so far. Sometimes you need to experience the “real thing.” And muscle worship sessions are about as real as you can get unless you have a female bodybuilder girlfriend J If touching, caressing and pretending I am your goddess while singing verbal praise onto me and trying not to look like the kid in the candy shop, who ate all the candy. Come to hold, squeeze and pinch all my big beautiful muscles. Relax and enjoy yourself, even if you should only ever do it once in your lifetime.

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It’s nerve-wracking the first time, geese I remember the first time one of my favorite clients came to me. I thought he was off his head on drugs as he was that fidgety. Thoughts of how I could get him out of my apartment amicably where beginning to go through my head, until it became apparent he extremely nervous, dear love him! We sat and chatted for a while as a result and before he knew it his butterflies disappeared, as he realized I’m just a normal person. I always like to remind people this and that there is really no need to be nervous or kind of star struck. As the nerves went, it was amazing watching him come out of his shell and get into the swing of things once the adrenaline kicked in. Even making suggestions for lifts he wanted to experience. Now he even brings me chocolates ?

I hope you guys enjoyed my article on muscle worship and what it is all about, please feel free to comment and share your thoughts and experiences.

The heart is a muscle that pumps life-giving blood throughout our bodies. Today, I ask what it takes to satisfy the male heart. A touchy subject at times, but the heart has been used for thousands of years to describe the core of who we are, what we feel and the real us! Due to this predetermination, we often hear many question if some human beings even bear a heart. We have all have heard of the term heartless.

Lately I have been thinking about writing on the male heart, however how to approach it I was not sure. I had a brain wave today though and am feeling in the mood to write as I sit on my flight to Cork, to commence my Ireland tour.

male heartThe male heart is the central command for all thoughts, beliefs, desires, affections, conscience, convictions, emotions and motives. And, just like our physical heart, which has four chambers it needs to be consistently filled with life-giving blood and also has four emotional chambers that need to be filled.

These are validation, respect, loyalty, and trust. And I believe it could be argued that the attraction of submissive to dominate women is because there lives may at times lack this; and it is a way to act out these validations in real life! Whether this be to their mistress, lover, pro dome etc.

Satisfying the male heart REVEALED

Validate reflects value, worthiness and manliness.

Men want to be validated by their father. They often want their dad to bless them, approve them and value them for who they are. And not for what they do or don’t do… Personality over performance is vital in validation.

Men also want validation from their wives/ partners for when they use or shine their talents to be taken notice of. If only women breathed life into the man in their life by saying things like, “You did a great job” or “I was so impressed by x,y,z…” But as you know, us females can be hard to please! This is why I believe sometimes guys love to be submissive. As by being submissive, they get to selflessly seek out validation through acts to their desired dom.

Closely linked is also the feeling of being wanted. Yes, men naturally like sex, they are hunter gathers after all…but men also want to be wanted. Sex with an emotionally uninvolved or reluctant wife, who only accommodates her husband to keep him “satisfied,” will never be enough. A man needs to know that his wife wants and desires him. This again can be argued as a reason, as to why men LOVE domination. There is no better way of feeling wanted! The connection is real and like having someone say to you “you are the best ever” or giving you a high five! Fem- Dom role-plays can therefore create confidence building and spill over to a confident man in other areas of his life. A WIN-WIN for femdom role-play scenarios then J

Respect to judgments, decisions, and abilities.

Men need women to value and trust their opinions and decisions, even if they do prove to be wrong at times! I am sure if you were to ask a woman, the majority will have experienced being lost in a car, with a man at some stage in their life! Again, due to their stubbornness in not asking for directions! God, it is so annoying when they are wrong at times, but it does not mean for is to question every decision men make, That means not constantly questioning knowledge such as “Why do you say that?” I am a guilty culprit and do it all the time… it’s a female thing I guess. We are all so bloody patronizing at times. My naturally investigative side from journalism sometimes doesn’t help either lol

Respect should also be paid and remembered for abilities. They do not want to hear “You can’t fix that, I’ll call an expert.” No guy wants to be shot down before even given the chance. Domination eliminates this questioning as you are told what to do, there is no shooting down before trying- only during perhaps!

Loyalty

support at all times

I believe men want to know that you are on their side. A kick buddy and someone they know that if they fondle you, that you won’t penalize them, but will pick the ball up and run with him. Men want to know that you are with all the way, through the good and bad times, and that you’ve always got his back.

Trust

Trust him and show him he can always trust you

Trust is a funny thing in that it must be earned. If over a period of time, a husband has earned his wife’s trust, then she should fully trust him unless there is a breach of trust. When a women trusts the man in her life, she should always have confidence that he is who he says he is. This means you should be the real deal, honest, action worthy, faithful and always has her best interests at heart.

Back in the golden era of female bodybuilding, there was only one category you could compete in i.e. that of Bodybuilding! Today on the other hand, the categories are few and far between for physique competitors…

What is iconic however is that what started out as female bodybuilding is now declining in numbers and moving towards a culture of bikini, fitness and figure competing. John Romano in his article “The Death of Women’s Bodybuilding” puts the decline of Female Bodybuilding down to “Man Face.” I ask whether or not this is true or perhaps social standards the culprit of fitness competitions today?

While there is plenty of room to compete in whichever category you feel appropriate – bikini, figure, fitness, athletic, physique etc. There does seem to be a degree of sexism in regards to how jacked you can be if a lady.

The most potent example of this being the infamous drop of Ms. Olympia from bodybuilding altogether in 2015. As well as the “20 percent rule” by IFBB in 2005, which basically asked all female bodybuilders to tone it down a bit…

John Romano in his article, calls it “Sucked out, drawn in, sunken eyes, veins in their foreheads, sharply angled jawline, a bigger nose, and a general coarseness to their dark orange skin that makes an oil tanker’s mooring rope look silky — kinda the way their voices sound too.”

John Romano remarks are harsh. My own personal opinion however is that, today things have been taken to the extreme subsequently damaging bodybuilding for the sport it once was. This is not just in female bodybuilding but men’s also. The amount of categories you can choose from to compete in demonstrates this. Extremes are never a good thing, politics even tells us this.

Today, bodybuilding no longer resembles that of what it once was, in the days of Frank Zane and Arnold Schwarzenegger. Stuck in a culture of “the bigger the better” and the use of steroids in killer amounts to manipulate the body to new levels never seen before…Gone are the days of symmetry

FEMALE BODYBUILDING: FROM BODYBUILDING TO FITNESS COMPETITOR

Bodybuilding is not nor ever was meant to be a beauty contest but rather based on symmetry, muscle mass, definition and the ability to show of the body at its best. You could say a form of human art.

Competitors develop posing routines and hold these multiple times on stage against fellow competitors. While muscle size, shape, and symmetry are pivotal to winning, the posing routine is a vital element. You could have the best body on stage perhaps but miss out, as you are not able to show it off the best.

Finesse is therefore definitely needed and it is well know that some of the top bodybuilders out there used ballet teachers to help them structure transitions for in-between poses. As well as the effort that goes into composing posing routines, the physical demand should also be remembered. Athletes are also on stage dehydrated when breaking a sweat tensing up! There really should be appreciation for bodybuilders and their evolution from weightlifting, hard word and dedication to on stage. It certainly is a sport in its own right and one based on individual achievement

Concernedly, beauty however started to become the central issue though. As the women kept getting bigger the more apparent it became. The media even jumped on board. This is when terms such as “she looks like a man” starting hitting the headlines hence social norms set. Unfortunately, as a result the female bodybuilding division took brunt in decline of popularity due to this social ridicule.

Steroids have always been a touchy subject and likewise muscle on females. Society did not respond the right way and even though the men of the bodybuilding world where getting bigger also and so created the windy road to bikini, fitness and figure competing sport. The new socially accepted categories and a sad day for females of bodybuilding.

The twenty percent rule, which required all competitors to cut back muscle size, is a representation of this. A less muscular woman in their view would make a more acceptable female bodybuilder. There could be question as to whether the ask was sexist.

While performance enhancing drug use is prevalent in sports, when done by women it the extra complications are more prevalent. Men use them but are accepted, as it is their hormone. For women however it is tabooed. It is not even spoke of and could be argued one of the reasons for poor drug choices by women at times, due to bad advice by a male partner etc. perhaps. The main concern with steroids is appearance. Unfortunately with women, sometimes a boundary can be overstepped which cannot be taken back, leaving them with permanent vitalization side effects such as hair growth or a cracked voice. Everyone reacts different and sometimes the risk may not be worth it.

How strong the compound is determines the risk of side effect. Female bodybuilding should not however be looked down upon due to their use of steroids. Yes, it may be a more heavier use but it does not mean to say it is not used by bikini, fitness and figure competitors on a lower level. It is just more accepted because they aren’t as muscly with in your face side effects. The steroid use can even be brushed under the carpet if needs be…

FEMALE BODYBUILDING: FEMININITY AND SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE

female bodybuildingBodybuilding primarily survives on being connected to the fitness industry through supplement companies, exercise equipment, and magazine publishing. Sex sells and for me I believe this is why female bodybuilding has moved towards being “fit”, “toned” and “healthy. Society has not yet accepted muscular women and until they do it will never be openly promoted. A magazine will not sell or make profit from a non-social standard.

This is what I believe determines the future of female bodybuilding. Girls have shifted to competing in bikini, fitness and figure, as this is what is appealing and makes money. Supplement companies etc. will not want to sign you up unfortunately if you are too muscly, leaving female bodybuilding unappealing and perhaps not even an option to make a living at.

My only wish is that if bodybuilding could go back the era of 1970 when judging was based on the evolution of the body and immune to societal standards. Drug use would not be so excessive and more about good training and a healthy diet to lean out. The degree and pursuit of muscularity today has unfortunately has created a facial and physical image no longer appealing to enough of an audience to support- caused by the distorted looks from extremes.

Portraying women as sex objects continues to be more profitable to companies. Portraying women, as accomplished athletes does not make money. Beauty has different meanings to people and aesthetics have changed dramatically throughout the evolution of bodybuilding. Some prefer the larger muscular body; others prefer a moderate mid-range physique middleweight. Society has set the standard for a “toned” appearance.

The new fitness fad of “strong is the new skinny” may seem like it is accepting muscularity, by promoting women to participate in strength training. The reassurance that you will not become too muscly if you lift weights tells us the other…

Women with power are viewed as unfeminine or unattractive and unacceptable to the majority of society. Again politics even tells us this as it is harder for women to get in office, Sarah Payne, Margaret Thatcher and Hilary Clinton all prime examples.

The fact is a woman of a certain physical size will not be accepted by the mainstream. They could have the most pretty and full faces, but will be repudiated. In society there is a general consensus of what we find attractive and acceptable. It is these social standards that create what an audience of female bodybuilding is willing to support. A woman may be considered attractive, but because she conflicts with traditional gender roles not so.

The idea that a woman could challenge a man on a physical level is unsettling to some. Often also men who feel threatened by women’s advancement in society, may feel that the physical domain is the only area they have left. Female bodybuilders and women in sports challenge this.

FEMALE BODYBUILDING: THE FUTURE

Sadly, the general public never supported female bodybuilding and the fitness industry never supported women as athletes. Instead it is in a culture sex sells Instagram with its soft porn could even be argued to be the playboy of today. Until social standards are shook female bodybuilding will remain in a culture of bikini, fitness and figure competing.

As many of you already know, in my everyday life I prefer to be the “sweet, shy and submissive Sara”. Cruising through life in the back seat, I can certainly say I do not like to be in the spotlight and am a true introvert at heart. Then there is my other side My Alter Ego.

A strong and dominant alpha female first and foremost. You are probably wandering what I am trying to get at here but what I am trying to emphasize is that, there are times in our lives we may have to be someone we are not naturally inclined to be. Whether this be due to our job or a certain roleplay, but can still pretty damn good at it. My reason for this belief is due to a thing called alter egos.

My Alter Ego is called “Princess Pain”, I am sure you have heard me mention her by now. She is my inner wrestling dominatrix, meanie, badass Sara. She helps me become the character all you men dream of. In fact you will find most superstars have alter egos such as Beyoncé, Sasha Fierce, The Rock, and many great actors such as the late Robin Williams, who was a true introvert at heart.

An alter ego (Latin, “the other I”) is a second self, which is believed to be distinct from a person’s normal or original personality. A person who has an alter ego is said to lead a double life. Wikipedia

It is therefore not uncommon, but an ingenious way of transforming a person from who they are into who they need to be. Many people fall in love with the actors, athletes or persons alter ego, but do they ever really know the real person underneath.

So let me introduce you “Princess Pain” and what I vision her to look like in my head for any of you who wander what she may be like.

My Alter EgoShe is…

Dominant

With a serious stern look to the face, Princess Pain is one Wrestler you do not want to mess with.

Strong

Princess Pain loves to show off her strength, muscular and athletic physique by flexing and posing, as demonstrated by her cheeky bicep pose.

Sexy

Many people think that girls who lift become too muscular and masculine. I want to prove that you can be strong yet sexy, with curves in all the right places for any little black dress!

So. what are your thoughts on my Alter Ego “Princess Pain”?

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In this article, “Why are men attracted to Dominant Women” I am going to discuss MY thoughts as to why men are attracted to dominant women. I am not referring to wrestlers or strong women but the personality element of Domination.

All women are different through and through, however you men may beg to differ…perhaps a few scorned ones!

Generally speaking the types of women that exist are Submissive, Dominant and the Self Sufficient aka. I Don’t Give a Fuck. Characteristics may prevail from each type however they primarily will favor one type.

The reason you have found yourself on my site and reading this blog post, already demonstrates that you too are intrigued or perhaps thrilled by these women. So I hope I nail this on the head! Here it is…

“ Real relationships in real life with overly dominant women do not work! “

Alpha Female & Alpha Male = Failure

Mr. Nice Guy & Dominant Female = Misery and Monogamy

Now, I am not saying that this is entirely the case as every relationship is different but you get what I mean. You see dominant females are the female equivalent to needy alpha males who set the boundaries in life. A real and true dominant person in real life you see will often have a tendency to be bossy and know how to make life hell! Once in a relationship these women tend to start issuing orders, standards and the rules she expects you her man to follow. And boy, if these rules are not attained to does she get pissed!

The result of failure to follow these is DRAMA and we all know how much you guys love that, NOT! This sometimes resorts in the monogamy Mr. Nice Guy route of ”anything for an easy life”. Dominants will tend to be high- drama, high maintenance and inflict high stress levels on you!

By now, I have probably put you off dominants forever however they do have some positive traits.

Dominant Women are often,

Very Smart

What manipulators aren’t?

Confident

Strong people always allure sexual appeal, even the most unattractive women!

Addictive

It’s nature, because it’s something you want but can’t always have for your own sanity reasons!

So, what I am saying is that the men that often fall for fun, feminine Dominants do so only to get in return drama and rules. Which ultimately ends in the man running away as far as he bloody well can!

Domination is therefore a fantasy and one that will never go away because for men, who are natural born leaders. It is something they think they would perhaps like, but in reality don’t! No body enjoys being told what to do all the time… Fantasy Domination sessions are therefore here to stay to help vent that addiction. It also allows it to remain temporary by letting men live there life by there own rules and be dominated when they chose to be under veto!

Please feel free comment and share your opinion on the matter too, any insight is welcome

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It is often presumed that the submissive of society are weak, unable to make decisions for themselves and have to rely on others. But, are submissive men weak ?  The perception of being a male submissive is worse again, if only I can but udder the words “DOORMAT!” Admit it, we all have heard it too often…. However we know that for a relationship to survive, one person must be more dominant on some level.

Could you imagine what life would be like if both were submissive and tasks like – who chooses where you would like to go for coffee became a chore? Here, I address the issue of submissiveness and strength and voice my opinion on the matter.

Are Submissive Men Weak ?

Are submissive men weakBreaking the social Norm

Being submissive doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be “submissive” all of the time though. For instance, quite a lot of men who enjoy being submissive in sexual acts hold powerful jobs or roles in society, as well as those men who are physically strong also… Being submissive I feel can be that “VENT TO ESCAPE” from the real world of expectations and a way for strong men to feel REAL FEAR!

Sometimes we just want to be weak

Surely you can relate and say at one point in your life you have maybe thought, “ I want a break from parenting. I want a break from being the boss.” Which really translates to “I want a break from being strong.” Instead of leading, you would rather be led. You don’t want to have to always worry about the consequences of decisions or actions. And instead, you would just like to feel secure in a set of rules or instructions you know you have to follow. Less thinking, more doing and before you know it you are in cloud 9! Hello relation mode.

It helps us build trust

In order to act as a true submissive, this involves you to give up all of your control and hand it over to someone else. FULLY! Surely this deserves a metal, RIGHT? After all we don’t know what the hell this person is going to do to us never mind capable of. For instance, they may wish to kick you in the balls and any guy I ask says this is the worst feeling in the world!!! An applaud must be given though to the level of exposure both physically and emotionally one leaves themselves to. Especially those men who let me trample them, I’m surprised I don’t break their ribs, yet they LOVE IT! If that doesn’t take balls, I don’t know what does.

Submissiveness is generally temporary

You must understand, most men are not fully submissive. If they were a so-called “doormat” of society, it would make for a rather needy partner… Which despite their obedience a dominant wife would become bored of after a while. For this reason, I believe men enjoy their moments of weakness for they do not last long before the demands of the relationship or life, require us to step back into action and be strong again!

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Welcome to my first blog post on why men find strong women sexy. What an exciting post it is! It wouldn’t be like me, if I didn’t live life by the edge and touch on a controversial subject “Muscle Worshipers and Female Wrestling Fans” to start. Culprits you know who you are!

What is the definition of a strong women?

A strong woman refers to either a woman performing feats of strength in a show or circus, or a woman who competes in strength athletics. Traditionally, strong women have had a special appeal, as women involved in demonstrated feats of strength were exceptions. Wikipedia

I myself am a strong women who is not afraid to use a barbell, however, I would not class myself as a bodybuilder. Far from it… I am aware that I have a more muscular frame than the so-called “norm” of society however, but who likes normal. And with this perception of muscularity comes strength. The amount of sheer emails I receive day by day by men who are amazed at my physique or muscles demonstrate this.

They often read like “what size are you biceps?” Never mind outlaying what they would actually like me to do to them…Scissoring, Smothering to the point of KO or even Arm Wrestling. Jeeze what guy on earth wouldn’t want to wrestle Ronda Rousey though? Just kidding, she’s a beast!

Men have a submissive side

The majority of men I met, well, 99 percent of them want to be my weakling, submissive, or rather bitch…So what is it has you men hypnotized by us amazon girls?

I will admit before putting my pen to paper, I did troll through the internet hoping to find an answer, I cant say it was easy and in fact most forums tabooed the whole thing writing men off attracted to female bodybuilders or muscular women as confused about their sexuality or rather Homosexual. Who was I to know? LOL I do not think this is the case however…

Below, I lay out three resounding factors I believe to be why men love us strong, muscular alpha females and the feeling of being over empowered.

Why men find strong women sexy

Connection

As I mentioned earlier, 99 percent of the men I receive enquiries from secretly desire to be overpowered and dominated in the presence of a strong amazon women, yet still feel safe in our submission. Often I ask, why these grown men want to roll around on the mats with me and let me pin them down or squeeze them as hard as I can with my thighs to the point it crushes every bone in their body. Further, they do not have to be beaten into this submission and will openly admit they want to lose badly or feel weak in my presence before we even meet.

I believe the reason for there willingness to submit is CONNECTION. The time I spend smothering my ass in their face, filling their lungs to max capacity, to the point they cannot breathe is because I have control. I control when they can gasp for air. I control when they breathe. It is within these select moments you receive an unbelievable feeling of connection to me.

Attention

Yes guys you read that correct! It may seem to you that your desire to be at my whim is to make me feel dominant, strong and incredibly turned on by it without you being in the spotlight or receiving attention, but this is exactly what you are doing. Placing yourself in the SPOTLIGHT and settling for NEGATIVE ATTENTION! Sadistic I know but, I believe you are the kind of men who really want you us women to tease and deny you your alpha male role by practicing our power and dominance over you. This is what you crave and essentially what you lure us alpha females into exercising by making us think we actually are superior.

Recognition

It has always been the social norm of society that men should be the “alpha male, breadwinner and decision maker of the family”, for some this can prove over bearing. How are men meant to know our expectations if we do not give order? Men that crave strong women I believe crave structure and finesse in life. They love having a sense of satisfaction to achieve and if they do not meet this, will take the punishment. I guess if we think about it, wouldn’t life be so much easier if we could make up for our consequences by having a set of rules to obey?

Role play is the chance to escape from the real world and utilize role reversal to break these norms. It gives us a chance to show fear, relief from cultural pressures, satisfaction and accomplishment from the tasks performed or punishment received.

Can you relate? Do you think I am right or wrong? Please feel free to comment below

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