Did you know that are there are between 250 – 1000 accidental deaths from erotic asphyxiation every year. Even though the number is very small, autoerotic deaths are on the rise. Erotic asphyxiation (EA) is the official term for breath play a common fetish in the BDSM world. Although I consider this type of fetish very dangerous I wanted to discuss some of the “Breath Control Play Techniques” I offer.

What is Breathplay?

Breathplay: The restricition of airflow commonly used during sexual intercoarse to heighten ones orgasm, also referred to as (erotic asphyxiation). While breathplay can be incorporated into sexual practice between partners. The fetish can also be practiced alone, (autoerotic asphyxiation).

Many of the cases in which a person has died in relation to this activity happened when the person was doing it alone.

You may remember a few famous people who have died from autoertotic aspyxiation, (David Carradine, Michael Hutchence, Kevin Gilbert). Some say they took their own lives, suicide, but the suspicious circumstances surrounding their deaths points strongly towards, death by autoerotic asphyxiation.

Breath Play Masterbation

Considering the dangers associated with autoertotic aspyxiation, why then would anyone participate in this hazardous fetish, especially alone. Before delving deeper into breathplay, let me ask you a question.

Do you remember a particular moment in your life when you had a MIND BLOWING ORGASM? You know the type (mind-altering, breathtaking, overwhelming), It doesn’t really matter what you where doing at the time, I just want you to recall that feeling.

When you rob your brain of oxygen you experience a euphoric high, dizziness, before you lose consciousness. To increase the intensity of your orgasm, individuals who are into breathplay masturbate while strangling themselves with cords, ropes, scarves, and ties, or by sealing their heads in plastic bags.

I know, it sounds seriously fucked up, but according to clients who actively practice breathplay, it’s a spectacularly addictive experience. The safest form of breathplay is holding your breath while masterbating.

Smothering Domination

While touring the US I recall one day in particular, every session booked was in for some form of breathplay. While I do offer breathplay and edging I DO NOT OFFER KNOCKOUTS by asphyxiation. Most forms of breathplay that I offer are in the form of (breast smothering, ass smothering, face sitting, HOM, choking, scissoring).

Not all men who request breathplay are looking to orgasm by masterbating. Some men love the fear, panic, confusion and loss of inhibitions while being dominated.

My favourite way to limit the intake of oxygen is either by scissoring, hand over mouth (HOM) or facesitting. If you don’t already know and haven’t heard, my scissor holds are some strongest in the industry.

Breath Control Play Techniques

Ass Smothering: breathing is controlled by smothering the clients face with my ass. Hands can be tied depending on clients requests. Ass smothering and Facesitting although two different fetishes can both be used to control breathing. You might be interested in an earlier article I wrote on Ass Worship, which explains the various ass worship/smothering positions that can be used in breathplay. 

Ass smothering merges beautifully with edging as my hands are free to control other elements of the body. Controlling both oxygen intake and orgasm.  

Facesitting Queening Mistress 

Scissoring: there are various scissor holds that can be used to control the clients breathing. 1) Reverse figure 4 is a perfect example, once I have interlocked my legs around the clients head, I simply contract my hamstrings pulling their head tight between my butt cheeks, cutting of their oxygen.

2) Body scissors is another technique that can be used in combination with hand over mouth (HOM). Once trapped between my legs there is no ESCAPE, I can easily control pressure through my legs and breath with my hands. 

Choking: I love that my wrestling lessons have taught me how to choke out a guy with various choke holds in seconds: (rear naked choke, triangle choke, straight arm bar, scissor choke, bare hands). Clients may request choke holds during wrestling matches to further enhance the element of domination and female superiority. 

Breast Smothering: Breath smothering is the act of a woman using her breasts to cover the mans face. At times forcing her breasts into the mans mouth (face fucking). As you might expect breast smothering is a popular form of breathplay. What hetrosexual man doesn’t like “BOOBS”, I rest my case. 

Another form of breathplay that shares the same characteristics as breast smothering is belly smothering. Instead of using the breasts the belly is used to suffocate the victim, this is also a very effective technique, especially if the girl is well built. Yes, like myself, I’m deceivingly heavy for my size, or so I’ve been told.

Reverse figure 4 with breath play

Oxygen Deprivation

Interesting fact, erotic asphyxiation (EA) began in the 17th century as a treatment for erectile dysfunction when doctors observed that male hanging victims often developed erections. Jesus, what a bummer!

During breath play sessions it is not uncommon for men to develop erections and at times prematurely ejaculate without masterbation. Not that it has any relevance on this article, but interesting all the same. I have had men arrive with full boners, before the session even commenced, just at the thoughts of acting out their fantasy lol.

Jerk Off Instruction vs Orgasm Denial

Interested in booking a breathplay session? maybe you have your own breath play control techniques you would like to share? Note, while I’m very open minded and love to help my clients live out their deepest fantasies. Safety is paramount during sessions, there are extreme versions of breathplay, (bagging, strangulation), but for me the risk are not worth the reward (money).

I have no desire to spend my latter years in jail for manslaughter. Breath play is a fetish that should be respected at all times. Boundaries and safe words should always be agreed before commencing any sessions involving breath play control techniques.

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I tour regularly across the world, my latest travel dates can be found on my Tour page. When I’m not travelling, you can find me in London every 4-6 weeks. If you ever find yourself travelling to Ireland, I live a short distance from Dublin and Belfast.

Is this your first session? most common answers can be found on my Frequently Asked Questions. Read what others are saying about Sara, Testimonials.

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Session wrestling has given me the opportunity to travel the world and broaden my horizons. Although I now offer a wider range of fetishes than when I first started, mixed wrestling (male vs female) is still one of my most requested fetishes. Today’s blog post primarily focuses on the differences between “Fantasy Wrestling vs Semi Competitive” based on my own personal views as a female session wrestler.

Fantasy Wrestling vs Semi Competitive

While there are other forms of wrestling (bondage, erotic, semi comp, competitive). I have singled out Fantasy and Semi Competitive due to the confusion between these two fetishes.

First let’s break down the true meaning of the terms fantasy and semi competitive to better understand how they relate to wrestling.

Fantasy wrestling: the opposite of reality, a strong addiction to something that is not real. In the realm of fantasy wrestling, roleplaying, wrestling characters and storylines play a large part in creating the fantasy, allowing the person’s imagination the freedom to create their ultimate reality, even if its only for a short time.

Semi Competitive: allows the client to provide some resistance, but not enough to try to win the match. The emphasis is not on winning but fun. Physical contact and holds are more important than who wins the match. Usually the guy is defensive in his style of wrestling, while the girl is offensive, trying to put him into various wrestling holds. This style of wrestling allows the client to test the strength and skills of his female competitor without the intensity or injury risk of a competitive match.

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Male vs Female Wrestling

Now that we have determined the true meaning of fantasy wrestling vs semi competitive. What is the confusion between these two fetishes? I’m really not sure, for some unknown reason men at times interpret both fantasy wrestling and semi competitive as FULL COMPETITIVE. Even though most female wrestlers clearly state on their websites and in email communication that they DON’T offer competitive wrestling due to the increased risk of injury.

I think it’s fair to say that most female session wrestlers have experienced a “BAD Wrestling Session” at some stage throughout their career, including myself. If a girl has a bad experience with a client and feels her safety was compromised, this will often result in the girl reporting the guy on session girls as a warning to other session wrestlers.

Speaking from my own experience, I have taken bookings from guys requesting either Fantasy or Semi Competitive wrestling. Then on session day, within minutes of the wrestling session starting, they go full competitive, their goal, to WIN by any means possible. I can understand how some men might misunderstand the term slight resistance in semi comp. With regards to fantasy wrestling I really don’t grasp WTF they are thinking.

I pride myself on clear communication in emails for two reasons 1) Clients receive the session type they have requested and are more likely to rebook 2) Everyone is clear on the do’s and don’ts, and neither party is offended or injured.

How To Book a Session Wrestler or Dominatrix

Mixed Wrestling Story

Below is an example from previous session several months ago. We call our subject John for the purposes of this story. John books a semi competitive wrestling session outlining in his emails that he has sessioned before. He enjoys head scissors, chokes, schoolgirl pins with an element of face sitting.

I ask John his height, weight and what his interpretation of semi competitive wrestling is. I also mention that I DO NOT OFFER COMPETITIVE. John replied stating that he would like a friendly match, but really just enjoys some light wrestling with domination. Current weight 225 lbs, height 6ft 4in.

John was a good match, so I booked him in. Upon arrival John did indeed seem nice, we chatted briefly for a few minutes before starting the session. I did not get any indication on Johns actual intentions until several minutes into the session. John clearly had his own agenda.

Competitive Wrestling

John was after a full competitive wrestling match, not what he originally booked. This really pisses me off as I clearly explain in emails and on my website that I DO NOT OFFER FULL COMPETITIVE. I let the session continue placing John into several choke holds, big guys are strong but run out of gas fast. This still didn’t deter John and at one point he threw me across the room banging my head on the floor.

At this point I was ready to end the session, but he apologised and after a few minutes I continued. The session re-commenced and initially the intensity was dialled down, but this didn’t last for long. John was still using way to much force considering I was half his size, during one move he clipped the side of my face with his elbow, I had enough, I was furious.

I managed to place John into a rear naked choke, took a large deep breath, pushed his head forward and down, cutting off his air supply. It wasn’t long before John was out cold.

I released the choke letting John recover, then ordered him to leave the room, the session was over. Although things could have been much worse, I escaped with just a bump on my head and a bruise on my cheek. Had it not been for the private wrestling lessons that I have been attending, things could have been much worse.

Semi Comp Wrestling Hazards

Often girls will not want to end a session early, due to upsetting a client and receiving a bad review, despite the client putting the girl in an uncomfortable position.

From experience, I have learnt that if a session doesn’t feel right in the first few minutes. I will stop the session, give the client the opportunity to cool down and lower their resistance. If the same behaviour continues and I feel that my safety is compromised, I will end the session.

Thankfully it doesn’t happen very often, and is very rare, clearer communication in emails and checking the time wasters list on session girls helps to weed out, time wasters and dangerous clients.

Booking a Mixed Wrestling Session

Both female session wrestlers and male clients have their own interpretations of “fantasy wrestling vs semi competitive”. It is vital that there is clear communication and boundaries set, so to avoid disappointment and injury. There will always be dangerous men who wish to hurt women, hopefully with better communication between fellow wrestlers. Men with this type of agenda can be avoided or at the very least reported to warn others, girl power.

Interested in booking a session with Sara? check out my Tours page for my latest travel destinations. You can find a comprehensive list of services I offer with fetish descriptions on my Booking page. PLEASE only inquire if you are serious about booking, my time is limited. Remember to check out my latest articles on my Blog and Follow Sara on Twitter.

I starting writing this article several weeks ago due to the number of requests that I was receiving for the fetish “Jerk Off Instruction” abbreviated to (JOI). While there are similarities between certain fetishes, I wanted to address the difference between Jerk off Instruction vs Orgasm Denial.

In case you’re wondering, the answer is YES, I do offer both fetishes in sessions. If I have peaked your interest, let’s get down to the official textbook meaning for each individual fetish.

Jerk off Instruction vs Orgasm Denial

Jerk Off Instruction : Giving someone instruction on how to jerk off, and or masturbate for pleasure.

Orgasm Denial : The act of not letting a man have an orgasm for a stipulated period time.

While each fetish has its own separate meaning, personally from my experience and requests from clients. Both kinks are closely related especially within the context of Femdom JOI.

Instructional Masterbation

Men will book a JOI session with a mistress/dominatrix requesting that she watch while instructing them on how to “Jerk Off”. The thrill and excitement of being watched (voyeurism) by a beautiful, strong, dominate women is, according to past clients, a mind-blowing experience.

Men are very much visual creatures, that’s one of the reasons men LOVE porn. Watching porn increases a hormone called Dopamine by as much as 200%, which is the key neurotransmitter involved in stimulating orgasms.

Next time your Jerking OFF, imagine a beautiful, half naked women instructing you “How To Jerk Off”. How would you feel?

Jerk Off Instruction Femdom Session 

1) I want you to take off all your clothes and show me your erection
2) DO NOT CUM until instructed to do so, I do not like to be dissapointed
3) Stroke your cock twisting the skin as you slide your hand up and down your cock
4) When I click my fingers, STOP jerking your cock immediately so I can watch as it pulsates
5) Begin Jerking your cock again and this time grab your balls and squeeze them hard
6) Now kneel down on all fours and keep jerking your cock while I watch your balls hang
7) DO NOT CUM Yet, wait for my command.
8) I’m going to put my finger in your ass and count to 10. DO NOT CUM till I reach ZERO


Above is a brief synopsis of what might happen in a JOI femdom session. Jerk Off Instruction is all about handing over control to another person, Mistress, Dominatrix or Partner. With regards to Jerk off instruction vs Orgasm Denial, I am sure your starting to see how one fetish compliments the other. Even though they are separate fetishes in their own right, both merge beautifully together.

Extended Orgasm Denial

Orgasm denial is a form of domination where a mistress controls the mans orgasm. You’re not allowed to orgasm until given permission to do so, we are not talking hours, but weeks or even months. Mistresses may use a chastity cage to ensure that no masterbation occurs and that their slave is completely under their control.

If I had to choose a preference between the two fetishes. I would opt for Jerk Off Instruction over Orgasm Denial. I enjoy dominating men, in the moment, watching them squirm, teasing and denying orgasm, but in the end I also enjoy mutual satisfaction.

As I mentioned earlier I do offer Orgsam Denial, but within the context of a booked session.

Small Penis Humiliation

Another fetish that is closely related to jerk off instruction is Small Penis Humiliation. Some men get off being ridiculed for the size of their cock. Combine SPH with JOI and you have two fetishes that combine, verbal humiliation, voyeurism and jerk off instruction.

I do offer a service “Rate My Penis” where you can purchase an Amazon Gift Voucher, then email me several images of your cock, both flaccid and erect for an overall score out of 10.

Jerk Off Instruction vs Orgasm Denial

What are your thoughts? Which fetish do you prefer? Have you experienced one or both of these fetishes? I would love to hear your thoughts. You can follow and comment on twitter @MissSaraLips. Interested in booking a JOI session, check out my latest tour dates as I may be coming to a city near you. If your based in the UK, I frequently travel to London and live a short distance from Belfast and Dublin.

Book a Jerk Off Instruction Session, with Sara Lips. Answering the questions below in your initial inquiry helps me to better understand you, the person. DEPOSITS ARE REQUIRED NO EXCEPTIONS!

Tribute to Cum Questionnaire

1) How many times can you cum in 60 mins
2) What size is your cock and can you maintain an erection
3) Do you enjoy verbal humiliation and trash talking
4) Do you have good orgasm control
5) BDSM turn ons and turn offs
6) Do you enjoy ballbusting or cock slapping
7) Does anal play heighten your orgasm

Jerk Off Instruction (FAQ’s)

Facesitting is one of the more erotic fetishes that I offer, if you search the term Facesitting Mistress, Google will return an astonishing 108,000,000 results. So it would be fair to say that sitting on a mans face is a popular fetish. Men will book a face sitting session with sole purpose of having a female sit on their face.

Why Men Love Facesitting?

Relating to my own own personal experiences, and having spoken to clients who love facesitting. I believe for many it is the aspect of control many men enjoy within facesitting. The feeling of humiliation, body worship, intimacy, sex odours and the inability to control your breathing causes a heightened sexual arousal. Many men also seem to enjoy verbal trash talking during a facesitting session, that feeling of being at the complete mercy of their mistress.

Queening Fetish

Facesitting, is also known as queening or kinging. Jay Wiseman’s “Erotic Bondage Handbook,” defines it as “sitting or squatting over the face so that the anal (sphincter) or genital area is pressed against the mans face.” She says “It has the implication of forced oral and can incorporate breath play control and smothering. The experience can be heightened by the dominatrix / mistress trash talking to the submissive while sitting on his face.”

Facesitting Outfit Requests

Over the years I have had many clothing requests for face sitting sessions (Jeans, Leggings, Underwear, Swimsuit, G String, Spandex, Tights, Leather, PVC, Lingerie, Mini Skirt).

Face sitting positions is another important factor e.g forward vs reverse vs the hoover position where the female squats over the mans face. Some men request that their arms be locked using your feet or rope, completely immobilising them.

If there is a particular outfit that you wish me to wear and I do not currently own the item of clothing, you can 1)Purchase the item and bring it with you, please check with me for my size. 2) Include the cost of the item in your deposit, including any postage costs. I will then purchase the item and bring it with me.

Facesitting Fetish

Life events, especially in our early childhood years, seem to have a significant impact on our lives. Over the years I have questioned clients as to how their fetish or fetishes evolved. Many have reminisced of an  earlier childhood experience with a female not necessarily of the same age. To quote a previous clients first hand experience of how his face sitting fetish evolved.

“I was playing with my older female cousin who was 14 years old at the time. My interest in girls had significantly increased since I hit puberty. I remember one day in particular, my cousin was wearing a short skirt and tight top. At times we would play wrestle to see who was the strongest, on this occasion out of know where she flipped me onto my back and sat on my face.

Part of me was in shock, yet incredibly aroused. I could feel the soft skin of her bum and panties touching my face and mouth. Her bum engulfed my face cutting off my air supply and I couldn’t see a thing. I remember the feeling of helplessness, lack of oxygen and her sweet scent”.

I have thought about my first facesitting experience with my cousin countless times, Ever since then, facesitting, ass smothering and ass worship have been my all time favourite fetishes”.

Face Smothering – Breathe Play

Full pressure face sitting can also be referred to as Face Smother or Ass Smothering. The two are very similar in nature, however with face smothering the individual is deprived of oxygen. Such an effect can induce a semi-hallucinogenic state. Combine this with an orgasm, is said to be the equivalent to cocaine.

A 2005 book chapter by Dr Brenda Love (in Russ Kick’s Everything You Know About Sex is Wrong) examined some of the strangest sexual behaviours from around the world and included a short section on queening (face sitting).

She wrote:
“The term queening refers to the European practice of a dominant female (dominatrix) using a man’s head as her throne. The woman sits in one of several positions, either on the side of the man’s head or so that his nose is near her anus with his eyes covered by her genitals. The object of queening is bondage or breath control, not cunnilingus”.

Facesitting Escort

I thought I should mention that while I do offer erotic facesitting, I do not offer full service. Of course you could hire the services of a facesiting escort who provides a GFE experience. Depending on what you wish to experience, facesitting with sex or facesitting with domination will determine your decision.

Facesitting Mistress

Hire the services of a facesitting mistress is a simple process, first fill in my contact form with the relevant information, (Location, Date, Time, Type of Session, etc). All BDSM sessions require a deposit before they are confirmed. You can find my latest tour dates published on my website, Tours and on Session Girls.

I frequent London on a regular basis, every 4 – 6 weeks, staying in Central London. I am also available for BDSM sessions in my home country of Ireland, (Dublin).

If you have just stumbled across my website and are considering booking your first wrestling / domination session. Or maybe your a seasoned veteran thinking of challenging Sara. Well, your in good hands, I pride myself in delivering first class wrestling / domination sessions across the globe. As a testament to the level of service I provide, I have included a review from a previous client who describes his experience In detail.

Mixed Wrestling Review

Sara Lips. Wow.

Before I get into the meat of things, let me start by saying that Sara is one of the easiest people to work with, a real professional. While she won’t suffer a time waster, she’s very communicative, willing to work with you, approachable and honest. She responded to me in a timely manner, far faster than just about anyone I’ve ever worked with. I don’t begrudge other session wrestlers for taking their time, I understand that they lead busy lives, but I appreciate that she has such a personal touch. This continued to when we met in person. She was welcoming and quiet, with a lovely smile and a glowing face. Very pleasant.

Then the session started, and she changed from this sweet, happy person into the meanest person on Earth. Like a switch.

I really can’t stress enough just how oppressive Sara is. In the short time I’ve been doing session wrestling, I’ve probably wrestled women who had a technical advantage over Sara, who’ve been practicing martial arts for years, but in terms of sheer, raw power? Second to none. She looks strong in her pictures, yes, but that’s nothing compared to actually feeling her body bearing down on you, to having this mass of muscle crushing you from above. I’m a fairly strong guy, about six feet tall, in good shape, and she steamrolled me. When she gets on top, there’s just no stopping her from having her way. You can fight, you can struggle, you can squirm, you can beg, you can plead, but she WILL have her way with you. She’s a juggernaut, she just keeps coming.

Her legs are her most dangerous asset, and they’re every bit as powerful as you’d guess from her videos. I’m sure some women have guys fake things a bit in there shoots, act like the scissors hurt more than they really are, but I can confidently state that this isn’t the case with her – her legs HURT. Everything below her waist is like iron, unyielding, whether it’s her legs crushing your skull like a walnut or she’s sitting on your face, pressing down on you with her full weight.

It’s terrifying power, but it wouldn’t mean much if the women wielding it didn’t have the right attitude. Sara does. It’s honestly eerie, how she can go from this nice, soft spoken women to this dangerous, horror of a dominatrix, but she pulls it off perfectly. She has this look of utter disdain, like you’re just an ant to crush under her heel, like she could snuff you out at a moment’s notice and not even have a second thought. She talk trash, makes you feel low, grinds away at you. It’s a humbling experience but if you’re looking for true domination, there are few who can match her.

I know it sounds like I’m gushing and exaggerating, but I’m just being honest: Sara is 100%. It was a treat for her to visit my city, and I could definitely see myself traveling a fair distance for the pleasure again. If she’s ever in your area, or even close, check her out. She’s a rare woman.

Mixed wrestling review, originally posted on Session Girls by Lasthero

Mixed Wrestling Bookings

Please do not mistake my pleasant manner for weakness, I do not tolerate time wasters and deposits are required, no exceptions. Sorry but I have to stress the importance of these factors.

Interested in booking a domination session, please use my contact form filling in the relevant info. Remember to check out my tours page for my latest travel dates. When I’m not on tour you can find me for most part in London, Dublin and Ireland.

Understandably I receive a lot of emails, so it is important to be clear that you are looking to book. Please mention in your first response, (location, date, times, fetishes) as this helps me greatly.

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If you have never heard of the fetish small penis humiliation (SPH) your certainly not on your own. I first came across SPH several years ago, after receiving an email request asking if I offered SPH. Initially I thought, what the hell is SPH, but after a quick search on google, my initial thoughts where confirmed. SPH being the abbreviated version for small penis humiliation. My life as a session wrestler / dominatrix is never dull with everyday a perverted adventure.

What is Small Penis Humiliation?

I’m sure you can hazard a guess and you would be right. Some men have a fetish consisting of being ridiculed, mocked and degraded for the size of their penis.

Not all men who have a small penis fetish actually have a micro willy.

SPH Official Definition : A domination fetish where a man is subjected to comments & gestures about the supposed inadequate size of his penis, & because of such his inability to please a woman, which implies his worthlessness as a man. 

What Size is Your Penis?

I think every man at some point in his life has whipped out a tape measure or ruler and measured their penis. Over the years travelling the world I have seen every size of penis imaginable from 1 inch micro cocks to 10 inch monster cocks, my favourite are the thick ones, Mmmm!

It really doesn’t matter the size of the penis, SPH is all about degrading and mocking the submissive for his worthlessness as man. This can be done in various ways, below are examples from previous small penis humiliation sessions.

Penis Size (comparisons)

Submissive is ordered to strip naked and stand in the corner. After some time has passed, submissive is ordered to present his penis for measurement. An overall measurement of the penis is taken while flaccid and at times erect. Various implements are held beside the penis as a size comparison (dildo, condom, cigarette, banana).

Jerk of Instruction (JOI)

Clients who request extreme small penis humiliation may be subjected to both Penis measuring and Jerk of Instruction. Personally for me watching a micro dick jerk off is just embarrassing, but I do love to watch out of sheer amusement.

Submissive is ordered to stand in front of me naked and jerk off to my instructions. Verbal abuse, humiliating comments and degradation follow. For men who have a small penis fetish being forced to jerk off their pindick in the presence of dominant female is the ultimate shame.

Online Small Penis Humiliation

With most of the population connected, its not surprising that male domination has a lucrative online presence. Many mistresses offering paid domination services, via webcam, face time, skype, text and email.

The penis rating system, a paid service where men send a pic of their penis asking for a rating along with objectifying comments. With a recent fluctuation in email requests for Rate My Small Penis”. I have decided to offer small dick domination service, available online for any submissive who is not able to met in person. Details of this service can be found below.

Small Penis Mockery

Terms frequently used during Small Penis Humiliation include: Baby Cock, Baby Dick, Button Dick, Dicklet, Inch Worm, Little Chad, Little Dick, Little Pecker, Little Penis, Maggot Dick, Micro Penis, Minidick, Needle Dick, One Inch Wonder, Pindick, Runt Dick, Small Dick Man, Tiny Cock, Tiny Dick, Tit Dick.

There are even more degrading phrases that can be found in the Urban Dictionary : Small Penis Humiliation. My favourite is Needle Dick, who says words can’t hurt. Did you know that, as of recently a small penis emoji that has been released. Not only can mistresses degrade their slaves with words but now with emoji’s.

small penis humiliation emoji

Cruel, Mmm, NO. Remember these types of men get off being ridiculed about the size of their penis, I don’t judge. I fulfil mens fantasies regardless of how strange they may seem to others.

Extreme Small Penis Humiliation

SPH has a close cousin, CUCKHOLDING, both are closely related as both fetishes objectify the size of the mans penis. Cucking is a more extreme version of small penis humiliation involving the submissive’s partner having intercourse with another well endowed man (bull).

There are a great number of men who enjoy the fetish cuckholding. I don’t want to delve to far into the topic as I might write a separate article devoted to the topic.

Booking a Small Dick Humiliation Session

If you are interested in booking a SPH session, please use my contact form filling in the relevant info. Don’t be afraid to expand on the type of session you wish to experience. Remember to check out my latest tours, alternatively when i’m not travelling, you can find me for most part in London, Dublin and Ireland.

Rate my Small Penis – Online Domination

Purchase an amazon gift voucher fill in the relevant fields using the example voucher below. Upon receipt of your gift voucher, I will request a picture of your penis for evaluation. This will involve an overall “Rate My Small Penis” score from 1 – 10 including my own personal opinions.

In an earlier article I wrote on sensual wrestling I touched on whether there are advantages to booking an escort who offers full service. Today I want to discuss hiring the services of a BDSM companion, rather than an escort. You might ask yourself is this not just an escort. Mmm, not quiet the same, let me explain.

When a women advertises herself as an escort, most people assume that she is offering sex. When in actual fact, escorts are paid for their time not sex. That time can be spent however the escort and client wish.

BDSM Companion

Companion, a person with whom one spends a lot of time or with whom one travels. The context of an escort and companion are very similar, society has associated sex with the word Escort. A companion on the other hand is someone who you wish to spend extended periods of time with. Or someone hired to help another. Words carry power, by simply changing the term, escort to companion, suddenly sex is not so evident.

Dominatrix and Companion

Due to the complexity of the session requests I fulfil during my tours and the recurring bookings I receive. I like to think of myself as not just a session wrestler, dominatrix, but a companion. Yes, guys book my services to be beat up, dominated, scissored and even kicked in the balls. But at times there is a connection, something shared, a new experience, a great conversation or a simple endorphins rush.

Sara’s Companionship

I’m not one for being spoiled or asking for handouts, its simply not how I was brought up. I earn my money by delivering top notch bdsm sessions across the globe.

I won’t say I have never been spoiled during my travels, I have eaten in some lovely restaurants, enjoyed drinks and great conversation with clients in the past. Unfortunately my time is limited while on tour and although I receive invites for dinner, drinks etc, most of the time I am unable to oblige.

Booking a BDSM Companion

After much thought, I have decided to extend my services for those who wish to book longer bookings (private) with Sara. BDSM bookings (half day) would be outside the scope of my normal tours, therefor giving me the time to focus on our session.

Bookings of this nature tend to incorporate more than just acting out our fantasies and desires. Time constraints are removed when booking longer sessions, giving both parties the chance to delve deeper into your kinks and desires.

BDSM Session Example

Half Day Booking (4.5 hours)

3:00 Drinks, Conversation

3:15 Scissor Domination/Wrestling

4:00 Body Worship / Massage

4:30 Break (coffee, drinks)

4:45 Ass Worship w/Breath Play

5:15 Bondage w/ Tease

5:45 Break (clothing change)

6:00 Dinner, drinks

Please note : Meals, drinks or other activities agreed upon must be incorporated into the half day booking, unless booking time is extended.


BDSM Escort London

My bdsm companion services apply to countries within Europe and Ireland. Unfortunately it is not financially viable to travel to the US for private wrestling, bdsm sessions. Should you wish to book a half day session with myself and this is our first session. Then please fill out the relevant fields on my booking form.

Half day session bookings do not include, flights or accommodation. Deposits are required for all bookings, please read my testimonials on the quality of service I deliver. A full list of fetishes I cater for can be found on my London Dominatrix page. If there are fetishes that are not mentioned on my list, please just ask, as I do try to accommodate all reasonable requests.

Sara Lips BDSM Companion

Previous in an earlier article I delved into the world of foot fetishes and foot worship. While closely related, trampling is another fetish that involves the feet. It surprises me how popular foot fetishes are. Accordingly to my Google analytics, foot worship London, foot fetish and foot domination are some of the most popular search terms. Foot trampling domination is the topic for today’s article, a fetish that I offer as one of my specialities.

What is Foot Trampling?

While the explanations from both Wikipedia and Urban dictionary do explain briefly what trampling involves, there is so much more to this strange, but unique fetish. Trampling takes on many forms and can mean different things to each person.

Wikipedia, “Trampling refers to the sexual activity that involves being trampled underfoot by another person or persons”

Urban Dictionary, “Standing or walking on one’s body, especially the face and sexual organs as part of an extreme foot fetish.

Below are my own interpretations of trampling sub categories’ based on personal experiences with clients who enjoy foot trampling.

Trampling the Pain Junkie

Trampling as you can imagine can cause pain, and is closely related to sadomasochism. Individuals who love feet and trampling, will often request that footwear (shoes, boots or high heels) rather than bare feet, be worn, for the reasons of inflicting more pain. I have refereed to these types before as “Pain Junkies” sexual arousal through pain, heightened by the presence of beautiful women (mistress).

Foot Domination Trampling

For others trampling has a different meaning, for the submissive man, foot trampling relates to submission, obedience and worship. The ultimate show of admiration, as to lie under the feet of their mistress. Sessions of this nature can involve the submissive being trampled, stomped, kicked, choked and even used as a human foot rest by their mistress. Pain may be also inflicted should their mistress feel that it is warranted.

Trampling Feet and Sexual Arousal

Some men have such a fascination with feet that any activity, trampling, foot worship, foot domination causes sexual arousal.

“Scientist Vilayanur Ramachandran, concluded through experimentation that sections of the brain, which are associated with feet, are positioned next to the sections in the brain associated with genitalia. Ramachandran speculated that those who are turned on by feet may be experiencing sexual stimulation, because the wires in their brain linked to the feet and the genitals have become mixed up”.

Vilayanur Subramanian Ramachandran (neuroscientist)

For individuals with such an admiration for feet. Sessions requests can at times involve a mixture of foot trampling, and foot domination. Painful trampling in high heels, changing to foot domination where the individual is stomped, choked and gagged using the feet.

Book Sara Lips, foot mistress London, touring every 4 – 6 weeks

Giantess Trample

The fetish Macrophilia translates to a lover of large. Men who have this type of fetish enjoy trampling sessions with women who are particularly tall or have freakishly large feet. Domination, degradation, helplessness and feeling small under a Giant (giantesses) feet.

Being only 5 foot 6 inches tall, this sub category of trampling doesn’t apply to me as much as others.

My stats 75kg, 166lbs, feet size UK 6, EU 40, US 7

The Human Carpet

An interesting article I came across featured in the NY Times tells the story of a 48 year old immigrant called Georgeo T, nick name “The Human Carpet”. Georgeo’s love for trampling started in his early childhood years where he remembers” I loved to have weights on me” and “I like when my cats would walk on me”.

Georgeo makes his living from trampling, charging two hundred dollars per gig. Although now a paid hobby, Georgeo insists that he just loves to be trampled. He is regularly booked at fetish clubs where he rolls himself up in an old carpet and invites patrons to walk, stomp and stand on him. The more people that walk on me, the higher they jump, the more enjoyable the experience, he explains.

Sara’s Thoughts on Trampling

My personal experiences have lead me to believe that while there are several sub categories of trampling. Most foot trampling sessions for me involve both trampling and foot domination. Session requests vary with men wanting nothing more than to feel the weight of you bearing down on their chest. Kneeling, sitting and stomping are very popular.

I have previously performed foot trampling sessions involving foot gagging. My feet forced into the mouth of the client, at times using my toes to stretch the mouth open, while verbally abusing my victim.

Clients will also request that smelly socks or nylons be worn during the session. I remember wearing a pair of socks every time I went to the gym for two weeks. I placed them in a sealed bag and brought them with me to wear. At the end of the session he asked if he could have them, which of course I obliged.

Some clients also wish to be naked during a trampling session and enjoy an element of light ball busting. As I mention in an earlier article I love Ball Busting, so torturing a mans cock and balls using my feet is somewhat erotic.

Book a Foot Trampling Session

Interested in worshipping Sara Lips Feet? Please use my contact form filling in the relevant information. Be sure to check out my tour page to see want country I’m heading to next. When I’m not travelling, you will find me in London as I am there every 4 – 6 weeks. If you would like to know what other services with descriptions I offer, head over to my session page, there is a FREE video of Sara.

Are you considering having your first domination session with a London Pro Domme (dominatrix). Most guys will come in for their very first session, a complete and utter nervous wreck. What are the tell tale signs? Well everyone reacts differently, but usually the majority of men will be experiencing a mixture of excitement and anxiety, at the same time. So it is only normal that you may appear awkward, fidgety or perhaps have the tendency to talk too much or too little to cover your nervous feelings. This why I have developed a Beginners guide to booking a dominatrix in London, UK.

Remember, however, that some of these nervous symptoms will always happen, naturally occurring, when meeting someone new. Experiencing nerves can be a good thing as it gets our adrenaline pumping. The one thing, all first time session goers have in common, is that they leave feeling relieved, happy and proud of themselves for finally booking a dominatrix. Some will even wish they conquered their initial fear a lot sooner, shocked at how easy, and exciting their experience turned out be.

Mistresses Online Presence is Not Reality

Our online presence is a persona of our true self, you may see us as intimidating and unapproachable. I know this, because in my videos I play myself with a vicious streak and no empathy, “Princess Pain” however this does not mean that I play this character in all of my sessions, or in my real life. I can adapt to many different session styles from playful to extreme and I am confident that many other dominatrix’s can do the same.

“An alter ego is a second self, which is believed to be distinct from a person’s normal or true original personality. A person who has an alter ego is said to lead a double life”.

Having admired us from afar, can also make us dominatrix’s seem untouchable, a celebrity to you. I remember meeting one client for the first time who was so nervous, said to me, “I haven’t meet anyone as famous as you,” to which I looked at him as if he had two heads, and said “me, famous?” I’d never heard something so hilarious in all my life.

Portrayed Persona and Alter Ego’s

People forget that we are just normal people, like they are. We laugh, we joke, we cry. I guess we just happen to be more open minded and experienced than other women, with regards to the BDSM lifestyle. Remember, at one point, we were newbies, we were nervous and it was OUR first time too. 

I’ve had a wide range of clients, ages 18 and all the way up to 80 years of age, I kid you not. Whatever their age or reason, they where delighted to have booked their first domination session. A secret world they always knew deep down they belonged.

Beginners Guide, Booking a Dominatrix Key Points

1. Things you should consider when booking a mistress (session goals / fetishes interests).
2. How to search for a dominatrix, where do I look?
3. Tips on how to book a dominatrix (mistress) and finalise a session
4.What happens after you have booked the session

Step 1: What am I Looking For?

Some men will know exactly what they are looking for. Other men are somewhat undecided and will only learn what they favour after their first few sessions. It’s okay to tell your mistress that it’s your first time and that you are not exactly sure what fetishes you are into. However, you should try to have a general idea of a few fetishes that you would like to try.

Make a list of the things you are interested in and would like to try. Don’t leave anything out even if you assume a Dominatrix doesn’t offer it. Below you will find a few questions I have drawn up, you can ask yourself. Hopefully you can get a better sense of what you would like to experience. Not every question may apply to you, but this is all part of the fun in establishing what fetishes appeal to you.

Why do you want to see a Dominatrix?

The answer to this can be anything from to feel their power, to be humiliated, controlled or even punished. The list is endless. Find out what your primary goals are.

What types of fetishes intrigue you?

This is similar to the above question, however instead of relating to feelings, you will try and relate to the activities (fetishes) that you would like to experience or enjoy fantasying about. If you find it hard to express your fantasies in words, short video clips, (strap-on, bondage, scissoring, ball busting) are a great way of showing your mistress how you envisage your first session experience. PLEASE NOTE : this is not an excuse for sending random porn videos with the line “will you do this”.

Are you submissive?

I have found during my time as a female wrestler / dominatrix, that there are two types of men. One simply wants to surrender, loves to be taken charge of and controlled by a dominant woman. The other, the resister, enjoys being forced, punished, abused and beaten into submissiveness. It is important to note also that in session wrestling, it is often the desire of the man to be dominated and beaten. However this does not mean that all men who wrestle are submissive, as some men, simply love rolling about with a beautiful women, feeling their power for fun.

Are you a masochist?

Their are varying levels of masochism (pain), everyone is different. It is important to identify if this is what you like. If you dislike receiving pain, you are definitely not a masochist.

“Masochist, someone who obtains sexual gratification from being physically or emotionally abused, humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself”.

If you like pain! remember to portray correctly the level of pain you would like to experience during your session. Always inform your dominatrix of your pain tolerance for the fetish requested. The last thing you want is to mention confidently that you can take a lot of pain, only to find out that a swift kick to the balls, has you weeping on the floor like a 10 year old girl.

You may thoroughly enjoy the pain associated with caning, flogging, slapping. Other fetishes (CBT, Ball Busting, Strap-on, Needle Play) are on another level, when it comes to pain. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU REQUEST!

Do you enjoy role-plays?

Do you enjoy acting out fantasy scenarios, some of which may include: (Teacher, School Girl, Boss, Secretary, Assassin, Spies, Amazons, Comic Characters) then you would enjoy sessions with a role play emphasis.

Do you fantasise about being a slave? 

If you have a strong desire to belong to a dominatrix and be trained by her. It is most likely that you are a deeper kind of submissive called a slave, fetish speciality (slave training).

Do you enjoy being restrained? 

For certain individuals the thought of being restrained using, rope, cuffs, cling film or tape, can derive sensual pleasure from the feeling of helplessness and immobility. Additional forms of BDSM can be performed while being restrained enhancing the experience. Spanking, flogging, strap-on, orgasm denial are popular fetishes that compliment being restrained.

Do you fantasy about particular items of clothing?

Certain individuals have a fetish for (High Heels, Boots, Leather, PVC, Latex, Gloves, Stockings and Pantyhose). Session requests generally include a particular fetish accompanied by an item of clothing to be worn during the session to complete the fantasy. 

Fantasise about a particular body part? 

You are most likely into a form fetish involving a part or parts of the body : feet, calve, ass, muscle, hands, legs etc. Other fetishes that are similar in nature, ass worship, face sitting may also be of interest to you. Sessions include, domination or worship, depending on the fantasy.

Are you interested in being degraded?

Surprisingly, many men wish to be degraded by their mistress, made to serve them.  Session can include, Face Slapping, Whipping, Over the Knee (OTK), Spitting, Orgasm Denial, Verbal Abuse, Findom are all fetishes that degrade men.

Interested in water sports or hard sports?

Some hardcore individuals fantasies about having their mistress urinate (water sports) or defecate (hard sports) on them. If your into any type of extreme toilet fetish, water sports or scat. There are two mistresses who are queens of scat. Mistress Evelyn and Ingrid Frost, these girls are hardcore.

There are so many forms of BDSM and session activities, above are just a few popular fetish specialities, the list goes on. Below is comprehensive list of fetishes.

Ball Busting – Ass Worship – Face Slapping – Forced Bi – Wrestling – Age Play – Chastity Play – Spitting – Smoking – Cross Dressing – Orgasm Denial – Smothering – Strap-on – Corporal Punishment – Bondage _ Medical Play – Cuckhold – Small Penis Humiliation – Face Sitting – Slave Training – Electrics – Puppy Training – Spanking – CBT – Body Worship – Feminisation – Verbal Abuse – Hard Sports – Water Sports – Findom – Breath Play – Humiliation – Roleplay – Wax Play  – Foot and Boot Worship – Trampling – Double Domme – Tie and Tease – Sissy Training – Mummification – Latex and PVC – Wax Play – Anal Play – Interrogations – Sensory Deprivation – Needle Play

Step 2: Booking a Dominatrix London

Trying to find a Pro Domme, is easier said than done. One dominatrix may have the perfect look, but doesn’t offer the fetishes you like. Another may offer the activities you like, but doesn’t have the look you desire : tall, strong, busty etc. Here are some tips on how to find the perfect mistress.

Most professional dominatrix’s will have a website, featuring well-written content, gallery, fetish interests, reviews, contact info, social media links. Some mistresses also include their rates.

A great tip I have received from a client. If you go onto a mistresses social media account, most pro dommes have a twitter account. Here you can see their latest tweets, pictures and videos etc. This is a great way to tell how active a mistress is within the BDSM community.

Do your Research

With a little research you quickly ascertain the main fetish interests of a dominatrix. It may be common practice for a pro domme to list many fetish interests, but in reality they only really specialise in a small number. For example, I am well known as female wrestler, with bone crushing scissors. I can literally crush a guy between my thighs, thats my speciality, male domination through raw power.

Are you looking for a dominatrix with a large amount of technical skills, go with a long-time experienced Domme who has been around the BDSM community and has a large online presence vs someone new. I myself can look back at my first year as a  session wrestler, how I have evolved and developed in the past few years.

Dominatrixes Don’t Offer SEX!

Most pro domme’s do not engage in sexual acts, if you are after more of a sensual domination session. Check first, before booking a dominatrix, describe your ideal session scenario. You should be polite when doing so, for instance you could say, “I know this is unlikely and forgive me if you do not, but I just wanted to know if you offer …………… In a session, it is not a deal breaker if you don’t but I would just wanted to know what your limits are in a session to see if our interests match‘.

Background Check

Another way of checking the legitimacy of a mistress before booking, is to fact check her images using Google’s Image Search. Everyone knows that you can check google for images, but did you know that you can use google to track and verify images. The tool is simple to use and allows you to see where a particular images appears across the web, including custom date ranges.

Track and Verify Information about an Image

Read Reviews

Most Pro Dommes will ask for a deposit, to protect her from any loss of income, should you decide to cancel a session within an unreasonable time frame. Perform the simple checks above, image search, cross reference websites with social media accounts and read reviews. If everything checks out, you can feel confident in sending a deposit. Established dominatrixes have reputations to protect and have no interest in scamming you out of your deposit.

STEP 3. Booking a Dominatrix

When corresponding with a pro-domme, remember to be polite. Ask questions if you have them. A dominatrix is accustomed to working with nervous newcomers. Just remember that she isn’t a mind reader. If you have a strange fetish that is not listed on her website, mention it. Chances are she has heard of it before. If your fetish imposes on one of her hard limits, respect her boundaries just as she will respect yours.

Stop, Think first before initial communication

Before sounding like a nervous wreck on the phone or sending her hundreds emails because you forgot to ask all your questions the first time. Stop, make a mental list of the things you want to ask her like, availability, location, rates and fetish requests. Make sure she did not already answer your questions on her website or sister websites and you simply skipped over reading it.

Tell her what you are into but don’t write her a novel. She will only assume you are some horny creep spanking his monkey. Be as professional sounding as possible. From the moment we read your first sentence, we are scanning your email for warning signs “flakes and time wasters.” People who are serious about booking a session, will state their interests, dates, times. It is always good practice to mention that paying a deposit is not an issue.

How to contact a dominatrix

Popular dominatrix’s will receive a significant amount of emails daily. It is her job to weed out the good from the bad. To ensure you receive a response it is important to seem genuine, your email can be descriptive and informative but try to keep it to the point and state that you are interested in booking a session.

Perfect Email Example

“ Dear Sara

My name is David. I am new to the domination scene and very nervous but decided I would like to do my first ever session with you. Your website is very informative and I have watched some of your videos and think you fit the bill perfectly. I would like to book a one hour session with you on your next London Tour announced on session girls.

I have a leg fetish and would love to be scissored by you and then made worship them. I like the idea of a Dominant woman controlling me. I am not sure what my pain threshold is as I have never been scissored before but would like to see how much I can handle. I used to watch glow and loved to admire the girls in there outfits. Is it possible that you can wear a leotard with tights or pantyhose?

I am available on the Thursday from 7pm onward and on the Friday between 9am – 3pm. Where will you be located and when are you available? If you have any other questions regarding me, please feel free to ask me

I look forward to hearing back from you
Regards
David

This email ticks all the boxes. This is because a good email, should let us know your interests, experience, where you are looking to do the session i.e city we are visiting or dungeon we are listed on. How long a session you would like to book, dates and times.

How Not to Contact a Dominatrix

BTW, these are actual emails I have received and pulled from my time waster list as example’s

“I’m oie,session in NEWYORK !Your welcome to stay, im single!What R U yrainrd in”? (I’m sorry but I have no idea what you are saying! Nothing as as off-putting as bad grammar. I also have no interest as to whether you are single, in a relationship or married.)

Dear Sara

“May I remind you that wrestling is actually a male profession and sport since the dawn of time. In the natural scheme of things, there are roles which are specifically dedicated to men and women due to their psycho physical nature ie, natures laws.

But since women are not prepared to be co-operative and keep to their natural position in society, many problems develop further on. As you are aware that women are culture carriers and when this balance is slightly corrupted
due to the degradation of woman hood society is polluted and from this unwanted progeny is produced.

Look around and observe our current promiscuous society from which many many twisted beings come into being. Try and understand a simple truth, “we are not these bodies.” Please I beg you to be part of the solution not remain the problem
just for name, fame, adoration and money.  Help us heal society.”

(If you are looking to email us, to lecture us, you are literally just wasting your own time and effort. Most dominatrix’s are pretty strong minded and independent, they will just simply laugh at this.)

Time Wasters Continued

“My life has been very stressful with having Barrett’s disease and ADHD and behavioural issues and I’m looking for a strict female disciplinarian to help me lose weight and get my life back on track, I’m also addicted to porn, please help me get my life back on track, I’ve also been feeling a lot of guilt lately please help!”

(As much as I am sorry and understand regarding you’re diseases affecting your quality of life. I am here to undertake sessions, not be a therapist.)

“Wondering if I had a lift and carry session with you if you didn’t mind wearing a leather especially a leather fringe jacket, leather fringe vest or a leather fringe biker jacket? Also if I had a lift and carry session with could you please throw me over your shoulder with my head against your back and my head and hands moving a mile a minute. I would like to look like I am drunk and you had to carry me out of a bar and toss me over your shoulder or fireman carry while wearing leather fringe.” 

(WTF, this just seems like you are rambling on about your fantasies, maybe playing with your todger, stop wasting my time?)

Can we organise a wrestling session please? I could fly to you?
Email, text or WhatsApp me?
Number is 078——–
Thanks
Alan
(I do not arrange sessions by the phone)

Provide your Dominatrix with the correct information

After your initial email containing, fetish interests, location, dates and time. Your next email based on the reply from your mistress should contain more detail. We need to know what your limits are, even if you are not exactly sure. For example, verbal humiliation may be something you would love to try, but small penis humiliation is going to far. You like the thought of a mild ball busting session, but certainly couldn’t stand a kick to the groin. Spanking, caning and whipping sound great, but no marks please. 

On my session contact form, I ask potential clients if they have any health conditions. If for example you have diabetes or high blood or a disability, mention this to your mistress. This information is vital to ensure your safety and the success of your first session. 

STEP 4: What to Expect

Several days prior to a scheduled session, I will send an email with my contact number and address for the session. I request that the client confirms that everything is okay for our planned booking. If I do not hear back to confirm, I will only assume that they are a “Time Waster”.

Some mistresses or dungeons may ask you to call them on session day to confirm. The majority of those who flake, won’t make the confirmation call or email. If you are serious, don’t skip this part.

Booking a Dominatrix Preparation

Hygiene is extremely important, you will most likely sweat during a session, especially if you are nervous. So, please wear deodorant, there is more of putting than someone turning up to session smelling of body odour. Your mistress will have gone to the effort to ensure she looks her best and wearing any requested outfits, (latex, pvc, leather). We expect good hygiene, shower, trim excessive body hair and nails, wear deodorant and minting breath is always a bonus. 

PLEASE NOTE : Some mistresses will request that you give yourself an enema if requesting, anal play or strapon.

Cancellations and Blacklists

Don’t book a session unless you truly believe you will go through with it. Cancelling a booked session last minute causes great inconvenience. We understand that sometimes emergencies come up and that people can become unwell. For those traveling domme’s however, who have flight and accommodation expenses to pay for. Unexpected last minute cancellations can greatly effect profit margins. If a trip (destination) is not deemed successful due to cancellations. Then, unfortunately that particular destination may be struck off, never to return. 

Some guys will be genuine and send through some sort of payment for the inconvenience caused. Please remember, many dominatrixes practice BDSM full time, this is their main source of income. Always show respect!

If for whatever reason you think you can’t make a session. Give as much notice as possible, allowing for someone else to take your place. People cancel, things happen, life goes on. We will appreciate the advance notice and that you didn’t waste our time.

If you ever try to book again there is a good chance that the mistress will except your booking. Cancel last minute or don’t turn up and your BLACKLISTED. We will also keep your email and phone number on file for future reference. Change your email and contact us again, we will know your session interests and most likely remember you being the guy who bailed. Some mistresses will go as far as to place your details on time waster lists. BTW, other mistresses check these lists periodically. 

Booking a Dominatrix (Session Time)

Every Dominatrix and dungeon are different, but usually a session goes like this. We will greet you and walk you into our room or dungeon. Once you have entered, make sure to pay upfront. There are so many stories on blacklists regarding men attending sessions and then at the end, “not having their wallet” and leaving for the ATM, never to return. So, always pay up front, most mistresses will not start the session until payment has been received. 

A short conversation proceeds to break the ice, confirm session requests and limits, before commencing the session. An experienced Dominatrix will know how to put you at ease. Once all the details of the session are confirmed, the session will commence.  

Do not show up intoxicated or on drugs for a session, we can always tell if someone has had a drink beforehand.  If you are under the influence, most girls will show you the door. If you have scheduled a heavy corporal punishment session, it is a well-known fact that some individuals take pain killers beforehand to help relieve the pain. However do not exceed the recommended amount .

Set Your Phone to Flight Mode

Keep your phone off during the session, unless you are on call or waiting for an important call. If you are, advise your dominatrix, so we know to let you take the phone call, should it ring. Phones ringing, or pinging with incoming messages during sessions are annoying, ruin the vibe and will piss off your mistress. 

During the duration of your session, your mistress will monitor body language, ask questions to see how you are reacting to the fetishes requested. By reading body language we can gauge if we can push your boundaries further. Some dominatrix’s, may explain to you what they are going to do to you, step by step in a first time sessions, to put you at ease. Don’t be afraid to speak up if your not enjoying something or the pain is just to intense.

How Do You Know Your Session Is Over?

You will know when a session is over, as we will simply stop the session. Sometimes we might save a certain activity for a finale. Some men will want to masturbate at the end of their session because the session itself is a form of “sex” to them. This is at the discretion of your mistress and her HARD LIMITS.

After your session, if you enjoyed your time. Email your mistress thanking her. We will be grateful to hear your kind words and appreciations. If you particularly enjoyed your session, you can always write us a nice review.

Booking a Dominatrix – Sara Lips

If you would like to book your first session with myself, you can be confident that you are in good hands. I have travelled the world domination men, catering for many fetishes. You can read more on the professionalism of my sessions on my testimonials page. Remember to check out my latest tours to see if I am coming to a city near you. For a full list of my fetish interests, head over to my london dominatrix page.