There are many forms of fetishes, some more extreme than others. One things for sure everyone has a fetish of some sort, even if you are unaware of it. In 2016, the U.K. passed a law restricting a number of pornography fetish categories, face sitting being one!

Face sitting is a kink that’s not nearly as well known as it should be. For instance as this news escalated, it became clear that many people were confused as to what, exactly, face-sitting is. Despite its straight forward name!

What is a fetish?

The plural noun of fetish represents a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, body part. A sexual fixation, obsession or compulsion.

Face Sitting and other Popular Fetishes

There are hundreds of fetishes, some of which include, ball busting, wrestling, strapon, water sports, scat,  beat downs, lift carry, scissoring, female domination, muscle / body worship, foot fetish, face sitting and ass smothering are all popular kinks. Some fetishes can be deemed as non sexual, others have a high tendency to cause sexual arousal, face sitting and ass smothering are two in particular that can cause sexual arousal.

Some fetishes, can therefore fall into the realm of both worlds, sexual and non sexual. Face sitting is just one such example. A mistress or dominatrix will use the fetish face sitting or ass smothering to represent female superiority / domination / a top dog position.

“Face sitting is the most humiliating, belittling and dominating position a women can put a man in, but on the flip side, such a turn on”. Past femdom session.

Face sitting or Ass smothering

Facesitting, is often also known as queening or kinging. Jay Wiseman’s “Erotic Bondage Handbook,” defines it as “sitting or squatting over the face so that the anal (sphincter) or genital area is pressed against the mans face.” She says “It has the implication of forced oral and can incorporate breath play control and smothering. The experience can be heightened by the dominatrix / mistress trash talking to the submissive while sitting on his face.”

Face Sitting Clothing Requests

Over the years I have had many clothing requests for face sitting sessions. Thongs, panties, denim, gym leggings, spandex, pvc, leather, lingerie and string bikinis are all popular. Face sitting position is another important factor e.g forward vs reverse vs the hoover position where the female squats over the mans face. Some men request that their arms be locked using your feet or rope, completely immobilising them.

Face Smothering – Breathe Play

Full pressure face sitting can also be referred to as Face Smother or Ass Smothering. The two are very similar in nature, however with face smothering the individual is deprived of oxygen. Such an effect can induce a semi-hallucinogenic state. Combine this with an orgasm, is said to be the equivalent to cocaine.

A 2005 book chapter by Dr Brenda Love (in Russ Kick’s Everything You Know About Sex is Wrong) examined some of the strangest sexual behaviours from around the world and included a short section on queening (face sitting).

She wrote:

“The term queening refers to the European practice of a dominant female (dominatrix) using a man’s head as her throne. The woman sits in one of several positions, either on the side of the man’s head or so that his nose is near her anus with his eyes covered by her genitals. The object of queening is bondage or breath control, not cunnilingus”.

Why Men Love Face sitting?

Relating to my own own personal experiences, and having spoken with guys who adore the fetish face sitting. I believe for many it is the aspect of control many men enjoy with face sitting. The feeling of humiliation, body worship and intimacy, sex odours with the inability to control your breathing causes a heightened sexual arousal. Many men seem to love the verbal trash talking element to face sitting, the feeling of being at the complete mercy of their mistress.

Death by Face Smother

During a face smothering, strangely, what seems to happen is a sense of calm, no noise, not even a stir, Just me, one hundred and fifty six pound of me, sitting on their face. Sometimes, I quietly think to myself, are are they okay? still not a sound.

What follows after the calm however is a sheer sense of panic! Their body thrashes uncontrollably as they try to gasp for air. Feelings of helplessness, panic, despair, arousal and thoughts of death rush through there head. Please, please, I don’t want to die.

I have ask myself this question several times. How can being this close to DEATH bring about such feelings of euphoria and sexual arousal. Is it the fleeting glimpse of death that accentuates the sexual arousal.

Autassassinophilia Death Fetish

Autassassinophilia is a paraphilia in which a person is sexually aroused by the risk of being killed. The fetish may overlap with some other fetishes that risk one’s life, such as those involving drowning or choking. This does not necessarily mean the person must actually be in a life-threatening situation, for many are aroused from dreams and fantasies of such.

Fetishes, How They Evolve?

Life events, especially in our early childhood years, seem to have a significant impact on our lives. Over the years I have questioned clients as to how their fetish or fetishes evolved. Many have reminisced of an  earlier childhood experience with a female not necessarily of the same age.

To quote a previous clients first hand experience of how his face sitting fetish evolved.

“I was playing with my older female cousin who was 14 years old at the time. My interested in girls had significantly increased since I hit puberty. I remember one day in particular, my cousin was wearing a short skirt and tight top. At times we would play wrestle to see who was the strongest, on this occasion out of knowhere she flipped me onto my back and sat on my face.

Part of me was in shock, yet incredibly aroused. I could feel the soft skin of her bum and panties touching my face and mouth. Her bum engulfed my face cutting off my air supply and I couldn’t see a thing. I remember the feeling of helplessness, lack of oxygen and her sweet scent”.

I have thought about my first face sitting experience with my cousin countless times, Ever since then, face sitting, ass smothering and ass worship have been my all time favourite fetishes.

Booking a Face Smothering Session London

Other popular search terms if you are looking to book the services of a face sitting dominatrix are. Ass Worship, Face Sitting Mistress, Face Smothering, Female Face Sitting, Ass Smothering Dominatrix, Face Sitting Escorts.

Interested in booking a face sitting or ass smothering session with myself, please fill in my contact form with as much detail as possible. You can check out my latest tour dates on my tours page, you might also be interested in an earlier article I wrote “Ass Worship Escort”.

Areas I cover, but not limited to : London, UK, Manchester, Edinburgh, Milton Keynes, Birmingham, Leeds, Dublin and of course worldwide.

 

Female feats of strength are an excellent, fun and entertaining demonstration of power and vigor within strong women. Feats of strength, however have been around for a long time and date back to the time of Festivus. A secular holiday celebrated on December 23, which serves as an alternative, to participating in the pressures and commercialism of the Christmas season. Festivus made popular culture during the American Sitcom Seinfield, 1997 “The Strike” episode.

The celebration generally involves the head of the household, selecting out one person at the festivus gathering, to challenge them in a wrestling match. The tradition is that Festivus is not over until the head of the household is pinned to the ground. It is usually the head of family’s choice as to who will participate in the Feat of Strength, however a person is allowed to decline the offer, if they have something better to do instead. If the appointed person cannot participate, it is appropriate for another guest to suggest who should participate in the “Feats of Strength.”

Today, however there is so much more to feats of strength than just wrestling! With even females getting in on the action, showing up the guys!

What is a feat of Strength?

Today, a feat of strength is generally decried as the exhibition of strength performed to the eye for entertainment values.

female feats of strengthThe average person cares little about how much weight you can lift. Yes we understand, all you session wrestler fans beg to differ, however we are talking about the everyday average person here. Without much experience in the art, whether you lift a little or a lot, most people just don’t get the point of lifting weights today and its benefits. Put a car in front of people and lift it, however, you will get a totally different reaction and soon see how amazed people are!

This is because strength manifests itself in a number of ways. It does not just have to be conventional or all about squats and dead lifts. Female strength feats, can instead be about pulls, leaps and throws of insane magnitude that makes us pause and take notice. Many feats require more tendon, ligament, joint, and bone strength than your average muscle-focused exercise and perhaps a freak of nature! It’s not just your every day person who can tow a plane.

Men especially become amazed if women can perform these feats of strength, as females are typically not meant be as strong as their male counterparts according to everyday stereotypical values.

Specific feat of strengths might include lifting heavy barbells in odd ways, muscle control, bending steel & insanely high plyometric jumps to name a few. Here is list of some popular feats of strength. A gym personal best can even be considered a feat of strength to you.

  • Anvil Lifting
  • Plane/Lorry/Boat Pull
  • Short Bending
  • Box Jumps
  • Braced Bending
  • Long Bending
  • Scrolling
  • Horseshoes
  • Rolling Frying Pans
  • Can Bursting
  • Card Tearing
  • Chain Breaking
  • Finger Lifting
  • Finger Supports
  • Grippers/Crushing
  • Feats of Hair Strength
  • Hand Balancing
  • Juggling Weights
  • Muscle Control
  • Muscling Out Weights
  • Nail Driving with the Hands
  • Feats of Neck Strength
  • Odd-Object Lifting e.g Atlas Stones
  • Phonebook Tearing
  • Pinch Grip
  • Weighted Pull Ups / Pinky Pull Ups
  • Rope Climbing
  • Sledgehammers
  • Feats of Teeth and Jaw Strength
  • Thick Bars
  • Two Hands Anyhow
  • Weight Supports

Why do men love female feats of Strength?

One of the most famously watched feats of strength, ironically takes place over the Christmas holiday period. It is the world’s strongest man/women championships.

There are many reasons as to why men love watching female strength feats.

Strength for Benefit

There are several benefits to doing female feats of strength; it differs from what you would get from your more conventional workouts. And by “conventional,” we are not just talking about bodybuilding. We are referring to many of the less conventional styles like CrossFit, Bodyweight exercises, and kettlebells.

Many of the female strength feats require more tendon, ligament, joint, and bone strength than your average muscle-focused exercise. These tissues are capable of growth; it’s just not very noticeable. When it comes to strength though, they are hugely important. A focus on tissue growth and strength is often missing from most training programs.

Many feats of strength focus on hand strength, which today is often a lacking component in many people’s programs. Good grip is key to feats of strength. I often here from many men during sessions, that they good grip on a women, and this is why they particularly love female feats of strength. The mercy test is therefore always a firm favorite.

Strength for Purpose

If you become a “strong women”, you can use your strength for various useful purposes in life. Your strength can gain you publicity. For instance if you can bend nails, you can be guaranteed that you will be asked to perform this party piece in front of others for years to come. And so, why not make a living out of it too? Session wrestler ladies do this everyday by wrestling men as a female feat of strength.

The really abnormally strong women however are in a league of there own, with their own following, there fans have great admiration for these women and will forever endear to support and follow them for following their passion in life. Such women include session wrestlers, Anna M Strong who can bend steel and Amber deLuca who can  overhead press a man weighing up to 50kg. They realize some men’s desire to see these impressive acts in real life and are willing to perform these female feats of strength for you in your very own private session with them.

It’s just plain fun!

Many fans of strong women have thought of good alternatives to a wrestling match for feats of strength. Arm Wrestling is fun but it usually ends up with each party having sore arms. The Mercy Game and Leg Wrestling have therefore became firm favorites in private session for females to demonstrate feats of strength along with can crushing and fruit crushing if the female is strong enough. Who wouldn’t want to see a lady squeeze a watermelon between her thighs? Surprisingly these are usually a no stress physical activity for the female in question. Just make sure you have a large enough space available!

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Being healthy selfish is a very important topic for all you naturally submissive/givers of the world. The word selfish is often associated with being self-centered, out for yourself, arrogant etc. Healthy selfish however, is more about setting boundaries with yourself and others, so don’t worry you will still be a nice person!

It is about making sure that your “cup” is being filled, and when it starts to run low, you have the ability to recognize it and refill it up.

Making time for yourself

I always pride myself in responding to any emails received as fast as I can, with a personal touch and keen interest. This winter however, I have been touring more than usual, meaning more emails and room for potential time wasters… As a result of a busier schedule, I have had less time for myself, training and inevitably have become run down & unwell with the cold. (Boohoo!)

This has caused me to reassess things. Tours will be planned in advance, with sufficient recovery breaks in between and not be so harsh on myself with correspondence. My aim will be to reply to all emails within 24hours, or by the end of the following day. Rather than replying at various points throughout the day.

I also have to make a “no favors” rule for anyone, as I have learnt, it seems, the more you give the more you get let down and it is only fair everyone is treated equally, right?

If you are the type of person that can easily say “no” to others with a healthy motivation behind it, congrats! However you’re thinking if only it was that easy and often find yourself more often than not wanting to make others happy and as a result feel emotionally overwhelmed and/or drained, you might just need a quick lesson in healthy selfish.

As I mentioned earlier we often hear the word “selfish” and automatically equate it with unpleasant behavior. The word itself has a per-existing negative connotation because the definition of selfish is as follows: chiefly concerned with one’s own interest.

You may be asking, why am I promoting this displeasing behavior?

How to be Healthy Selfish

There are some distinguishing qualities that separate someone from being “selfish” vs “healthy selfish”

– Motivation
– Confidence
– Consequences.

Let’s revisit the cup analogy. Imagine a nice full cup, I personally like to imagine that mine is full of a warm cup of breakfast tea, but pick whatever fluid best fits you.

selfishNow because you’re such a kind soul, you enjoy sharing your tea…or what have you. You offer it up to your friends when they need comforting, your lover when they have needs, your children because someone has to take care of them, your boss when they don’t want to do their own job. Basically everyone is taking turns sipping at your cup, and when you have all of that to give, it’s super!!

Sometimes you have to say, enough is enough!

Now let’s say your significant other, boss or friends aren’t sipping from the cup, but rather taking shots from it as if they are on a bender at a nightclub. You find yourself in an uncomfortable position. Not wanting to rock the boat, or hurt anyone’s feelings so you allow them to keep taking. You find your cup is now very low. You’re exhausted, maybe you feel like a failure, maybe your angry and slightly resentful.

Don’t these people realize you are doing everything you can to quench their never-ending thirst?! No, not necessarily and sadly most people don’t realize this. Some people just downright don’t give a shit and will happily take advantage of your cup, and they’ll blame you when it’s empty. They are, dare we say *gasp* selfish?! Some of them, yes, but the worst reality is that they are right.

Why? Because, it’s your responsibility to tell people when you’re running low and don’t have much to give.

Time to be my kind of Selfish

The exciting part is you don’t have to be an asshole about it. You can simply say “no,” “not right now,” “unfortunately I can’t,” “I need some time for myself,” as well as a long list of other options. I was and still have the tendency to be a people pleaser, but I found the more people took, the less happy I was.
It is vital to be aware of the toxic people in your life. I’m not saying everyone is bad. Some are unaware, some have no idea that they are taking. People unfortunately, will prey on your kindness, like it’s a sport. This is a very disheartening experience.

Many clients who meet me as submissive and it often makes me wander if they find themselves hurt because they expect others to be nice, a little appreciative… etc. Having the expectation that someone will be nice to you in return, or be there for you is a set up. Not only to them, but also to yourself.

What I give, I expect to receive

I’m not saying don’t expect anything from anyone, but understand that kindness is a good deed, but reciprocation of a good deed makes it a job. Expect nothing from anyone. For when you receive something in return you will then be pleasantly surprised.

So what can we take away from healthy selfish?! It’s OK to say NO. The more you take time to fill up your own cup the more time you can give to others. When that cup is low, the quality of what you have to give will not be at it’s finest or coming from the best place. Don’t give all of yourself and then become disappointed or upset when it’s not returned. Learn how to set boundaries with people, and avoid being a doormat.

It’s incredibly empowering and this awareness and ability can change your relationships. Good and bad, will also make you feel more confident and help bring more positive people into your life.

A strong woman can often come off as intimidating. She knows what she wants in life and is on a mission to get it. Most likely she works hard, is independent, and doesn’t need a relationship to define her! While she might not need a relationship to make her happy, you should not confuse this with her not wanting one and this is where my cue comes in to help you guys understand what makes a strong women intimidating to man.

Recently I had a guy contact me asking advice regarding a girl he is really interested, he is very shy, felt that he is slightly out of his depth and did not know how to approach her about a date. Even worse he is a fan of lift and carry, something which we all know as a rule of thumb is generally a DEFINITE secret in the early days of dating unless the lady in question is pretty open minded to new things.

Strong woman still crave connection and wants someone to love and spend time with. Remember this, so if you are on the prowl for strong women, in the early days of dating or perhaps married to one, here are a few pointers I thought might be useful to remember:

Strong Woman are…

Distant at First

A strong woman may have walls built up that take time to break down. She knows how to protect herself, so know that trust might be a longer process than you’d like. A strong woman can also be afraid of being hurt. If she’s keeping you at a distance, that’s why. Once she feels that she can fully trust you, you might see a whole other, softer side to her. A strong woman may also feel conflicted about wanting to need you at first. Give her time to work through it. It might not be that she isn’t interested after all!

Independent

A strong woman is usually self-sufficient. Expect her to want to take control every once in a while and handle situations on her own. We know how to take care of ourselves. She will love having you around, but don’t get offended if she doesn’t need or want your help. We can be stubborn, remember this!

Open Minded

A strong woman is often creative and can have an open mind to new ideas or conversations. It is important to therefore mix things up a bit as dinner at the same restaurant every weekend probably won’t interest her for long. Try to be creative with your ideas for things to do.

Responsible

Strong woman accept responsibility, and will expect you to do the same. FACT. Excuses aren’t an option. We are usually also very comfortable in asking for what we want, so expect an open and often direct line of communication, with a little sugar-coating thrown in every once in a while when needed. Its not attitude, it’s just called a no bull shit approach to life…

Focused

Strong woman know what they want, and is most likely on a mission to get it. Goals are important to them. Strong women will therefore most likely expect you to have them also. They’ll want to know what your ambitions are, and how you’re going to work to achieve them.

Loners

We love being with you, but we also need time alone time! This is to relax and recharge, so try to understand when we want a night alone. This is the one you guys usually can’t get their head around, especially if in the early days of dating.

Fighters

Yes we have some fight in us! So, when the going gets tough, don’t expect us to throw the towel in straight away. Not being afraid of conflict, this also means we will not always be willing to agree with things you say even if it is over something stupid! This creates passion between people, however as if we all agreed on everything ALL of the time, even simple things such as what to watch on TV or where to go for coffee life would be pretty boring!

Real

A strong woman might come off as intimidating at first, but just like everyone else, she has insecurities and vulnerabilities. Don’t think that her strength means that she doesn’t have feelings too.

Today, In Lift and Carry Part 2, I am going to discuss the various lifts you LOVE! Giving a brief insight to the history & psychology behind each lift.

The Lifts

There are various kinds of popular lifts, of which everyone has their own found favorites. From Piggyback rides to shoulder rides, fireman’s lifts, rack positions, cradle carries and even pony or donkey carries. The list is endless…

What lifts can be performed however, obviously depends on the strength of the woman in question and weight of the man, to pull off each move successfully.

Many of the guys I have delivered lift and carry sessions to, have been some of the sweetest and kindest souls going. I always find it quite funny how they are very considerate and insist on me having short breaks and making sure I don’t hurt myself even though ironic it is them asking me to lift them ? Truth be known, I love it when I can amaze them with my strength and swoop them up into the air. Some guys have reversed the fun on me however, of which I’m not too sure if I agreed to be lift and carried about! I guess I got to know what it feels like, though I think I prefer my two feet on the ground.

Below I discuss the three, which I feel are most common:

The Piggy Back

After researching this lift, I was actually quite shocked to find its connection to that of Korean Culture and that in Korean films & cartoons, one of the things you will often notice in a number of scenes is that it is quite common to involve adults giving piggy-back rides to other adults.

lift and carry

Drama Beans website examined the cultural meaning of these piggyback rides in Korean films and related it to having a romantic and perhaps sexual undertone. It also elaborated on how in Korea, there is also many references to ‘skinship” which is a made-up Korean-English word meaning “levels of physical intimacy, or more simply, touching”

To me piggybacks are playful and fun, and I can see how it is a simple gesture with romantic ideals behind it. It eliminates the need to say to someone directly you are caring, sweet and warm hearted underneath the rough exterior. The piggyback action does this all.

Some also argue that piggyback fetish’s are based on a trust and security element however the men I have meet seem to be quite content in life. When conducting sessions, what I personally have come to think is that it is about the connection that is most prevalent of which seems to be an ecstasy of entrapment in a sexually arousing power struggle. As although the person in question is being lifted can make suggestions to me on speed, lift and directions, once up there ultimately I am in control of the situation. End off- FACT! I can take you where I want, at whatever speed I want and most importantly put you down whenever I want (evil grins)?

Arguably the most famous piggy-back fetishist in the world is the American cartoonist Robert Crumb. In the documentary film of his life’s work (simply titled Crumb), it features Crumb getting piggyback rides from several women with powerful legs that were clearly substitutes for sex. In the film, one of Crumb’s ex-girlfriends claimed the cartoonist liked to receive piggy-backs in lieu of sex.

Fireman Lift

One of the most reoccurring arguments against women serving in combat we hear time and time again, is that they don’t have the upper body strength to carry a heavy male soldier out of combat. People often forget however that you don’t need much upper body strength to carry a guy out of combat. This will come as a surprise to certain people, but military is not trained to carry each other like babies and nor are fire women hence the name of this lift.

In fact, you can rescue your comrade without using your pecs and effectively sling a dude over your shoulder, without much effort! It is surprisingly easy. The only problem may be that the person being lifted, may not be too comfortable up their if they have a strong set of shoulders digging into their rib cage!

When researching the psychological element of this lift I could not find much to be honest, however for me personally I think it’s the fun factor of role reversal, going against the book and proving that women really can be strong enough to rescue you! I think it links to the heroine role play as discussed in my previous post and the excitement of being lured off to a land of mystery, afar and unknown beyond whether this even be the bedroom. Perhaps you guys can let me know why you love fireman’s lifts so much by commenting below.

Cradle Carry

Lift and carryThe cradle carry is the hardest lift to perform and also one the most controversial lifts with many outsiders linking it to the sexualisation of motherhood and history of being carried at birth.

Nobody links men carrying their wives through the threshold as tradition goes in a cradle carry to such however which is ludicrous… so to me cradle carries are role reversal at its best! Men get to feel safe in the arms of a strong and protective woman. Some however find being rather helpless in a woman’s arms very erotic. Whatever it may be getting to watch how impressive a woman’s shoulders and legs are in a mirror view if you should be so lucky definitely is a key contributing factor for most!

Lift and Carry in Real Life

No fetish can make you a submissive person. You might like to be dominated in the bedroom but that can simply be because you are such a dominant person in the rest of your life and vice versa. A fetish cannot define the rest of your life. And even within your sexual life the label submissive can often be far too much of a simplification. There are some submissive masochists and some dominant ones. The whole thing is a blend and no one label can describe your sexual feelings.

Just because you like muscular women doesn’t make you a weirdo and likewise because you enjoy a piggyback ride or cradle carry in the arm’s of a women doesn’t make you abnormal. You may even enjoy watching videos of hot girls carrying men and be a member of a particular site to gain access to unlimited content. It is only if the figures for your memberships are starting to run into the hundreds of dollars mark or your fetish is starting to take over your life, you may want to reassess things.

If you are looking for the perfect women to be in a relationship with, where she can help you fulfill your lift and carry desires, here are some suggestions I make below to help you on that mission:

  • Keep your weight in check, remember the lighter you are more chance of getting lifted. This goes for sessions too!
  • Do not admit your fetish to the girl on your first date, play it safe at first and once mutual trust is comfortable in the relationship, gently drop the hint and let her into your heart’s desires.
  • Date girls who are playful or okay with experimenting
  • Date girls who are a bit of a HEAVY weight… I’m not saying to date a fatty, but just someone who is well put together if you know what I mean ?

Today, Lift and Carry is in the spotlight. It is a topic, that I have been wanting to write about for ages and one which really sparks an interest. I really love being able to demonstrate my strength by lifting you guys and can even surprise myself at times with my strength! However, how this fetish, which may I add is very fun came about, is one which gets me thinking!

Unfortunately, at times fetishes can almost be impossible to get rid of. In fact I have even seen guys post on forums, asking how to get help for them. However for those of us, who choose to embrace them, we can get a huge amount of satisfaction from it – whatever it may be!

I believe fetishes are OK to play a part of our life, just as long as they don’t become addictive or begin to take over our lives… Being open helps lead to a more natural, relaxed and open state of mind after all!

Lift and Carry, is one such fetish which could be classed as bizarre, but is sure to sweep you of your feet, LITERALLY! It is listed by Buzzfeed, as one of the most unlikely fetishes out there.

Although this fetish is neither harmful nor extreme, many have never shared such desires with those close to them. Imagine being married and never having shared your secret with your wife? This may perhaps be you.

One guy has even remarked to me, that if he was to tell his family of his fetish for strong women. He imagines it would resemble the feeling of “coming out.” I suppose this is why so many guys have sessions with the like of girls from WB270 or Sessiongirls. Not only because we are strong enough to fulfill these fantasies, but because we deal with these fetishes on a daily basis. I would not say I have become desensitized to fetishes as many people presume, but everyone is different and I am learning to embrace, respect and help fulfill these fantasies as long as it is within my boundaries.

There is websites, videos, stories, forums and even porn however for Lift and Carry fans to live out there fantasies in private however. This helps cater for those, who are perhaps too embarrassed, shy or nervous to have a session. Below is a video I filmed showcasing as best I can the various types of lift and carry.

Lift and Carry : Defined

Lift and Carry is a fetish, where a guy is lifted most often by women; resulting in a sense of arousal or enjoyment from the movement. This is often the movement of being lifted, held, cradled and carried around or away to a place far and beyond. The often-termed “Amazonian woman” in question, does not necessarily need to be a bodybuilder or power lifter either. Just strong enough to carry the weight of a fully-grown man!

To many it is harmless fun, however for others it plays a major part of foreplay. Many outsiders I believe do not fully understand the fetish; I myself am still intrigued by it. What does strike me however is that quite a few men are quick to judge it. Often categorizing it as wrong, because it sexualizes cradling, something your mother would of done to you as a child. And therefore see it as sexualizing your mother or motherhood.

I have personally found however this not to be the case. I am no expert by any means, but I love to ask people where they got their fetish from or if there is a time in their life, when they can recall such an interest being sparked! The two most common answers to which I hear are,

  • CHILDHOOD

It does seem that childhood and impartially playground time has played a big part in helping ignite this fetish! Some guys have remarked to me about being small when growing up, but the majority of lift and carry fans whom have enjoyed a session with me, remark about being thrilled in school by a girl or girls who would pin them up against a wall, be able to pick them up by the shoulders in some cases, and enjoy chasing or being chased after the tall girls mostly in the playground.

  • ACCIDENT

I have also came across men, who have often come across their love for lift and carry by accident. This scenario often seems to have evolved around a relationship of either a sexual kind or even friendship. These guys seem to get a rush and sense of arousal from it. Often their discovery has involved a strong woman who has demonstrated her strength, picking up the guy in question at whim and making it look easy. This has made the guy aroused not even knowing that such a thing would do something for him! From teasing work colleagues to partners luring their men off to the bedroom department and it becoming part of their sex life from here on in. I have heard it all. Unfortunately these men, have fallen out of touch with the women in question and are forever in lure to find such a perfectly strong women again or perhaps are now married and may I add happily married to a women who just cannot carry them. The thrill of the past seems to stick with them and so this is a reason for their desire for sessions here and there to relive the feeling.

Lift and Carry: What’s it all about?

Lift and Carry, I believe to be related to the below feelings. Not everyone experiences each feeling, however I believe for the majority it is all about the feeling of…

LACK OF CONTROL

The feeling of being helpless while dominated by a powerful woman with no control.

DEMONSTRATION OF STRENGTH

This can even be the difference in size, perhaps enjoying the feeling of having a women struggle beneath your weight.

THE UNEXPECTED

Whether it involves being lifted air born in the wings of superior strength or carried in a women’s arm like a child. I suppose it is like asking yourself whether you are her pray or she is your protector.

TRUST

If you feel safe and secure in the arms of a woman, this can often be a refreshing feeling. The feeling of safety however equates to trust which is a factor to the feeling of love no matter what.

BODY TO BODY

Skinship is the rubbing of skins and is a mild playful method of foreplay. It can help stimulate and can cause arousal and I suppose release endorphin’s in an exciting and sexual way to some.

Lift and Carry: Role-plays

When taken at face value, there may not seem to be a great deal involved in this fetish; however, there are a number of scenarios that are often used in this fetish that involve different role plays and scenes to which I have come to realise. These are the three most common role-plays I have come across in lift and carry. You may notice how they relate to the feelings I have listed above.

Submitting

Many men are very particular about this fetish and like the idea of being scooped up, even perhaps against their own will into the arms of a woman and carried around easily because the woman is so much stronger than they are. I believe this leaves the male exposed in a submissive light to the lifter. Once up there, they will let me take control and do what I wish to them. They are very happy to let me take control.

The Heroine

Another scenario involving the lift and carry fetish, often involves the idea me a strong Amazonian goddess rescuing the man. Traditionally, it is the man who swoops in to save a maiden in distress and is the knight in shining armour. With this fetish however, the role is reversed and it is I who breaks the stereotype as a dominant women coming to rescue. Lifting the helpless male or damsel in distress and carrying him to safety. It allows the male to cede control of the situation and be saved.

Safe in the arms of…

Of course, the natural act of lift and carry is also a sensitive, caring and nurturing act that many men can actually crave. With the stress of 21st century living, work, family and many other things, the idea of giving up responsibility and being lifted and carried off to a safe and comforting place by a woman can be a big stress release and one not too many would complain about I think! You could argue that the guy in question may recall a time when he was younger and could be lifted and carried easily by a caring and nurturing woman like his mother. It may however have even been a friend or someone that would give them a piggyback in the playground or when they were tired. Whatever it is, I believe this one is linked to the feeling of companionship and knowing there is someone else there for you, comradeship.

Stay tuned for Part Two!

I hope you have enjoyed reading my post and could relate to some parts if you are an avid lift and carry fan! In Lift and Carry Part Two, I will discuss the psychological elements and history behind each lift. Any comments I would greatly welcome below; perhaps you could let me know how your fetish started!

 

Ok so your intrigued by the term muscle worship and wandering what the hell it is all about? Well, if you have a thing for hot, toned and athletic women and can think of nothing better than getting up close and personal with a female bodybuilder, look no further!

We have all seen the documentaries on geographical nation or the infamous Bodybuilding by Louis Theroux. These documentaries however are made in such a way, to be perceived in whatever light the producer wants. Often terming muscle worshipers as schmoos and making them out to be a little weird and subdued. Note: just because a man loves a Strong Alpha Female does not make them a weirdo! I have first hand experience after all ? In fact you guys are kind of normal, dare I say it and when I often ask as to how you got into muscle worship sessions. I am often told time and time again, about what a rare breed we are and impossible to find. I suppose if you think about it, not everyone’s wife has bulging biceps or can dead lift twice her body weight… So, this is how muscle worshiping behind closed doors has come about I guess. The real world lacks opportunities for you guys to get up close and personal with a muscular lady.

In this article, I as a session wrestler and provider of muscle worship will give my view point as to what I believe Muscle Worship is all about. Giving you an insight to the kind of clientele I meet and exactly what takes places within a session or at least mine ?

Muscle Worship: The Schmoo’s

What is surprising is that, there is no one size fits all in regards to age or protocol, for the kind of clientele that walks through the door. Age varying from twenty year old to even late sixties! I have noticed a trend with Lift and Carry fans however, in terms of how their fetish came about which I shall discuss in an upcoming post.

As far as Muscle Worshiper fans go , I have even meet gentlemen who came across their fetish by incident in life. For instance one guy, who shall remain unnamed, as confidentiality is very important, worked for a TV production company and developed his love for muscular women when filming a documentary on female bodybuilders. When producing the documentary he travelled to profound bodybuilding shows in Germany and America, finding him quite aroused by these women and their presence when on stage showing off their perfectly sculpted physiques. He thought to himself these women are actually quite hot and even started noticing himself finding his eyes drawn to certain body parts, like their shoulders when they were even clothed in a nice dress later that night at the after party. He has never looked back.

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There does appear to be the Amazonian fans, those that love tall strong women who display femininity yet alluring power. And the female bodybuilding fans, the bigger the better I call them! It is not to say that you cannot be a fan of both.

I am fairly new on the scene and still within my first year as a session wrestler provider, so please don’t kill me if I say something irrelevant in this article! What I have noticed is that some of you guys are really into it and when I say into it, I mean it! Asking for recent updates on the size of our biceps, those who have had a session with me a few times even noticing a difference in my physique from pictures to present or the last time they seen me. For instance letting me know if I have gotten bigger or am more developed in a certain area or perhaps more cut. Your eye for detail is actually applauds able and a positive attribute of course.

Muscle Worship: Uncut

Now, what happens in a muscle worship session is entirely up to the provider and must be respected. The industry has been given bad rap because it is feared that many of these women do it for the money aspect, as bodybuilding is not as lucrative as it once was. Unfortunately for pro bodybuilders, expensive gym memberships, special diets, supplements, personal training fees, travel costs and marketing among other expenses related to the business are all part of life. Everyone has got to make a living and if needs be, needs be…What I will say is that you will never make a good Muscle Goddess if you are doing it for the money only.

I love my fans and like to get inside their heads, it is not unknown for me to be nosy and ask questions when I meet people but I like to know what you want and what does it for you or how the hell you got into it. Perhaps it’s my background in Law and Journalism. I have always been told if you are to be good at something though, you must be passionate about it. So, as a passionate lady who loves nothing better than all aspects of fitness training, writing and understanding people’s minds – I believe I have the characteristics to make my sessions shine.

I have heard all too much from guys who say some ladies just flex a bit and ask guys to kiss here or touch there… and are just quite frank bored out half way though. Muscle worship sessions are sensual. This bit cannot be wrapped up in cotton wool nor hidden. Facts are facts and if it turns guys on, they get turned on by it… If you want to massage or kiss our bodies, it is at least our duty to respect you our fan and provide you with a fulfilling session and keeping your mind guessing even if this is just by teasing or talking.

What each woman offers is entirely up to her and everyone has their own flare, some do it in a skimpy bikini, others topless and some may even allow you to have a glance at their birthday suit.

Muscle WorshipThe weird part about muscle worship I guess for most people to get there heads around is that sexual intercourse, does not take place even though it is an erotic service. Activities such as posing, touching, caressing, rubbing and praising of our muscles in question instead are what happen in a session. For an outsider who is not aroused by female muscle they will never understand this, but as a muscle worshiper fan you know that it is worship in a more sensual and playful way and those who participate in sessions sharing this fetish will be aroused whatever way the fetish is made the vocal point, sexual intercourse or not… It’s the same difference as having a foot fetish, cross-dressing fetish or balloon fetish except female muscle.

This is not to say that some girls offer sexual intercourse or sexual extras such as happy endings for an additional fee or a favor to those regulars they have built up rapor with. If you want to get off on a good start though, respect any girl’s boundaries and never expect anything else. Otherwise you may find yourself deeply disappointed. The conditions of sessions are usually arranged beforehand and agreed upon by both parties prior to the meeting however to save embarrassment! No session provider should ever feel like they have to in order to stay “in business”, but I do believe in openness and honesty so if a happy ending is a deciding factor for you or that, it is better that you discuss this in an email beforehand or express your desires. Otherwise, whether you get the answer you wish to hear or not will remain unknown until the session.

I like to mix my muscle worship sessions up a bit and have found other things such as role playing, from muscle goddess to vampire slather, to even hot girlfriend turned nasty. Lift and carry or demonstrating my sense of strength in arm wrestling by getting to watch my biceps under tension, scissor holds, oiling up & sensual massage, ass worship, as well as me pinning you on a bed or talking about life in general. All work well when implemented in a fun, tasteful and sensual way to allow you guys to experience my muscles to the max and the girl of your wildest dreams!

LIVE OUT YOUR REAL FANTASY

Watching videos on the Internet or chatting with an FBB on herbiceps.com can only goes so far. Sometimes you need to experience the “real thing.” And muscle worship sessions are about as real as you can get unless you have a female bodybuilder girlfriend J If touching, caressing and pretending I am your goddess while singing verbal praise onto me and trying not to look like the kid in the candy shop, who ate all the candy. Come to hold, squeeze and pinch all my big beautiful muscles. Relax and enjoy yourself, even if you should only ever do it once in your lifetime.

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It’s nerve-wracking the first time, geese I remember the first time one of my favorite clients came to me. I thought he was off his head on drugs as he was that fidgety. Thoughts of how I could get him out of my apartment amicably where beginning to go through my head, until it became apparent he extremely nervous, dear love him! We sat and chatted for a while as a result and before he knew it his butterflies disappeared, as he realized I’m just a normal person. I always like to remind people this and that there is really no need to be nervous or kind of star struck. As the nerves went, it was amazing watching him come out of his shell and get into the swing of things once the adrenaline kicked in. Even making suggestions for lifts he wanted to experience. Now he even brings me chocolates ?

I hope you guys enjoyed my article on muscle worship and what it is all about, please feel free to comment and share your thoughts and experiences.

The heart is a muscle that pumps life-giving blood throughout our bodies. Today, I ask what it takes to satisfy the male heart. A touchy subject at times, but the heart has been used for thousands of years to describe the core of who we are, what we feel and the real us! Due to this predetermination, we often hear many question if some human beings even bear a heart. We have all have heard of the term heartless.

Lately I have been thinking about writing on the male heart, however how to approach it I was not sure. I had a brain wave today though and am feeling in the mood to write as I sit on my flight to Cork, to commence my Ireland tour.

male heartThe male heart is the central command for all thoughts, beliefs, desires, affections, conscience, convictions, emotions and motives. And, just like our physical heart, which has four chambers it needs to be consistently filled with life-giving blood and also has four emotional chambers that need to be filled.

These are validation, respect, loyalty, and trust. And I believe it could be argued that the attraction of submissive to dominate women is because there lives may at times lack this; and it is a way to act out these validations in real life! Whether this be to their mistress, lover, pro dome etc.

Satisfying the male heart REVEALED

Validate reflects value, worthiness and manliness.

Men want to be validated by their father. They often want their dad to bless them, approve them and value them for who they are. And not for what they do or don’t do… Personality over performance is vital in validation.

Men also want validation from their wives/ partners for when they use or shine their talents to be taken notice of. If only women breathed life into the man in their life by saying things like, “You did a great job” or “I was so impressed by x,y,z…” But as you know, us females can be hard to please! This is why I believe sometimes guys love to be submissive. As by being submissive, they get to selflessly seek out validation through acts to their desired dom.

Closely linked is also the feeling of being wanted. Yes, men naturally like sex, they are hunter gathers after all…but men also want to be wanted. Sex with an emotionally uninvolved or reluctant wife, who only accommodates her husband to keep him “satisfied,” will never be enough. A man needs to know that his wife wants and desires him. This again can be argued as a reason, as to why men LOVE domination. There is no better way of feeling wanted! The connection is real and like having someone say to you “you are the best ever” or giving you a high five! Fem- Dom role-plays can therefore create confidence building and spill over to a confident man in other areas of his life. A WIN-WIN for femdom role-play scenarios then J

Respect to judgments, decisions, and abilities.

Men need women to value and trust their opinions and decisions, even if they do prove to be wrong at times! I am sure if you were to ask a woman, the majority will have experienced being lost in a car, with a man at some stage in their life! Again, due to their stubbornness in not asking for directions! God, it is so annoying when they are wrong at times, but it does not mean for is to question every decision men make, That means not constantly questioning knowledge such as “Why do you say that?” I am a guilty culprit and do it all the time… it’s a female thing I guess. We are all so bloody patronizing at times. My naturally investigative side from journalism sometimes doesn’t help either lol

Respect should also be paid and remembered for abilities. They do not want to hear “You can’t fix that, I’ll call an expert.” No guy wants to be shot down before even given the chance. Domination eliminates this questioning as you are told what to do, there is no shooting down before trying- only during perhaps!

Loyalty

support at all times

I believe men want to know that you are on their side. A kick buddy and someone they know that if they fondle you, that you won’t penalize them, but will pick the ball up and run with him. Men want to know that you are with all the way, through the good and bad times, and that you’ve always got his back.

Trust

Trust him and show him he can always trust you

Trust is a funny thing in that it must be earned. If over a period of time, a husband has earned his wife’s trust, then she should fully trust him unless there is a breach of trust. When a women trusts the man in her life, she should always have confidence that he is who he says he is. This means you should be the real deal, honest, action worthy, faithful and always has her best interests at heart.

Back in the golden era of female bodybuilding, there was only one category you could compete in i.e. that of Bodybuilding! Today on the other hand, the categories are few and far between for physique competitors…

What is iconic however is that what started out as female bodybuilding is now declining in numbers and moving towards a culture of bikini, fitness and figure competing. John Romano in his article “The Death of Women’s Bodybuilding” puts the decline of Female Bodybuilding down to “Man Face.” I ask whether or not this is true or perhaps social standards the culprit of fitness competitions today?

While there is plenty of room to compete in whichever category you feel appropriate – bikini, figure, fitness, athletic, physique etc. There does seem to be a degree of sexism in regards to how jacked you can be if a lady.

The most potent example of this being the infamous drop of Ms. Olympia from bodybuilding altogether in 2015. As well as the “20 percent rule” by IFBB in 2005, which basically asked all female bodybuilders to tone it down a bit…

John Romano in his article, calls it “Sucked out, drawn in, sunken eyes, veins in their foreheads, sharply angled jawline, a bigger nose, and a general coarseness to their dark orange skin that makes an oil tanker’s mooring rope look silky — kinda the way their voices sound too.”

John Romano remarks are harsh. My own personal opinion however is that, today things have been taken to the extreme subsequently damaging bodybuilding for the sport it once was. This is not just in female bodybuilding but men’s also. The amount of categories you can choose from to compete in demonstrates this. Extremes are never a good thing, politics even tells us this.

Today, bodybuilding no longer resembles that of what it once was, in the days of Frank Zane and Arnold Schwarzenegger. Stuck in a culture of “the bigger the better” and the use of steroids in killer amounts to manipulate the body to new levels never seen before…Gone are the days of symmetry

FEMALE BODYBUILDING: FROM BODYBUILDING TO FITNESS COMPETITOR

Bodybuilding is not nor ever was meant to be a beauty contest but rather based on symmetry, muscle mass, definition and the ability to show of the body at its best. You could say a form of human art.

Competitors develop posing routines and hold these multiple times on stage against fellow competitors. While muscle size, shape, and symmetry are pivotal to winning, the posing routine is a vital element. You could have the best body on stage perhaps but miss out, as you are not able to show it off the best.

Finesse is therefore definitely needed and it is well know that some of the top bodybuilders out there used ballet teachers to help them structure transitions for in-between poses. As well as the effort that goes into composing posing routines, the physical demand should also be remembered. Athletes are also on stage dehydrated when breaking a sweat tensing up! There really should be appreciation for bodybuilders and their evolution from weightlifting, hard word and dedication to on stage. It certainly is a sport in its own right and one based on individual achievement

Concernedly, beauty however started to become the central issue though. As the women kept getting bigger the more apparent it became. The media even jumped on board. This is when terms such as “she looks like a man” starting hitting the headlines hence social norms set. Unfortunately, as a result the female bodybuilding division took brunt in decline of popularity due to this social ridicule.

Steroids have always been a touchy subject and likewise muscle on females. Society did not respond the right way and even though the men of the bodybuilding world where getting bigger also and so created the windy road to bikini, fitness and figure competing sport. The new socially accepted categories and a sad day for females of bodybuilding.

The twenty percent rule, which required all competitors to cut back muscle size, is a representation of this. A less muscular woman in their view would make a more acceptable female bodybuilder. There could be question as to whether the ask was sexist.

While performance enhancing drug use is prevalent in sports, when done by women it the extra complications are more prevalent. Men use them but are accepted, as it is their hormone. For women however it is tabooed. It is not even spoke of and could be argued one of the reasons for poor drug choices by women at times, due to bad advice by a male partner etc. perhaps. The main concern with steroids is appearance. Unfortunately with women, sometimes a boundary can be overstepped which cannot be taken back, leaving them with permanent vitalization side effects such as hair growth or a cracked voice. Everyone reacts different and sometimes the risk may not be worth it.

How strong the compound is determines the risk of side effect. Female bodybuilding should not however be looked down upon due to their use of steroids. Yes, it may be a more heavier use but it does not mean to say it is not used by bikini, fitness and figure competitors on a lower level. It is just more accepted because they aren’t as muscly with in your face side effects. The steroid use can even be brushed under the carpet if needs be…

FEMALE BODYBUILDING: FEMININITY AND SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE

female bodybuildingBodybuilding primarily survives on being connected to the fitness industry through supplement companies, exercise equipment, and magazine publishing. Sex sells and for me I believe this is why female bodybuilding has moved towards being “fit”, “toned” and “healthy. Society has not yet accepted muscular women and until they do it will never be openly promoted. A magazine will not sell or make profit from a non-social standard.

This is what I believe determines the future of female bodybuilding. Girls have shifted to competing in bikini, fitness and figure, as this is what is appealing and makes money. Supplement companies etc. will not want to sign you up unfortunately if you are too muscly, leaving female bodybuilding unappealing and perhaps not even an option to make a living at.

My only wish is that if bodybuilding could go back the era of 1970 when judging was based on the evolution of the body and immune to societal standards. Drug use would not be so excessive and more about good training and a healthy diet to lean out. The degree and pursuit of muscularity today has unfortunately has created a facial and physical image no longer appealing to enough of an audience to support- caused by the distorted looks from extremes.

Portraying women as sex objects continues to be more profitable to companies. Portraying women, as accomplished athletes does not make money. Beauty has different meanings to people and aesthetics have changed dramatically throughout the evolution of bodybuilding. Some prefer the larger muscular body; others prefer a moderate mid-range physique middleweight. Society has set the standard for a “toned” appearance.

The new fitness fad of “strong is the new skinny” may seem like it is accepting muscularity, by promoting women to participate in strength training. The reassurance that you will not become too muscly if you lift weights tells us the other…

Women with power are viewed as unfeminine or unattractive and unacceptable to the majority of society. Again politics even tells us this as it is harder for women to get in office, Sarah Payne, Margaret Thatcher and Hilary Clinton all prime examples.

The fact is a woman of a certain physical size will not be accepted by the mainstream. They could have the most pretty and full faces, but will be repudiated. In society there is a general consensus of what we find attractive and acceptable. It is these social standards that create what an audience of female bodybuilding is willing to support. A woman may be considered attractive, but because she conflicts with traditional gender roles not so.

The idea that a woman could challenge a man on a physical level is unsettling to some. Often also men who feel threatened by women’s advancement in society, may feel that the physical domain is the only area they have left. Female bodybuilders and women in sports challenge this.

FEMALE BODYBUILDING: THE FUTURE

Sadly, the general public never supported female bodybuilding and the fitness industry never supported women as athletes. Instead it is in a culture sex sells Instagram with its soft porn could even be argued to be the playboy of today. Until social standards are shook female bodybuilding will remain in a culture of bikini, fitness and figure competing.