Everyone at some point in their life has felt unfounded humiliation, embarrassment, shame and degradation. Humiliation is part of life, cruel words, gestures and physical abuse can cause a significant blow to ones pride. But, for others its quite the opposite, the mere thought of being taunted, laughed at, kicked, whipped and verbally abused is an incredible turn on. This form of degradation is known as erotic humiliation.

What is Erotic Humiliation?

Erotic humiliation involves humiliating a person verbally or physically. It may involve activities such as insulting a partner, making a partner display their genitals or even urinating or defecating on a partner. Erotic humiliation is especially popular in the BDSM scene where a Mistress / Dominatrix typically humiliates the submissive partner.

Erotic Femdom

Its common practice in our open minded society, for men to intentionally book a BDSM session with a Mistress or Dominatrix who offers verbal (trash talking) and physical abuse. This type of erotic femdom can reveal itself in many fetish forms.

Bondage, Mixed Wrestling, Scissor Domination, Breast Smother, Verbal Abuse, CBT (cock and ball torture), Breath Play, Face Slapping, Face Sitting, Ass Worship, Ass Smothering, Forced Masterbation, Erotic BDSM, Small Penis Humiliation (SPH), Sensual Tie and Tease, Trampling, Spanking, Foot / Body Worship, Water Sports, Fantasy Roleplay.

All of the above are individual fetishes. Erotic humiliation may be incorporated into any singular or multiple fetishes by your partner, mistress or dominatrix. Men who book BDSM sessions with the emphasis on being dominated, long to be told what to do. They want nothing more than to give up complete control to their mistress.

“It’s not always about the physical abuse. It’s about the power exchange, the fear of being punished for not completing a task or forgetting to ask permission. That is the ultimate mind f*ck”.

Domination Sessions

During an erotic sadism session, a client may be subjected to physical abuse, for example during a ball busting session. Where the testicles and appendage are slapped, kicked. trampled and squeezed. Your mistress may use verbal abuse (erotic humiliation) in several forms to further degrade her client.

  1. Verbal abuse, trash talking and name calling
  2. Small penis humiliation (SPH) closely related to cuckolding
  3. Forced masterbation with orgasm denial
  4. Servitude to their mistress through, body, ass, foot worship.
  5. Financial domination (money slavery)

This  type of behaviour may seem strange and unorthodox, to voluntarily seek this type of humiliation. Men who employ the services of a professional dominatrix thrive on the sexual rush that is obtained during and for much time after their erotica sessions.

Fetish Escorts vs Dominatrix

Sexual arousal can be overwhelming during a femdom session, with many men employing the services of a fetish escort. Don’t fooled by fetish escorts who advertise wrestling, domination, humiliation and other fetish services. Escorts, primarily goal is to make you cum, then its onto the next client. Attempting to combine fetishes, erotic humiliation and sex will only end in a disappointing session.

Many professional dominatrixes have years of experience in their particular field (fetishes). Most do not offer SEX or GFE, but do allow sexual relief. However, check with your mistress to ensure that she offers this type of service prior to booking.

Booking a Erotic Humiliation Session

Interested in booking an erotic humiliation session with myself, please use my contact form. You can check out my latest tour dates on my dedicated tours page and on session girls. For a full list of all fetishes I offer, head over to my London Dominatrix page.

When i’m not travelling the world you can find me for most part in Centra London and the surrounding areas, to include : Paddington – Kensington – Westminster – Nottinghill – Hammersmith – Waterloo – Kingscross.

BDSM articles you might be interested in! Ball Busting Dominatrix and Ass Worship Escort.

Before you commence reading my latest article, I want you to ask yourself a question. Are you a breast or ass man? Maybe your conflicted, and love both. Would you hire the services of an ass worship escort? solely for the purpose of worshipping her exquisite ass.

Over the past few years travelling the world I have catered for many fetishes. Some men, generally submissive types, love nothing more than to worship their mistresses ass, body or feet. Men who have this type of fetish worship certain parts of a females anatomy. Usually the body part that causes the most arousal will be the centre of their admiration.

Ass Worship Definition

Ass worship is a type of worship for those with an ass fetish. It is also a submissive worship predominantly in a Sub relationship. Ass worship is performed by burying the face into the luscious ass cheeks of the female. The act of ass worship is generally performed with a thong or pants on, but the female may also be naked. There are several popular ass worship positions which I have listed below.

Ass Worship Positions

Against the wall : This is where the female stands close to a wall with her back arched and her ass pert. The male drops to his knees and pushes his face into the females ass cheeks worshipping her ass.

Face Sitting : The female can either squat down over the man face or rest on her knees while she leans back sitting on the mans face. This position is also called ass smothering due to the females rear cutting of the mans oxygen supply.

The Sandwich : As the name suggest, the female lies down onto the bed face down with her ass perked up into the air. The man then bury’s his face into the mistresses ass cheeks creating the filling for the sandwich.

The Prayer : One of my favourite, the female sits on a chair with most of her ass hanging off the chair. The man kneels down into a prayer position and leans forward placing his face deep into the females ass checks.

Ass Worship Escort

The practice of ass worship can cause serious sexual arousal to the male.  If you are looking for an extreme ass worship session where there are few limitations, it is important you discuss everything prior to booking to prevent any miscommunication. Some session girls will perform ass worship and face sitting, others not. Many girls will also have there own set of boundaries e.g as to whether they wear spandex, lingerie or perhaps nothing. All is dependent on the girl in question, so remember to to be respectful of boundaries guys!

Extreme Ass Worship

Some men require that extra level of depravity. They love nothing more than burying there head between a pair of naked ass cheeks, pressing their mouth tight up to the females sphincter. Men who love extreme ass worship thrive on sniffing, caressing and rimming the butt hole of the female.

This is defined as Analingus – aka rimming is an extreme form of ass worship where not only the ass but sphincter are worshipped. Men who request this type of ass worship session will spend a lengthy amount of time licking, tonguing and cleaning their mistresses asshole.

Some dominatrixes will offer this type of hardcore ass worshipping, but check before you book to avoid disappointment. You may be surprised to know that many females actually enjoy this type of oral, so your mistress or dominatrix may get sexually turned on by your efforts to worship her ass.

What Rimming Feels Like For a Women

Whilst searching the internet, for research on thoughts of Ass Worship, here is what one particular women had to say about it.”I really like it. There are a lot of nerve endings there, and people hold a lot of tension there too, and when the sphincter muscles relax it’s a whole level of relaxation and openness that I hardly ever get to feel. But also, it’s SO up-close and personal, with the giver’s face and tongue right there, it also gives me an unprecedented feeling of being accepted 100%. And that’s fabulous. I fucking loved it. So good”

Other search terms that are popular when searching for a mistress who offers ass worship sessions are (ass worship escort, face sitting mistress, ass worship dominatrix, domme escort, ass smothering). Then simply add you location to the search term to bring up the results, ie UK, London, Scotland.

Interested in booking an ass worship session with myself, please use my contact form. You can check out my latest tour dates on my tours page. For a full list of all fetishes I offer, head over to my London Dominatrix page. Please note that I am primarily a session girl and dominatrix, not escort and this article is write purely to help define better the ins and outs of ass worship.

Over the past few years touring the world as a session wrestler I have come across many fetishes. One that I am going to delve into more is “Ball Busting”. To me this particular fetish was one of the strangest, it has always been my belief through my adolescence years that any type of punching or kicking to the testicles or appendage caused excruciating pain and certainly was never requested as a sexual turn on. Now in the 21st century men will book a session with a ball busting dominatrix with the sole emphasis of having their genitalia tortured.

Ball Busting Dominatrix

Strange as it may seem to some, my chosen career path as a session wrestler / dominatrix has brought me to the conclusion that fetishes are normal. Everybody has them, male and female, it could something as simple as fantasising about the local female hockey team to the extreme of requesting that your genitals be trampled in six inch heels. In my own opinion no matter how mild or extreme the fetish may be, a fetish is still a fetish.

Ball Busting Torture Methods

If the mention of having your genitals trampled in six inch heels hasn’t brought a tear to your eye. Let me indulge you further as we delve deeper into the world of ball busting. Also referred to as CBT (cock and ball torture). There are many ways that a ball busting dominatrix may torture your cock and balls, trampling them is just one. Depending on the experience of your dominatrix and how daring your are, you could be subjected to any of the following ball busting torture methods. Slapping, punching, kneeing, kicking, stomping, squeezing, stretching, crushing, testical boxing, flicking, are all techniques that may be used by your dominatrix.

Ballbusting Torture Tools

We have elaborated above on the various methods of ball torture, but there are more. Not only are there ball bustin methods, but also tools to assist in torturing, these can include but not limited to. Elastic bands, candle wax, close pegs, clamps, high heels, chastity clamps, vice grips, needles and even nails. For some the thought is enough, let alone the reality, but for others ball busting is an exceptional sexual turn on. A pain, pleasure relationship, pulsating erections and premature ejaculation are not uncommon.

Cock and Ball Torture

Below are screenshots from a previous video, “Muscle Girl Testical Crush” that I filmed with Brian from FetLoving. If you want to see how extreme ball busting can be, I recommend checking out his website, Brian is hardcore. The images demonstrate one method of CBT, as you see I am using my feet, all 164lbs of me crushing Brian’s balls. 

Ballbustin a Favourite

With so many fetishes in today’s modern, open minded, anything goes world. Its understandable that a girl might have her favourites. Ball busting for some unknown reason that I can’t quite explain is one of my favs.  I think its the pain, I get a kick out of inflicting pain, yet in retrospect the receiver also enjoys experiencing the pain, so its a win win.  I will also admit that ball busting amuses me, the harder I punch, slap or kick the harder the erection. My victims of this diverse not fully understood fetsih get a huge rise, Literally! out of having me torture their cock and balls.

Booking a Ball Busting Dominatrix

If you are considering booking a ball busting session for the first time, then there are a few points you need to consider. How much experience does your dominatrix have in the relevant field of CBT. Does she actively advertise and practice the fetish ball busting. Do you want to be naked during the session as some mistresses will request that boxers be kept on during the session.

As there is an increased likelihood of sexual arousal happening during the session. Hand relief may be requested at the discretion of your dominatrix. Please note that most dominatrix’s / mistresses who offer the services of ball busting or CBT will request a deposit.

Be upfront about your experience, if any and limitations. I would advice if booking your first session not to sign up for an all out extreme ball busting session. Walk before you run!

Communicate effectively, there are a lot of time wasters who fantasise about CBT, but never actually go through with it. Make sure to mention, dates, times and that you are willing to pay a deposit.

Interested in booking a session with myself? Please use my contact form filling in as much information on the type of session, experience, references, dates and times. You can also check out my tour page for my latest destinations and dates. Further information on the services I offer can be found on my London Dominatrix page.

Today, I give an insight to the foot worship session. Fondling feet is certainly not something everybody enjoys. In fact some people are completely repulsed by feet. So, if a guy were to admit he enjoyed toe sucking, in front of a group of friends, he would most likely raise an eyebrow or two. This is because foot fetishes are rarely understood. Despite being one of the better-known and accepted fetishes.

I must admit, that I myself found it hard to get my head around how guys could become aroused by feet, when I first entered the foot fetish scene. Especially as I think my feet look horrible! That being said, I don’t think there is anything wrong about being attracted to feet. Often guys are asked if they are a boob or a bum man? Well some guys are just simply feet guys.

What is a foot worship session?

A foot worship session is a private real time session. Where the foot lover in question will have arranged with a foot model, mistress or perhaps even there other half, time to adorn and worship their feet. Sessions can involve a range of foot worship fun. Including tickling, nylon worship, massaging, kissing, sucking, rubbing, smelling or even foot domination.

Who books foot worship sessions?

Many names have been applied to men’s sexual love of feet. Wikipedia defines “foot fetishism, foot worship or podophillia as a pronounced sexual interest in feet.” Foot fetishism is also the most common form of sexual fetishism for otherwise non- sexual objects or body parts and is more prevalent in men than women. It is believed that Elvis Presley, pop artist Andy Warhol and adventurer Casanova had foot fetishes.

Booking a foot worship session

When booking or organizing a foot worship session. Most clients will want to discuss beforehand the visual and sensory element to their foot worship session. You can book a foot worship session with myself by using my contact form, please fill out as much information as you can in relation to how you envisage your session.

The Visual

Without fail. Every guy who books a foot worship session, will ask me what size my feet are, unless they have already seen my foot size elsewhere. It appears that the individual dimensions and features of the foot appear to be critical to the podophile.

I have had guys tell me they like small feet, large feet, medium-sized feet. Thin, wide, smooth, wrinkly and even veiny feet! Small toes, long toes, thin toes, wide toes. Even the size of the second toe relative to the big toe can be important to some.

foot worship session

Sara’s feet

The shape of the foot also appears to be very important. As, some guys prefer girls with high arches opposed to those who are more flat footed.

In relation to the visual, there can also be sub-dimensions to the foot fetish. This includes those who are really into footwear rather than the feet itself or those that like naked feet as apposed to footwear adornments. Clients will often request items to be worn during a foot worship session. Such as shoes, boots, socks (clean or dirty) and nylons. Many just prefer bare feet, however with bare feet, often guys will have a preference for or against certain nail polish colors, with those even preferring a natural nail.

The sensory

Discussing the sensory is also as important as the visual. Sensory elements can be anything from the smell to the touch of the foot.

Some guys like clean feet. While others prefer the feet to be smelly, perhaps even wearing old socks covered in dirt. If you prefer smelly feet it is maybe not the best idea to book your session first thing in the morning, but perhaps later in the day.

Preferences regarding the touch of the foot can also differ from client to client. Some like it rough while other like it soft and sensual. Those who like it rough will often ask for foot domination, incorporating elements of foot gagging, choking, smothering or trampling.

They often like the idea of you luring them in with your feet and then using them as killing implements on them. Those who prefer a softer foot worship session will often like more intimate interaction. This can involve massaging, touching, kissing, licking and sucking the feet and toes.

Why do I have a foot worship fetish?

Most psychological theorizing concerning both fetishes in general and foot fetishes, concern early childhood imprinting and conditioning experiences.

In her sexual encyclopaedia, Dr. Brenda Love states that in relation more specifically to foot fetishism that:

“There are many reasons feet are said to be arousing. Feet are often the first part of a mother or father, which a toddler touches. Likewise, parents often play with toddlers’ by pushing them with their feet or letting them ride one of their feet”.

I do not, however, believe this to be the case with foot fetishes. Often, I have heard stories from clients connecting their childhood experiences to their wrestling and lift carry fetish development. I have never however heard anyone connect there childhood to their foot fetish.

Below are theories that I feel best reflect those who have enjoyed a foot worship session with me.

The brain-overlap theory

Scientist, Vilayanur Ramachandran, conducted an intensive study into phantom limb syndrome. While doing so it lead to some surprising discoveries concerning foot fetishism.

He worked with amputees who reported feeling the sensations of having a foot, even pleasure and arousal, despite the amputation.

The sections of the brain, which are associated with feet, are positioned next to the sections in the brain associated with genitalia. Ramachandran’s studies concluded that those who are turned on by feet may be experiencing sexual stimulation, because the wires in their brain linked to the feet and the genitals have become mixed up.

Ramachandran, however, could not confirm that ‘crossed wires’ are responsible for the fetish in ALL foot lovers and his study does not explain why far more men than women appear develop a foot fetish.

I found this theory very interesting and think this could be why some guys who simply have no idea why they like feet, just do.

Vilanayar Ramachandran Phantom Limb – Skip to 14:06

The Pavlovian theory

In the 1960s researchers showed a group of men images of naked women alongside images of boots. Eventually, the men became aroused by the images of boots all by themselves. This experiment therefore suggested that our brains are capable of forming sexual associations around random objects even if no arousal impulse was there to begin with. It is therefore believed that if you are exposed to something repeatedly during times when you are sexually aroused, your brain might come to link that object with your sexual desire.

There is also some research showing people with higher sex drives are more likely to have uncommon sex interests. Dr Lehmiller believes this is because those with a super-charged sex drive will have found themselves in a state of arousal when sex with a partner isn’t possible. This means that because there is no one around to get busy with, super randy people may unwittingly redirect their sexual energy towards whatever is in the immediate vicinity.

The gross-out theory

Interestingly, another theory suggested that foot fetishes might have more to do with disgust. This is because when you are in a high state of sexual arousal, it is thought that your disgust impulse weakens. Meaning the things you would normally find repulsive e.g. feet, spit, faeces may not seem so gross anymore. It’s almost as if a heightened state of arousal changes your perception of them, making you engage sexually with objects that you might normally find off-putting.

Personally, I can see the relevance to this theory, as often men who have foot fetishes like the natural scent of feet. Many people in sessions will also often ask me to wear the oldest or sweatiest pair of gym shoes or socks I have. It is not uncommon to see mistress’s sell their old shoes online for a fee.

The Desire To Be Submissive

Washing, rubbing, and worshiping another person’s feet are a way of expressing your submission to someone and their dominance. It is as if they are above you, even their feet are better than you. During foot worship sessions, men will, through their own choice often want to be submissive to a woman’s feet, rub, touch, smell and lick her feet and toes. Foot worship is often used in BDSM as mistresses will often make their slaves lick and clean their boots.

foot worship session

Foot worship domination

Not all men who have foot fetishes however are submissive. There are dominants that have a foot fetish and there are many who have a foot fetish without having any interest in BDSM, so there are some flaws in this theory.

Summary

Many men, who have experienced a foot worship session with me, have expressed initial shame in their lives about having a foot fetish. Unfortunately this is common amongst those who share or practice any “non-standard” sex preferences such as a fetish or BDSM.

For many whom have foot fetishes, often they will wish they were “normal” and some may even try to deny it within themselves. Many guys do not tell their partner about their foot fetish, due in part to shame and/or to not wanting to risk alienating their partner.

Everybody has a fetish though, no matter how big or small it may be. If your fetish is not harmful to any other person, I see no reason as to why we should not try to embrace them.

I hope the above article on feet fetishes has shed some light as to why you may have a foot fetish, and if you have any personal thoughts you wish to share, I would encourage you to leave a comment below.

You might also be interested in some of my foot fetish videos available on Reality Girls and Feet Fighters. Titles : Muscle Girls Foot Mauling , Sara Lips Debuts.

 

Welcome to the new age, an age where women dominate men. The days of the down trodden weaker sex are a thing of the past. Over the last half century their has been a shift in the sexes. Women are taking a stand, realising their full potential, the scales have tipped, no longer favouring the male sex.

Through the innocent eyes of a child, mother is God!

Men had the advantage, because of their size and strength, but not anymore, more women are hitting the gym, lifting iron. Women are becoming stronger, maybe as the generations pass, women will become equally as strong as their counterparts. Men are naturally stronger due to their genetic make up, but some women who lift are incredibly strong.

An example of female strength from the European Powerlifting Federation, Cook Jodie 52kg from Great Britain lifted 130kg Squat, 70 kg Bench Press, 152.5kg Deadlift, equipment free and drug free.

I read a recent comment on social media where a female stated that she was afraid of becoming stronger than her boyfriend. Not only are women becoming stronger, but also more dominant in their relationships and in the bedroom. Women dominate men, making the man serve and obey them.

Love strong dominant women

Many men love to feel the power of these dominant alpha females, so much so, that they become icons, role models, amazonian goddesses. In the domination world, the term mistresses is commonly used to describe these women.

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Sara dominates Jay

Dominatrix is the feminine form of the Latin dominator, a ruler or lord, used in a non-sexual sense. Its earliest recorded use in the modern sense, as a female dominant dates to 1967. It was initially coined to describe a woman who provides punishment for payment.

Are you a Dom, Sub or Switch

You might already know the answer to the question, but if you are unsure, ask yourself this. How do you portray yourself in life, relationships and of course the bedroom. Now take a look at the definitions below.

  • Dominant : having power and influence over others
  • Submissive : ready to conform to the authority or will of others
  • Switch : Plays the role of both the submissive and dom

Sometimes its not as simple as choosing one preference. You might be dominant in your job, but submissive in the bedroom or vice versa. So it not always to say that the your choice of preference is the way that you can act in life. For many the presence of an alter ego, a person that people create within themselves to cope with the world that surrounds them. In reality there may only be fleeting moments when a person can truly be themselves.

Women dominate men

As I mentioned earlier, men love strong dominant women, so it stands to reason that this passion for alpha females would turn sexual. Femdome the term used where the women dominates sexual interaction with her mate. This includes, but not restricted to,

  • Humiliation of the sub
  • Penetration of the sub
  • Bondage of the sub

Below are some of the services offered by a dominatrix

  • Body Worship
  • Foot Worship
  • Chasity Control
  • Strapon Play
  • Bondage
  • Breath Play
  • Cock and Ball Torture
  • Humiliation
  • Sissy Training
  • Hard Sports
  • Roleplay
  • Water Sports
  • Wax Play
  • Wrestling
  • Humiliation
  • Interrogations
  • Medical Play
  • Face Sitting
  • Trampling
  • Feminisation
  • Corporal Punishment

Why do men visit a dominatrix?

There are varied reasons, some men stated that for them it started from an early age, self harm, sexual abuse or corporal punishment from a parent or relative. Others have simply wanted to experience news heights sexually.

Quote, my first experience with a dominatrix, (Mark A)

“My first marriage was completely vanilla. When we separated I finally went to see a Dominatrix that I found online. She tied me to a chair and beat me so hard the bruises lasted a fortnight. At first I was too shocked and horrified to enjoy it, but by the end I was surfing a huge wave of pain and endorphins and I floated out of her apartment”.

The alpha female

  • She is pro – women
  • Cultivates a life she enjoys
  • She makes her move
  • Never puts herself down
  • Desires a partner not a boyfriend
  • Calls people out when they have done wrong
  • Knows when to walk away
  • Doesn’t compete for attention
  • Invests in herself and her future
  • May be intimidating to others, but lives her life regardless

Do you fantasies about spending time with a dominatrix. Do your research, once you have plucked the courage to email, be polite and detailed, mention dates, times and of course paying a deposit to show that you are genuine will help to confirm you are not a time waster.

Every dominatrix will have her limitations on what she offers, do not try to push the boundaries, remember you will be at their mercy during the session, be respectful.

Do I offer Domination sessions?

Yes, please see my profile, London dominatrix. I am also featured on professional mistresses where you can see a full list of services I offer. When inquiring for a session, please give much information as possible. Contact Mistress Sara

Women scissoring men, I like to compare to the act of an Anaconda slowing attacking it’s pray. Slowly enticing her victim’s body in deep between her thighs. Soon she will begin to trap her victim’s body between them, by tightening her clenched adductor muscles.

It will only then be a matter of time before, her pray will realize there is no room for escape! Only a slow malicious act will follow. As, she slowly begins to apply pressure, squeezing the victim’s body in question as if she is trying to strangle him, making it hard for him to breathe and further escape.

Mixed wrestling scissoring variations

Some of the most popular types of scissoring practiced are front head scissors, body scissors, reverse head scissors, and variations of the figure four position.

Often the first time many men have witnessed scissoring has been in the infamous Xenia Onatopp scene, in the James Bond movie Golden Eye. I have lost count of the amount of men, who would like to reenact this famous scene from the movies!

In the James bond movies, strong dominant but feminine females may I add, play a key role in the blockbusters and certainly do not shy away from the action either. Other confrontational scenes include the gypsy catfight in From Russia with Love and another scissor scene this time from Bambi and Thumper in Diamonds are Forever.

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Girl head scissors

Women scissoring men and wrestling in the movies, has therefore been mainstream for a while. However maybe not have received the recognition it should have until now.

The sexual fetish scissoring

Mixed wrestling scissors make up a large category of pins in wrestling that are typically unused but popular among those that enjoy the sexually submissive element of grappling.

Why do men become aroused at the thought of being scissored between a women’s thighs? Well, it is thought that the act of squeezing itself can produce a sexual response on behalf of the receiver through feeling of helplessness, admiration or strength and complete submission toward the women scissoring them.

While it is possible for both men and women to enjoy scissor holds, it is typically the case that men are more on the receiving end than women. Perhaps, due to the higher percentage of submissive men thought to be within the BDSM scene. There is no reason however, that the scissor submission can’t be administered by a male to a female.

Revere head scissor

The position of the scissoring holds can vary depending on the desire of the person receiving them. While the scissor is typically practiced around the neck region, holds around the entire body of the submissive individual are not uncommon. Another very common scissor position is the reverse head scissor.

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Reverse head scissors

All holds are usually administered with the receiver on their back and the giver on top of them.

In sessions, I have even had smaller guys ask me to scissor there body, to include their arms trapped by their side. This completely paralyzes the receiver, forever trapped within my body scissor hold.

Some receivers do seem to like to struggle while they are being held to help amplify their feeling of helplessness. It is funny to watch how hard it is for a guy to escape, from between my thighs during sessions. In fact, after putting all one’s strength into attempting to escape, a recurring pattern of one becoming extremely still seems to appear. The feeling of dismay as one gives up, letting me demonstrate how easy it is for me to keep them under my control.

I just love big muscular thighs

Muscle worship is also a common fetish associated with women scissoring men. Those who enjoy being at the receiving end of submission may find a lot of sexual pleasure through the admiration of strong dominant individuals. Due to the size and nature of the leg muscles, scissor holds can be incredibly difficult for individuals to break out of and the ultimate way to experience a leg fetish if you may have one!

Two types of Guy who adore scissoring sessions:

  • The Pain Junkie
  • Trapped Tony

The first guy is the kind of session guy, who will drain every last bit of energy out of you! Sessioning with Pain Junkies certainly makes for a good leg workout, as you will often find the harder you squeeze they will want MORE. It can be particularly frustrating if the guy doesn’t tap, obviously because he likes pain. However, what does this mean? Session girls will only crank it up until he does! Everybody must leave having tapped (evil grins).

Trapped Tony, is a completely different kind of session guy, he rather prefers a softer scissor session. He is a not a pain junkie and certainly does not like sharp snap scissoring. But instead, prefers if you keep him hanging around. I believe the reason these guys like a softer session is because they prefer the feeling of being trapped and a sheer loss of control, where the women can demonstrate who has the upper hand, but does not necessarily have to use her full power to do so.

It is usually also a more playful kind of style. Either that or these guys just simply want to keep their heads and ribs alive and functioning between my lethal thighs.

Why do men love scissoring?

A while ago, I did a poll on “why men love the feeling of women scissoring men?” The results where pretty close with 45% of guys saying they liked the power/strength aspect best. 38% liking the loss of control and lastly 17% having a leg fetish. Of course some guys said they liked all three. Greedy!
Here is what some guys had to say in response to my women scissoring men poll on twitter.

Manolo Enrique : Love being scissored…incredible how powerful these ladies are, especially when your trapped between their thighs.

Ben Moore : Being Absolutely dominated by someone very feminine. Definitely all three for me as its hard to separate.

Wrestler Dave : No longer being in control and being at a women’s mercy.

Eric Grappler : I love how a woman’s thighs feel on the sides of my neck, not a painful triangle choke, more of a playful trap and squeeze.

Mikey Wrestler : The feeling of slowly being squeezed into unconsciousness by a strong woman.

John Sloss : The thought of someone sexy and powerful like you in control with your beautiful legs and toned muscular body.

Thank you guys for reading this post, I hope you liked being able to get an insight as to why other guys love scissoring. If you would like to experience a private scissor session with me, please check out my tour page to see if I am coming to a city near you.

There are many forms of fetishes, some more extreme than others. One things for sure everyone has a fetish of some sort, even if you are unaware of it. In 2016, the U.K. passed a law restricting a number of pornography fetish categories, face sitting being one!

Face sitting is a kink that’s not nearly as well known as it should be. For instance as this news escalated, it became clear that many people were confused as to what, exactly, face-sitting is. Despite its straight forward name!

What is a fetish?

The plural noun of fetish represents a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, body part. A sexual fixation, obsession or compulsion.

Face Sitting and other Popular Fetishes

There are hundreds of fetishes, some of which include, ball busting, wrestling, strapon, water sports, scat,  beat downs, lift carry, scissoring, female domination, muscle / body worship, foot fetish, face sitting and ass smothering are all popular kinks. Some fetishes can be deemed as non sexual, others have a high tendency to cause sexual arousal, face sitting and ass smothering are two in particular that can cause sexual arousal.

Some fetishes, can therefore fall into the realm of both worlds, sexual and non sexual. Face sitting is just one such example. A mistress or dominatrix will use the fetish face sitting or ass smothering to represent female superiority / domination / a top dog position.

“Face sitting is the most humiliating, belittling and dominating position a women can put a man in, but on the flip side, such a turn on”. Past femdom session.

Face sitting or Ass smothering

Facesitting, is often also known as queening or kinging. Jay Wiseman’s “Erotic Bondage Handbook,” defines it as “sitting or squatting over the face so that the anal (sphincter) or genital area is pressed against the mans face.” She says “It has the implication of forced oral and can incorporate breath play control and smothering. The experience can be heightened by the dominatrix / mistress trash talking to the submissive while sitting on his face.”

Face Sitting Clothing Requests

Over the years I have had many clothing requests for face sitting sessions. Thongs, panties, denim, gym leggings, spandex, pvc, leather, lingerie and string bikinis are all popular. Face sitting position is another important factor e.g forward vs reverse vs the hoover position where the female squats over the mans face. Some men request that their arms be locked using your feet or rope, completely immobilising them.

Face Smothering – Breathe Play

Full pressure face sitting can also be referred to as Face Smother or Ass Smothering. The two are very similar in nature, however with face smothering the individual is deprived of oxygen. Such an effect can induce a semi-hallucinogenic state. Combine this with an orgasm, is said to be the equivalent to cocaine.

A 2005 book chapter by Dr Brenda Love (in Russ Kick’s Everything You Know About Sex is Wrong) examined some of the strangest sexual behaviours from around the world and included a short section on queening (face sitting).

She wrote:

“The term queening refers to the European practice of a dominant female (dominatrix) using a man’s head as her throne. The woman sits in one of several positions, either on the side of the man’s head or so that his nose is near her anus with his eyes covered by her genitals. The object of queening is bondage or breath control, not cunnilingus”.

Why Men Love Face sitting?

Relating to my own own personal experiences, and having spoken with guys who adore the fetish face sitting. I believe for many it is the aspect of control many men enjoy with face sitting. The feeling of humiliation, body worship and intimacy, sex odours with the inability to control your breathing causes a heightened sexual arousal. Many men seem to love the verbal trash talking element to face sitting, the feeling of being at the complete mercy of their mistress.

Death by Face Smother

During a face smothering, strangely, what seems to happen is a sense of calm, no noise, not even a stir, Just me, one hundred and fifty six pound of me, sitting on their face. Sometimes, I quietly think to myself, are are they okay? still not a sound.

What follows after the calm however is a sheer sense of panic! Their body thrashes uncontrollably as they try to gasp for air. Feelings of helplessness, panic, despair, arousal and thoughts of death rush through there head. Please, please, I don’t want to die.

I have ask myself this question several times. How can being this close to DEATH bring about such feelings of euphoria and sexual arousal. Is it the fleeting glimpse of death that accentuates the sexual arousal.

Autassassinophilia Death Fetish

Autassassinophilia is a paraphilia in which a person is sexually aroused by the risk of being killed. The fetish may overlap with some other fetishes that risk one’s life, such as those involving drowning or choking. This does not necessarily mean the person must actually be in a life-threatening situation, for many are aroused from dreams and fantasies of such.

Fetishes, How They Evolve?

Life events, especially in our early childhood years, seem to have a significant impact on our lives. Over the years I have questioned clients as to how their fetish or fetishes evolved. Many have reminisced of an  earlier childhood experience with a female not necessarily of the same age.

To quote a previous clients first hand experience of how his face sitting fetish evolved.

“I was playing with my older female cousin who was 14 years old at the time. My interested in girls had significantly increased since I hit puberty. I remember one day in particular, my cousin was wearing a short skirt and tight top. At times we would play wrestle to see who was the strongest, on this occasion out of knowhere she flipped me onto my back and sat on my face.

Part of me was in shock, yet incredibly aroused. I could feel the soft skin of her bum and panties touching my face and mouth. Her bum engulfed my face cutting off my air supply and I couldn’t see a thing. I remember the feeling of helplessness, lack of oxygen and her sweet scent”.

I have thought about my first face sitting experience with my cousin countless times, Ever since then, face sitting, ass smothering and ass worship have been my all time favourite fetishes.

Booking a Face Smothering Session

Other popular search terms if you are looking to book the services of a face sitting dominatrix are. Ass Worship, Face Sitting Mistress, Face Smothering, Female Face Sitting, Ass Smothering Dominatrix, Face Sitting Escorts.

Interested in booking a face sitting or ass smothering session with myself, please fill in my contact form with as much detail as possible. You can check out my latest tour dates on my tours page, you might also be interested in an earlier article I wrote “Ass Worship Escort”.

Areas I cover, but not limited to : London, UK, Manchester, Glasgow, Edinburgh, Milton Keynes, Birmingham and of course worldwide.

 

Being healthy selfish is a very important topic for all you naturally submissive/givers of the world. The word selfish is often associated with being self-centered, out for yourself, arrogant etc. Healthy selfish however, is more about setting boundaries with yourself and others, so don’t worry you will still be a nice person!

It is about making sure that your “cup” is being filled, and when it starts to run low, you have the ability to recognize it and refill it up.

Making time for yourself

I always pride myself in responding to any emails received as fast as I can, with a personal touch and keen interest. This winter however, I have been touring more than usual, meaning more emails and room for potential time wasters… As a result of a busier schedule, I have had less time for myself, training and inevitably have become run down & unwell with the cold. (Boohoo!)

This has caused me to reassess things. Tours will be planned in advance, with sufficient recovery breaks in between and not be so harsh on myself with correspondence. My aim will be to reply to all emails within 24hours, or by the end of the following day. Rather than replying at various points throughout the day.

I also have to make a “no favors” rule for anyone, as I have learnt, it seems, the more you give the more you get let down and it is only fair everyone is treated equally, right?

If you are the type of person that can easily say “no” to others with a healthy motivation behind it, congrats! However you’re thinking if only it was that easy and often find yourself more often than not wanting to make others happy and as a result feel emotionally overwhelmed and/or drained, you might just need a quick lesson in healthy selfish.

As I mentioned earlier we often hear the word “selfish” and automatically equate it with unpleasant behavior. The word itself has a per-existing negative connotation because the definition of selfish is as follows: chiefly concerned with one’s own interest.

You may be asking, why am I promoting this displeasing behavior?

How to be Healthy Selfish

There are some distinguishing qualities that separate someone from being “selfish” vs “healthy selfish”

– Motivation
– Confidence
– Consequences.

Let’s revisit the cup analogy. Imagine a nice full cup, I personally like to imagine that mine is full of a warm cup of breakfast tea, but pick whatever fluid best fits you.

selfishNow because you’re such a kind soul, you enjoy sharing your tea…or what have you. You offer it up to your friends when they need comforting, your lover when they have needs, your children because someone has to take care of them, your boss when they don’t want to do their own job. Basically everyone is taking turns sipping at your cup, and when you have all of that to give, it’s super!!

Sometimes you have to say, enough is enough!

Now let’s say your significant other, boss or friends aren’t sipping from the cup, but rather taking shots from it as if they are on a bender at a nightclub. You find yourself in an uncomfortable position. Not wanting to rock the boat, or hurt anyone’s feelings so you allow them to keep taking. You find your cup is now very low. You’re exhausted, maybe you feel like a failure, maybe your angry and slightly resentful.

Don’t these people realize you are doing everything you can to quench their never-ending thirst?! No, not necessarily and sadly most people don’t realize this. Some people just downright don’t give a shit and will happily take advantage of your cup, and they’ll blame you when it’s empty. They are, dare we say *gasp* selfish?! Some of them, yes, but the worst reality is that they are right.

Why? Because, it’s your responsibility to tell people when you’re running low and don’t have much to give.

Time to be my kind of Selfish

The exciting part is you don’t have to be an asshole about it. You can simply say “no,” “not right now,” “unfortunately I can’t,” “I need some time for myself,” as well as a long list of other options. I was and still have the tendency to be a people pleaser, but I found the more people took, the less happy I was.
It is vital to be aware of the toxic people in your life. I’m not saying everyone is bad. Some are unaware, some have no idea that they are taking. People unfortunately, will prey on your kindness, like it’s a sport. This is a very disheartening experience.

Many clients who meet me as submissive and it often makes me wander if they find themselves hurt because they expect others to be nice, a little appreciative… etc. Having the expectation that someone will be nice to you in return, or be there for you is a set up. Not only to them, but also to yourself.

What I give, I expect to receive

I’m not saying don’t expect anything from anyone, but understand that kindness is a good deed, but reciprocation of a good deed makes it a job. Expect nothing from anyone. For when you receive something in return you will then be pleasantly surprised.

So what can we take away from healthy selfish?! It’s OK to say NO. The more you take time to fill up your own cup the more time you can give to others. When that cup is low, the quality of what you have to give will not be at it’s finest or coming from the best place. Don’t give all of yourself and then become disappointed or upset when it’s not returned. Learn how to set boundaries with people, and avoid being a doormat.

It’s incredibly empowering and this awareness and ability can change your relationships. Good and bad, will also make you feel more confident and help bring more positive people into your life.

A strong woman can often come off as intimidating. She knows what she wants in life and is on a mission to get it. Most likely she works hard, is independent, and doesn’t need a relationship to define her! While she might not need a relationship to make her happy, you should not confuse this with her not wanting one and this is where my cue comes in to help you guys understand what makes a strong women intimidating to man.

Recently I had a guy contact me asking advice regarding a girl he is really interested, he is very shy, felt that he is slightly out of his depth and did not know how to approach her about a date. Even worse he is a fan of lift and carry, something which we all know as a rule of thumb is generally a DEFINITE secret in the early days of dating unless the lady in question is pretty open minded to new things.

Strong woman still crave connection and wants someone to love and spend time with. Remember this, so if you are on the prowl for strong women, in the early days of dating or perhaps married to one, here are a few pointers I thought might be useful to remember:

Strong Woman are…

Distant at First

A strong woman may have walls built up that take time to break down. She knows how to protect herself, so know that trust might be a longer process than you’d like. A strong woman can also be afraid of being hurt. If she’s keeping you at a distance, that’s why. Once she feels that she can fully trust you, you might see a whole other, softer side to her. A strong woman may also feel conflicted about wanting to need you at first. Give her time to work through it. It might not be that she isn’t interested after all!

Independent

A strong woman is usually self-sufficient. Expect her to want to take control every once in a while and handle situations on her own. We know how to take care of ourselves. She will love having you around, but don’t get offended if she doesn’t need or want your help. We can be stubborn, remember this!

Open Minded

A strong woman is often creative and can have an open mind to new ideas or conversations. It is important to therefore mix things up a bit as dinner at the same restaurant every weekend probably won’t interest her for long. Try to be creative with your ideas for things to do.

Responsible

Strong woman accept responsibility, and will expect you to do the same. FACT. Excuses aren’t an option. We are usually also very comfortable in asking for what we want, so expect an open and often direct line of communication, with a little sugar-coating thrown in every once in a while when needed. Its not attitude, it’s just called a no bull shit approach to life…

Focused

Strong woman know what they want, and is most likely on a mission to get it. Goals are important to them. Strong women will therefore most likely expect you to have them also. They’ll want to know what your ambitions are, and how you’re going to work to achieve them.

Loners

We love being with you, but we also need time alone time! This is to relax and recharge, so try to understand when we want a night alone. This is the one you guys usually can’t get their head around, especially if in the early days of dating.

Fighters

Yes we have some fight in us! So, when the going gets tough, don’t expect us to throw the towel in straight away. Not being afraid of conflict, this also means we will not always be willing to agree with things you say even if it is over something stupid! This creates passion between people, however as if we all agreed on everything ALL of the time, even simple things such as what to watch on TV or where to go for coffee life would be pretty boring!

Real

A strong woman might come off as intimidating at first, but just like everyone else, she has insecurities and vulnerabilities. Don’t think that her strength means that she doesn’t have feelings too.