Women scissoring men, I like to compare to the act of an Anaconda slowing attacking it’s pray. Slowly enticing her victim’s body in deep between her thighs. Soon she will begin to trap her victim’s body between them, by tightening her clenched adductor muscles.

It will only then be a matter of time before, her pray will realize there is no room for escape! Only a slow malicious act will follow. As, she slowly begins to apply pressure, squeezing the victim’s body in question as if she is trying to strangle him, making it hard for him to breathe and further escape.

Mixed wrestling scissoring variations

Some of the most popular types of scissoring practiced are front head scissors, body scissors, reverse head scissors, and variations of the figure four position.

Often the first time many men have witnessed scissoring has been in the infamous Xenia Onatopp scene, in the James Bond movie Golden Eye. I have lost count of the amount of men, who would like to reenact this famous scene from the movies!

In the James bond movies, strong dominant but feminine females may I add, play a key role in the blockbusters and certainly do not shy away from the action either. Other confrontational scenes include the gypsy catfight in From Russia with Love and another scissor scene this time from Bambi and Thumper in Diamonds are Forever.

Girl head scissors

Women scissoring men and wrestling in the movies, has therefore been mainstream for a while. However maybe not have received the recognition it should have until now.

The sexual fetish scissoring

Mixed wrestling scissors make up a large category of pins in wrestling that are typically unused but popular among those that enjoy the sexually submissive element of grappling.

Why do men become aroused at the thought of being scissored between a women’s thighs? Well, it is thought that the act of squeezing itself can produce a sexual response on behalf of the receiver through feeling of helplessness, admiration or strength and complete submission toward the women scissoring them.

While it is possible for both men and women to enjoy scissor holds, it is typically the case that men are more on the receiving end than women. Perhaps, due to the higher percentage of submissive men thought to be within the BDSM scene. There is no reason however, that the scissor submission can’t be administered by a male to a female.

Revere head scissor

The position of the scissoring holds can vary depending on the desire of the person receiving them. While the scissor is typically practiced around the neck region, holds around the entire body of the submissive individual are not uncommon. Another very common scissor position is the reverse head scissor.

Reverse head scissors

All holds are usually administered with the receiver on their back and the giver on top of them.

In sessions, I have even had smaller guys ask me to scissor there body, to include their arms trapped by their side. This completely paralyzes the receiver, forever trapped within my body scissor hold.

Some receivers do seem to like to struggle while they are being held to help amplify their feeling of helplessness. It is funny to watch how hard it is for a guy to escape, from between my thighs during sessions. In fact, after putting all one’s strength into attempting to escape, a recurring pattern of one becoming extremely still seems to appear. The feeling of dismay as one gives up, letting me demonstrate how easy it is for me to keep them under my control.

I just love big muscular thighs

Muscle worship is also a common fetish associated with women scissoring men. Those who enjoy being at the receiving end of submission may find a lot of sexual pleasure through the admiration of strong dominant individuals. Due to the size and nature of the leg muscles, scissor holds can be incredibly difficult for individuals to break out of and the ultimate way to experience a leg fetish if you may have one!

Two types of Guy who adore scissoring sessions:

• The Pain Junkie
• Trapped Tony

The first guy is the kind of session guy, who will drain every last bit of energy out of you! Sessioning with Pain Junkies certainly makes for a good leg workout, as you will often find the harder you squeeze they will want MORE. It can be particularly frustrating if the guy doesn’t tap, obviously because he likes pain. However, what does this mean? Session girls will only crank it up until he does! Everybody must leave having tapped (evil grins).

Trapped Tony, is a completely different kind of session guy, he rather prefers a softer scissor session. He is a not a pain junkie and certainly does not like sharp snap scissoring. But instead, prefers if you keep him hanging around. I believe the reason these guys like a softer session is because they prefer the feeling of being trapped and a sheer loss of control, where the women can demonstrate who has the upper hand, but does not necessarily have to use her full power to do so.

It is usually also a more playful kind of style. Either that or these guys just simply want to keep their heads and ribs alive and functioning between my lethal thighs.

Why do men love scissoring?

A while ago, I did a poll on “why men love the feeling of women scissoring men?” The results where pretty close with 45% of guys saying they liked the power/strength aspect best. 38% liking the loss of control and lastly 17% having a leg fetish. Of course some guys said they liked all three. Greedy!
Here is what some guys had to say in response to my women scissoring men poll on twitter.

Manolo Enrique : Love being scissored…incredible how powerful these ladies are, especially when your trapped between their thighs.

Ben Moore : Being Absolutely dominated by someone very feminine. Definitely all three for me as its hard to separate.

Wrestler Dave : No longer being in control and being at a women’s mercy.

Eric Grappler : I love how a woman’s thighs feel on the sides of my neck, not a painful triangle choke, more of a playful trap and squeeze.

Mikey Wrestler : The feeling of slowly being squeezed into unconsciousness by a strong woman.

John Sloss : The thought of someone sexy and powerful like you in control with your beautiful legs and toned muscular body.

Thank you guys for reading this post, I hope you liked being able to get an insight as to why other guys love scissoring. If you would like to experience a private scissor session with me, please check out my tour page to see if I am coming to a city near you.

Being healthy selfish is a very important topic for all you naturally submissive/givers of the world. The word selfish is often associated with being self-centered, out for yourself, arrogant etc. Healthy selfish however, is more about setting boundaries with yourself and others, so don’t worry you will still be a nice person!

It is about making sure that your “cup” is being filled, and when it starts to run low, you have the ability to recognize it and refill it up.

Making time for yourself

I always pride myself in responding to any emails received as fast as I can, with a personal touch and keen interest. This winter however, I have been touring more than usual, meaning more emails and room for potential time wasters… As a result of a busier schedule, I have had less time for myself, training and inevitably have become run down & unwell with the cold. (Boohoo!)

This has caused me to reassess things. Tours will be planned in advance, with sufficient recovery breaks in between and not be so harsh on myself with correspondence. My aim will be to reply to all emails within 24hours, or by the end of the following day. Rather than replying at various points throughout the day.

I also have to make a “no favors” rule for anyone, as I have learnt, it seems, the more you give the more you get let down and it is only fair everyone is treated equally, right?

If you are the type of person that can easily say “no” to others with a healthy motivation behind it, congrats! However you’re thinking if only it was that easy and often find yourself more often than not wanting to make others happy and as a result feel emotionally overwhelmed and/or drained, you might just need a quick lesson in healthy selfish.

As I mentioned earlier we often hear the word “selfish” and automatically equate it with unpleasant behavior. The word itself has a per-existing negative connotation because the definition of selfish is as follows: chiefly concerned with one’s own interest.

You may be asking, why am I promoting this displeasing behavior?

How to be Healthy Selfish

There are some distinguishing qualities that separate someone from being “selfish” vs “healthy selfish”

– Motivation
– Confidence
– Consequences.

Let’s revisit the cup analogy. Imagine a nice full cup, I personally like to imagine that mine is full of a warm cup of breakfast tea, but pick whatever fluid best fits you.

Now because you’re such a kind soul, you enjoy sharing your tea…or what have you. You offer it up to your friends when they need comforting, your lover when they have needs, your children because someone has to take care of them, your boss when they don’t want to do their own job. Basically everyone is taking turns sipping at your cup, and when you have all of that to give, it’s super!!

Sometimes you have to say, enough is enough!

Now let’s say your significant other, boss or friends aren’t sipping from the cup, but rather taking shots from it as if they are on a bender at a nightclub. You find yourself in an uncomfortable position. Not wanting to rock the boat, or hurt anyone’s feelings so you allow them to keep taking. You find your cup is now very low. You’re exhausted, maybe you feel like a failure, maybe your angry and slightly resentful.

Don’t these people realize you are doing everything you can to quench their never-ending thirst?! No, not necessarily and sadly most people don’t realize this. Some people just downright don’t give a shit and will happily take advantage of your cup, and they’ll blame you when it’s empty. They are, dare we say *gasp* selfish?! Some of them, yes, but the worst reality is that they are right.

Why? Because, it’s your responsibility to tell people when you’re running low and don’t have much to give.

Time to be my kind of Selfish

The exciting part is you don’t have to be an asshole about it. You can simply say “no,” “not right now,” “unfortunately I can’t,” “I need some time for myself,” as well as a long list of other options. I was and still have the tendency to be a people pleaser, but I found the more people took, the less happy I was.
It is vital to be aware of the toxic people in your life. I’m not saying everyone is bad. Some are unaware, some have no idea that they are taking. People unfortunately, will prey on your kindness, like it’s a sport. This is a very disheartening experience.

Many clients who meet me as submissive and it often makes me wander if they find themselves hurt because they expect others to be nice, a little appreciative… etc. Having the expectation that someone will be nice to you in return, or be there for you is a set up. Not only to them, but also to yourself.

What I give, I expect to receive

I’m not saying don’t expect anything from anyone, but understand that kindness is a good deed, but reciprocation of a good deed makes it a job. Expect nothing from anyone. For when you receive something in return you will then be pleasantly surprised.

So what can we take away from healthy selfish?! It’s OK to say NO. The more you take time to fill up your own cup the more time you can give to others. When that cup is low, the quality of what you have to give will not be at it’s finest or coming from the best place. Don’t give all of yourself and then become disappointed or upset when it’s not returned. Learn how to set boundaries with people, and avoid being a doormat.

It’s incredibly empowering and this awareness and ability can change your relationships. Good and bad, will also make you feel more confident and help bring more positive people into your life.

Today, In Lift and Carry Part 2, I am going to discuss the various lifts you LOVE! Giving a brief insight to the history & psychology behind each lift.

The Lifts

There are various kinds of popular lifts, of which everyone has their own found favorites. From Piggyback rides to shoulder rides, fireman’s lifts, rack positions, cradle carries and even pony or donkey carries. The list is endless…

What lifts can be performed however, obviously depends on the strength of the woman in question and weight of the man, to pull off each move successfully.

Many of the guys I have delivered lift and carry sessions to, have been some of the sweetest and kindest souls going. I always find it quite funny how they are very considerate and insist on me having short breaks and making sure I don’t hurt myself even though ironic it is them asking me to lift them ? Truth be known, I love it when I can amaze them with my strength and swoop them up into the air. Some guys have reversed the fun on me however, of which I’m not too sure if I agreed to be lift and carried about! I guess I got to know what it feels like, though I think I prefer my two feet on the ground.

Below I discuss the three, which I feel are most common:

The Piggy Back

After researching this lift, I was actually quite shocked to find its connection to that of Korean Culture and that in Korean films & cartoons, one of the things you will often notice in a number of scenes is that it is quite common to involve adults giving piggy-back rides to other adults.

Drama Beans website examined the cultural meaning of these piggyback rides in Korean films and related it to having a romantic and perhaps sexual undertone. It also elaborated on how in Korea, there is also many references to ‘skinship” which is a made-up Korean-English word meaning “levels of physical intimacy, or more simply, touching”

To me piggybacks are playful and fun, and I can see how it is a simple gesture with romantic ideals behind it. It eliminates the need to say to someone directly you are caring, sweet and warm hearted underneath the rough exterior. The piggyback action does this all.

Some also argue that piggyback fetish’s are based on a trust and security element however the men I have meet seem to be quite content in life. When conducting sessions, what I personally have come to think is that it is about the connection that is most prevalent of which seems to be an ecstasy of entrapment in a sexually arousing power struggle. As although the person in question is being lifted can make suggestions to me on speed, lift and directions, once up there ultimately I am in control of the situation. End off- FACT! I can take you where I want, at whatever speed I want and most importantly put you down whenever I want (evil grins)?

Arguably the most famous piggy-back fetishist in the world is the American cartoonist Robert Crumb. In the documentary film of his life’s work (simply titled Crumb), it features Crumb getting piggyback rides from several women with powerful legs that were clearly substitutes for sex. In the film, one of Crumb’s ex-girlfriends claimed the cartoonist liked to receive piggy-backs in lieu of sex.

Fireman Lift

One of the most reoccurring arguments against women serving in combat we hear time and time again, is that they don’t have the upper body strength to carry a heavy male soldier out of combat. People often forget however that you don’t need much upper body strength to carry a guy out of combat. This will come as a surprise to certain people, but military is not trained to carry each other like babies and nor are fire women hence the name of this lift.

In fact, you can rescue your comrade without using your pecs and effectively sling a dude over your shoulder, without much effort! It is surprisingly easy. The only problem may be that the person being lifted, may not be too comfortable up their if they have a strong set of shoulders digging into their rib cage!

When researching the psychological element of this lift I could not find much to be honest, however for me personally I think it’s the fun factor of role reversal, going against the book and proving that women really can be strong enough to rescue you! I think it links to the heroine role play as discussed in my previous post and the excitement of being lured off to a land of mystery, afar and unknown beyond whether this even be the bedroom. Perhaps you guys can let me know why you love fireman’s lifts so much by commenting below.

Cradle Carry

The cradle carry is the hardest lift to perform and also one the most controversial lifts with many outsiders linking it to the sexualisation of motherhood and history of being carried at birth.

Nobody links men carrying their wives through the threshold as tradition goes in a cradle carry to such however which is ludicrous… so to me cradle carries are role reversal at its best! Men get to feel safe in the arms of a strong and protective woman. Some however find being rather helpless in a woman’s arms very erotic. Whatever it may be getting to watch how impressive a woman’s shoulders and legs are in a mirror view if you should be so lucky definitely is a key contributing factor for most!

Lift and Carry in Real Life

No fetish can make you a submissive person. You might like to be dominated in the bedroom but that can simply be because you are such a dominant person in the rest of your life and vice versa. A fetish cannot define the rest of your life. And even within your sexual life the label submissive can often be far too much of a simplification. There are some submissive masochists and some dominant ones. The whole thing is a blend and no one label can describe your sexual feelings.

Just because you like muscular women doesn’t make you a weirdo and likewise because you enjoy a piggyback ride or cradle carry in the arm’s of a women doesn’t make you abnormal. You may even enjoy watching videos of hot girls carrying men and be a member of a particular site to gain access to unlimited content. It is only if the figures for your memberships are starting to run into the hundreds of dollars mark or your fetish is starting to take over your life, you may want to reassess things.

If you are looking for the perfect women to be in a relationship with, where she can help you fulfill your lift and carry desires, here are some suggestions I make below to help you on that mission:

• Keep your weight in check, remember the lighter you are more chance of getting lifted. This goes for sessions too!
• Do not admit your fetish to the girl on your first date, play it safe at first and once mutual trust is comfortable in the relationship, gently drop the hint and let her into your heart’s desires.
• Date girls who are playful or okay with experimenting
• Date girls who are a bit of a HEAVY weight… I’m not saying to date a fatty, but just someone who is well put together if you know what I mean ?

Ok so your intrigued by the term muscle worship and wandering what the hell it is all about? Well, if you have a thing for hot, toned and athletic women and can think of nothing better than getting up close and personal with a female bodybuilder, look no further!

We have all seen the documentaries on geographical nation or the infamous Bodybuilding by Louis Theroux. These documentaries however are made in such a way, to be perceived in whatever light the producer wants. Often terming muscle worshipers as schmoos and making them out to be a little weird and subdued. Note: just because a man loves a Strong Alpha Female does not make them a weirdo! I have first hand experience after all ? In fact you guys are kind of normal, dare I say it and when I often ask as to how you got into muscle worship sessions. I am often told time and time again, about what a rare breed we are and impossible to find. I suppose if you think about it, not everyone’s wife has bulging biceps or can dead lift twice her body weight… So, this is how muscle worshiping behind closed doors has come about I guess. The real world lacks opportunities for you guys to get up close and personal with a muscular lady.

In this article, I as a session wrestler and provider of muscle worship will give my view point as to what I believe Muscle Worship is all about. Giving you an insight to the kind of clientele I meet and exactly what takes places within a session or at least mine ?

Muscle Worship: The Schmoo’s

What is surprising is that, there is no one size fits all in regards to age or protocol, for the kind of clientele that walks through the door. Age varying from twenty year old to even late sixties! I have noticed a trend with Lift and Carry fans however, in terms of how their fetish came about which I shall discuss in an upcoming post.

As far as Muscle Worshiper fans go , I have even meet gentlemen who came across their fetish by incident in life. For instance one guy, who shall remain unnamed, as confidentiality is very important, worked for a TV production company and developed his love for muscular women when filming a documentary on female bodybuilders. When producing the documentary he travelled to profound bodybuilding shows in Germany and America, finding him quite aroused by these women and their presence when on stage showing off their perfectly sculpted physiques. He thought to himself these women are actually quite hot and even started noticing himself finding his eyes drawn to certain body parts, like their shoulders when they were even clothed in a nice dress later that night at the after party. He has never looked back.

There does appear to be the Amazonian fans, those that love tall strong women who display femininity yet alluring power. And the female bodybuilding fans, the bigger the better I call them! It is not to say that you cannot be a fan of both.

I am fairly new on the scene and still within my first year as a session wrestler provider, so please don’t kill me if I say something irrelevant in this article! What I have noticed is that some of you guys are really into it and when I say into it, I mean it! Asking for recent updates on the size of our biceps, those who have had a session with me a few times even noticing a difference in my physique from pictures to present or the last time they seen me. For instance letting me know if I have gotten bigger or am more developed in a certain area or perhaps more cut. Your eye for detail is actually applauds able and a positive attribute of course.

Muscle Worship: Uncut

Now, what happens in a muscle worship session is entirely up to the provider and must be respected. The industry has been given bad rap because it is feared that many of these women do it for the money aspect, as bodybuilding is not as lucrative as it once was. Unfortunately for pro bodybuilders, expensive gym memberships, special diets, supplements, personal training fees, travel costs and marketing among other expenses related to the business are all part of life. Everyone has got to make a living and if needs be, needs be…What I will say is that you will never make a good Muscle Goddess if you are doing it for the money only.

I love my fans and like to get inside their heads, it is not unknown for me to be nosy and ask questions when I meet people but I like to know what you want and what does it for you or how the hell you got into it. Perhaps it’s my background in Law and Journalism. I have always been told if you are to be good at something though, you must be passionate about it. So, as a passionate lady who loves nothing better than all aspects of fitness training, writing and understanding people’s minds – I believe I have the characteristics to make my sessions shine.

I have heard all too much from guys who say some ladies just flex a bit and ask guys to kiss here or touch there… and are just quite frank bored out half way though. Muscle worship sessions are sensual. This bit cannot be wrapped up in cotton wool nor hidden. Facts are facts and if it turns guys on, they get turned on by it… If you want to massage or kiss our bodies, it is at least our duty to respect you our fan and provide you with a fulfilling session and keeping your mind guessing even if this is just by teasing or talking.

What each woman offers is entirely up to her and everyone has their own flare, some do it in a skimpy bikini, others topless and some may even allow you to have a glance at their birthday suit.

The weird part about muscle worship I guess for most people to get there heads around is that sexual intercourse, does not take place even though it is an erotic service. Activities such as posing, touching, caressing, rubbing and praising of our muscles in question instead are what happen in a session. For an outsider who is not aroused by female muscle they will never understand this, but as a muscle worshiper fan you know that it is worship in a more sensual and playful way and those who participate in sessions sharing this fetish will be aroused whatever way the fetish is made the vocal point, sexual intercourse or not… It’s the same difference as having a foot fetish, cross-dressing fetish or balloon fetish except female muscle.

This is not to say that some girls offer sexual intercourse or sexual extras such as happy endings for an additional fee or a favor to those regulars they have built up rapor with. If you want to get off on a good start though, respect any girl’s boundaries and never expect anything else. Otherwise you may find yourself deeply disappointed. The conditions of sessions are usually arranged beforehand and agreed upon by both parties prior to the meeting however to save embarrassment! No session provider should ever feel like they have to in order to stay “in business”, but I do believe in openness and honesty so if a happy ending is a deciding factor for you or that, it is better that you discuss this in an email beforehand or express your desires. Otherwise, whether you get the answer you wish to hear or not will remain unknown until the session.

I like to mix my muscle worship sessions up a bit and have found other things such as role playing, from muscle goddess to vampire slather, to even hot girlfriend turned nasty. Lift and carry or demonstrating my sense of strength in arm wrestling by getting to watch my biceps under tension, scissor holds, oiling up & sensual massage, ass worship, as well as me pinning you on a bed or talking about life in general. All work well when implemented in a fun, tasteful and sensual way to allow you guys to experience my muscles to the max and the girl of your wildest dreams!

LIVE OUT YOUR REAL FANTASY

Watching videos on the Internet or chatting with an FBB on herbiceps.com can only goes so far. Sometimes you need to experience the “real thing.” And muscle worship sessions are about as real as you can get unless you have a female bodybuilder girlfriend J If touching, caressing and pretending I am your goddess while singing verbal praise onto me and trying not to look like the kid in the candy shop, who ate all the candy. Come to hold, squeeze and pinch all my big beautiful muscles. Relax and enjoy yourself, even if you should only ever do it once in your lifetime.

It’s nerve-wracking the first time, geese I remember the first time one of my favorite clients came to me. I thought he was off his head on drugs as he was that fidgety. Thoughts of how I could get him out of my apartment amicably where beginning to go through my head, until it became apparent he extremely nervous, dear love him! We sat and chatted for a while as a result and before he knew it his butterflies disappeared, as he realized I’m just a normal person. I always like to remind people this and that there is really no need to be nervous or kind of star struck. As the nerves went, it was amazing watching him come out of his shell and get into the swing of things once the adrenaline kicked in. Even making suggestions for lifts he wanted to experience. Now he even brings me chocolates ?

I hope you guys enjoyed my article on muscle worship and what it is all about, please feel free to comment and share your thoughts and experiences.